school is beging to bog me down and my boyfriend who graduated two years ago is getting a little irritated that im not spending as much time with him wat do i do?
2006-11-07 03:31:14 · 12 answers · asked by ~ ★ ~Soulja Girl~ ★ ~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
school is important. you need an education to live a good life. your boyfriend obviously forgot how much work it is, or else he is just selfish. unless he is planning to take care of you for the rest of your life and pay for everything you need, he needs to understand you need to finish school to have a career. even if he says he would pay for you, you don't want to be dependent on anyone. just concentrate on your life and being successful, and if he can't understand, get rid of him because a selfish boyfriend makes for a selfish husband.
2006-11-07 03:34:38 · answer #1 · answered by advicemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. But, your boyfriend should as well. You are going to school for heavens sake. Sure, it takes up alot of time, but you will not be going to school forever. He needs to be more understanding. Plus, in the future, when you start a family, you will definately not regret the time you dedicated now to your schooling. It is very VERY difficult to go to school later on in life. And, if you never went to school, you might not have alot of free time then either since you might find yourself working two jobs to earn enough money to pay the bills. Don't let other people's selfishness influence your best judgement.
In any case, tell him you wish you weren't on this demanding schedule either and that you look forward to after graduation when you will have more free time (although the real world presents many demands as well). Try to schedule times that you both are available that you can get together. If you plan for a few scheduled times every week to spend time together, it should make things seem better (even if it is only for an hour or so for that particular day).
2006-11-07 11:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by PrimeTime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly he just has to understand where you're coming from. For me it does get a little hard b/c my boyfriend is in school and working very hard to save up for our marriage, but I have to be patient with him. And that's what your boyfriend has to realize. Maybe schedule some stuff with him so that he can look forward to the time when he'll see you and make it super special. Also, it might be nice to have a late night phone call right before you go to bed just to let him know that you love him. Maybe he can help you with some of your school work. But mostly he just needs to be patient and realize that you're not trying to ignore him but you are trying to get an education. I would just ask him for a little bit of understanding. But don't ignore him either. I know school and having a relationship is difficult, but still make time for him on the weekends or maybe a Friday night or something.
2006-11-07 11:35:26 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean, "real life?" Plenty of us have had lives at school and continue to do so. I'm insulted.
Well, if I were you, I would focus on my education über alles. (Probably because I would never have a serious boyfriend at this point even if someone paid me to do it.) But in your case, it gets a little stickier. Spend as much time on school as you need, and the rest for your boyfriend, your other friends, and whatever other hobbies you may have.
2006-11-07 12:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn better time management. Your boyfriend should understand since he's already completed school, but if not, then you need to decide what's important to you.
2006-11-07 11:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
focus on school spend time with him on the weekends. At this point in your life school needs to be your focus, if other things needs to slide then they need to. Take it from someone who never applied their selves in school, you have to apply yourself and do good, go to college..all that other stuff will fall into place
2006-11-07 11:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's more important to you right now, school or your boyfriend? if your boyfriend is more important, then a compomise is in order. can you cut down your class load next semester? if school is more important, he'll just have to understand and be supportive. you're paving your way for your life not his.
2006-11-07 11:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't be much of a boyfriend if he doesn't want to support you through your schooling
PS... school IS real life
2006-11-07 11:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your boyfriend that education is first. Because, if he wants you to graduate so you can be with him,
then you need to graduate and pass.
Thats how me and my boyfriend are doing things.
School first ALWAYS!!!
2006-11-07 11:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by Roo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i skip school and avoid life so i can get some time for myself...i sugest you stay in school and live your life before you get to 18 years a alchoholik smoking sexy dude with no knolege of geography and english
2006-11-07 11:34:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋