I kinda discussed things with my older sis about my ups and downs that I was going through with my one true love. Now we've worked things out. But she still doesn't like him. But my mom and other relatives like him and enjoy his sence of humor. My sis doesn't understand when he is kidding around. I didn't either at first then I got it that he likes to kid alot. He disscused things with his buddies too before. Since my sis lives out of state she doesn't know all the wonderful qualities he has. How can I convince her that he is not the bad person she thinks he is. Should I tell her about all the nice things he has done for me? Have I tainted a bad picture about him to her? I want all my family and friends to like him. He is the best things that has ever happned to me. He is my world. I would be lost without him. He has many good qualities. If I tell her the good things about him would she change her mind?
2006-11-07 03:42:18 · 10 answers · asked by cluelesschickus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You won't really be able to convince her, she'll have to see for herself that he's a good guy. I mean all you can tell her is how great he treats you or tell her about the wonderful things she does for you, but she'll still have her own opinion of him. I know its hard and you want everyone in your family to like him, but the truth is you can't please everyone all the time. Do what makes you happy and if you're comfortable with him and love him, then be happy with that. No one else has to live with him but you.
2006-11-07 03:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your really not going to be able to convince her that he is a good guy but i would stop telling her all the bad you go through with him it does tend to paint a bad picture and people talk more when they are upset then happy so you probably have painted the picture for her. I wouldn't worry about to much and don't try to push the issue eventually she will see he is good and maybe she won't but he's who you choose so she'll have to accept that. I think eventually if you stop telling her all the bad that she will see him as a truly good guy with time.
2006-11-07 11:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by anon a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possibly, but she is so fixadded on the negatives cause that is all you told her, you can now tell her you both have worked it out together and explain why he is so special to you, hopefully the picture will be painted in a diffrent way, but she will always have that negative thinking about him always cause he has hurt her sis, nothing can change that but re-assure her that you both worked it out, and previouse to what ever happened tell her what he was like and how he is like now. Good Luck!
2006-11-07 11:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would stop telling my business to her. And second there is nothing that you can do. She is going to have her own opinions no matter what you say. If he wants to convince her then more power to him. Maybe next time she comes to visit the family you can have him over for dinner and he can lay on the charm.
2006-11-07 11:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she will change her mind until she is around him for a while and really gets to know him like you and your family. It is isn't the end of the world since you like him and your local family memebers like him. The real thing is that you like him and that should be suffice
2006-11-07 11:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will come to realize it in their own time. You can't force them to accept him, then the feelings won't be genuine. I know what you are going through. My parents like my husband, they just don't like us together. But they have come to love him little by little. It hasn't been easy, but they are getting there. Don't worry, as long as you know he is truly a good guy, your family will realize it one day. Just be patient.
2006-11-07 11:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't convince them, so don't try. If he is nice to you and good to you, they will eventually like him. Don't waste ur energy on it. If you need your family's approval on your guys, you will never have a relationship until they are all dead.
2006-11-07 11:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by Kelli T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres always someone in the family that will not like your other half but hey thats life let your sister think what she will....and tell her if you havent met him then you cant judge him if she still does then just blow it off! i mean who cares what your sister thinks or feels towards him your the one that really knows how he is!!!
2006-11-07 11:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about her and just be happy with him. she'll either come around of her own accord or she won't at all. it will just take time for her to see him the way you do.
2006-11-07 11:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might. Sure tell her the good things he does too.
2006-11-07 11:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by lucy02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋