My boyfriend broke-up with me 8 months ago and the wound is still fresh. He had stopped talking to me since we broke-up and after 7 months, he started calling everyday. We would have 5-10 minutes conversations. I would go see him at work and he would kiss me good-bye. Last Thursday he told me he loved me before we hung up. My heart stopped. I thought maybe we still had a shot. Then Sunday he called me for a ride. The thing his he was at a "friends" house, obviously a woman. Why would he ask me to pick him up from a woman's house? Here's the other problem, since we broke-up he's been living with another woman. Is he just playing games? Is he confused? Does he still love me? He just confused me. When I confronted him yesterday, he said he was just going to stop calling me all together. Sadly I begged for him not to take that away from me, seeing that he had already taken himself away from me. He said he would call on occassion to see if I o.k. What do I do now?
2006-11-07 03:38:48 · 17 answers · asked by AngelLuv 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We were together for 4 years and were planning on getting married when he decided he didn't want to be with me. He told me that he dumped me because I wasn't ready to get married. I don't think anyone is 100% sure of marriage, it's just a risk that you have to be willing to take. What is going on?
2006-11-07 03:41:48 · update #1
This is the messed up part, I already have a boyfriend. He is great, but I still love my ex with all my heart.
2006-11-07 03:43:09 · update #2
Do you really want to continue being a doormat? Of course you don't. Stop talking to him - sure it hurts but as your self-respect grows you'll find a guy that will treat you well.
2006-11-07 03:42:11 · answer #1 · answered by Vicki B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Rasha You do need to find a person you can talk to face to face because you need to have a conversation - and this forum won't give enough of what you need. Is there a situation that has made you feel confused and mad or does everything just make you cry or feel angry? Speak to someone you trust but a psychologist will give you tools to help you cope better. If you have a choice try and find a cognitive behavioural psychologist. He/she will help you change the way you think so that you can be more positive about your experiences instead of feeling negative maybe all the time. If you can't get access to one anyone who has counselling skills will help. I'm not sure where you live but in the UK there are free helplines that are staffed by people trained in Counselling skills. Just talking about it to someone will help. Feeling alone and isolated will just make you feel even worse so don't wait! The help you need is out there. I hope you find it soon.
2016-05-22 07:33:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have let him stop calling you all together. he obviously is a crutch for you and once he is out of the picture you can start to heal. With him calling you and you knowing it is over, you will cling to him like he is going to come back. He is living with another woman, and he seems to be okay. you arent.. When he calls again, tell him you thought it out, and he doenst need to call you anymore. You need to heal too! He obviously has!!! 7 months is a long time!!! Don't beg for anyone's attention! you can get your own, someway or another. Good Lcck,. I just read about the marraige.. I think when you are going into a lets get married stage, you know exactly that person is right for you. there shouldnt be a question anywhere with-in you. If you were unsure about it, maybe God is telling you that he isnt the right one. And you may find someone better than this ex of yours. Just let this ex go and find someone way better. (even if you think there isnt anyone better, there is. Esp is God is sending your ex away.. Trust me.. )
2006-11-07 03:42:37 · answer #3 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your Ex is either confused or a player and in turn is confusing you. What you need to do is figure out what YOU want. What do YOU want from this? Was it better during the 7 months after the break up or do you still want to be with him? Try and not meet his needs but make your needs a priority. If you feel you can do better by moving on then do that, don't let one kiss and a I love you divert you. After all it seems that he is sleeping with other women and he may just be using you and just want you for Sex.
2006-11-07 03:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by Wibble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from him. He is toying with our mind. think about what you just said. He called you to pick him from another woman's house, and he is living with another woman while he is calling you. This all shows that he has no respect for you, and most likely women in general. Leave the loser alone.
2006-11-07 03:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's probably just as confused as you are. I've never been able to remain friends after a breakup, and I honestly don't know how people do it. I think for your own sanity and healing, you should stay away from him. Having him around just keeps the wound fresh, and it will never heal that way. Have you been dating?
2006-11-07 03:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by czekoskwigel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop contacting him. You need to move on and get a life of your own without him. IF he does still love you he will get jealous and start coming around again if he sees that you are not sitting around waiting for him. Right now he sees you as always going to be there for him no matter what. So, he thinks he can treat you however he wants. You need to show him you arent sitting around waiting for him and fawning over him still.
2006-11-07 03:42:46 · answer #7 · answered by herbie36f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are acting way too needy for this guy. If he's living with another woman, that should be a huge red flag to you. Of course, you are letting him use you for rides, etc, because he knows you are so into him. I say forget about him. He's a jerk for stringing you along. You can do better.
2006-11-07 03:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by EchoCharlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you i wouldn't have a thing to do with him. Sounds like to me he is just playing both sides of the fence. I know the heartache may be unbearable but I know from expirience in time the pain will lesson, tell him to go to hell and find someone who can make you happy.
2006-11-07 03:42:25 · answer #9 · answered by Southerner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This loser is playing you and you took the bait hook line and sinker!!! He lives with a woman!!! He wanted you to pick him up from another woman house!!! And he calls and kisses you!!! You are part of the b*tches he loves to keep hanging on to him....Move on! You deserve much better then this. You cant be so insecure to think you actually deserve this crap!
2006-11-07 03:43:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋