A cute guy who was very interested on me seems to have given up cause he found I had been married?

Question

I found out a cute guy who was very interested on me seems to have given up on when he found out I had been married before?
I had taken it for granted that this kind of prejudice would no longer exist and when I used to be single and would go out with separated/divorced friends they would actually get more masculine attention than us, the single ones.
When single i used to suffer prejudice for being virgin and too "righteous" and guys would not like it. So they dont like women with previous experience either? Should I wait for more of this kind of behavior or is it more likely to have been an isolated case (that particular guy problem with women who have been married already?)

Answer 1

Could be he's insecure since you loved someone else so much that you married him, and maybe he's worried that you'll always have some lingering feelings for the ex... especially if your ex lives in town, or if you have children (if you get serious, at some point he will have to "deal" with your ex...) Or if the guy is looking for the "righteous" type, it may bother him that you made vows once to somebody else, and for whatever reason, those vows are no longer being honored. Every guy I've seriously dated since my divorce has at some point been insecure about my ex, who is my son's father and lives in town. Those are just some possible reasons. Good luck to you and remember you can't depend on anyone else to make you happy!

Answer 2

Some men just don't like the fact that the female they carry an interest in was married before. There are several accounts where the prejudice doesn't come from the male, but the female carries the problems of her last marriage to the new man. It's like with past relationships. If you were cheated on, there may be a time that you think the next guy is cheating on you even though there is no proof that he is. I've been in several relationships that the female was so intent that I was doing the same thing their ex was doing when in fact I was not. It's really hard to maintain a relationship when your significant other feels they cannot trust you for something someone else has done to them.

Answer 3

I'm glad you found out now. It just shows how closed-minded he really is. you'd swear being married before was a disease or something. It's 2006 not 1946, some need to get over it. Don't worry, most men aren't like that. I feel it was an isolated case. Don't let it get to you.

Answer 4

I wouldn't worry about it because yes it is a isolated case. There are so many people divorced today and looking for new relationships that it is hard to find someone that wasn't already in some type of sexual relationship. If he is basing his qualities on that then he has his own issues. I wouldn't let it bother you and keep on your quest for your true man

Answer 5

Isolated case. I recently dated a woman who had been married 3 times. Sometimes you just end up with jerks who want an "untouched" woman. He may be cute, but he's a loser.

Answer 6

Probably an isolated or rare case. Wouldn't worry about it myself. Too many fish in the sea more worthy

Answer 7

Some people just don't want to deal with the baggage. Maybe he was in a bad situation once and felt it best to move on. I'm sure you'll find someone else.

Answer 8

There is nothing wrong with being married before ..but maybe he has been hurt by someone who has been married before..Just ask him don't be shy ..You may be way off base and don't even know it...Talk to him and find out

Answer 9

Some men consider divorced women "damaged goods".

Answer 10

I am surprised that a guy would care. maybe if you were still married but not if your divorced