guys help me... girls tell me how u got over ur first love and how to deal with it.?

Question

please help me or tell what is going on from your point of view
if ur the type of guy who:
-lies to get his way or to keep his girlfriend
-handsome and gets a ton of women
-are sweet to your woman (at some points)
will not let her go if she says "its over"
-denies everything she hears such as rumors that you have had cheated
or other things even if true.

please tell me how to handle my problem.

i have been dating this man for over a year now (on and off)
he is quite handsome; but can be real stubborn and a pain in the a**
i have heard from his ex girlfriend that hes cheating on her with me.
but i cant tell for sure. i have been hearing that he has been talking to one of his former girlfriends.. he is constantly yelling at me, hanging up on me, everytime i ask if something i heard is true he becomes all defensive and says its bull sh i t or other profanity.
i am deeple in love with him and can get over him...
should i leave him? please tell me this honestly

sometimes ignores my calls.

never calls me...

is he up to something?? please please help me

Answer 1

So why are you with him? Don't you know that it does matter how people treat you?

Answer 2

Of course you should leave. You dont need that in a relationship. Relationships are suppose to make you happy most of the time, not crazy.

If he is getting defensive about cheating, most likely he is. If you dont stand up for yourself and show him your not playing, he wont take you serious.

Why stay in a relationship where you always have to guess what the other person is doing or thinking. There should be mutual respect and communication, which he is not giving you.

Because he is good looking does not give him the right to be an as* or a cheater or a liar.

There are plenty of men out there who are nice, sweet, commutative and handsome. Look for him. It might hurt at first, but after a while you will realize it is what is best for you.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Sounds like something that happened to me. Best advise is to leave him. Judging by your photo you are quite attractive should have no problem finding another guy that will treat you better. For me, the lying and cheating just won't cut it. I have experienced that with a woman recently. Faithfulness, sincereity and communication are very important. If you are connent to share the guys time with possible other women, then so be it. But expect the inconsistencies that go with it. If not, look for brighter things in life.

Answer 4

Well it sounds like to me that he is a bit controlling and thinks he can do no wrong and is so stuck up that he gets angry when questioned about his activities. There should be no secrets in a relationship and rumors usually come from incidents that look or appear to be true. If he gets that angry that easily and ignores your calls then he expects you to wait on him hand and foot and I am sure that you are better then that. He may have the looks but is he the total package. I wont tell you to dump him but you do have a future and I just can't see him in the final chapter

Answer 5

Just your description tells me that he is doing something behind your back. If he knows you'll always be there for him, he'll use that to his advantage. Break it off now! yes it will be a heartache, but you will definitely be glad you did it. Don't be the person people will laugh at when they hear your name. Quit waiting for prince charming to come rescue you, put your feet down and tell him straight up that he ain't worth it. If he yells at you, he aint worth it. You only live once, so make it a fun life.

Answer 6

I would, but if you do not think so, maybe you should have him prove to you that he is faithful to you and only you, and that there is no other girl for him, and if he asks how tell him it will come to him on how to prove that he has not been with no one but you, but its really your choice to be with him and put up with that life style personally I would leave him and make sure he knows it is over and move on with your life. If he has issues with it, tell him to get over it and find some help. Good Luck!

Answer 7

There are both men and women who behave like this. They behave like this because others allow them to. YOU have control of the situation. Sometimes you feel like there is no one else in the world but that person. Not true! There are millions of fish in the sea. I really think you need to think about moving on. Not everyone is like that. Hope this helps.

Answer 8

okY LOOK IM GOING TO TELL YOU THIS BECAUSE IVE SEEN MANY GIRL I KNOW DEAL WITH THIS PROBLEM. LET HIM GO HE REALLY DOESNT CARE TO MUCH ABOUT YOU AND ITS BEST IF YOU LEAVE BEFORE YOUR HEART GETS BROKEN TOO MUCH. I KNOW ITLL BE HARD BUT REMEMBER THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE JUST WAITING FOR YOU AND THE LONGER YOU STAY ATTACHED TO THIS A** HOLE THEN THE MORE THE CHANCE THAT THE GUY YOU NEED IS ESCAPING FROM YOU

Answer 9

Yes he's up to no good and it takes time but make up your mind, make your move and stick to it. You'll see in the long run that you did the right thing. Just stick to what you believe and let that be yourself. Believe in your self. You deserve better.

Answer 10

you know what you gotta do as much as it sucks LEAVE HIM for good! dont go back to him and if you hear things and he gets mad then hes probably cheating! and just doesnt want you nagging at him! anyways leave him! dont go back to him no matter what he tells you move on find yourself someone who really loves you and not some guy who wants to play kids games and have you hanging around for whenever he wants you back...

Answer 11

this guy is not worth your time no matter how many things you love about him the bad seems to outweigh the good. there's no use get rid of him don't let him back in.