My daughters father walked back into our lives 6 months ago, after 11 years, he wanted contact with our 11 yr old daughter, i said ok, but his girlfriend who he has 2 children with told him to choose her and her family or my daughter, her left her, she took an overdose, she had him arrested, she sent horrible text to my daughter and to me, but the worst thing was she emailed my daughter pretending to be her dad and said he didnt love or want her, for 2 months he was around, and stupidly i slept with him, (i still love this guy), then he got back with her, and for the past 3 months nothing from him, apart from his girlfriend ringing, texting, telling me to stay away from him, my only intrest in him is my daughter, i do reply to the texts, but not nasty just honest one which she hates, but the past week i have not bothered, then last night i had about 14 phone calls and texts from guys, at 1130-2am, she has only put my name and number on a chatsite saying i am a nice sl*t,
2006-11-07 03:20:15 · 12 answers · asked by trouble 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and that i want phone sex, now i cannot prove it is her, but what do i do, my daughter has this morning read my phone texts, from her, some she wrote pretending to be my daughters dad, saying he hates hair and wants nothing to do with her, ny daughter is so upset, i just want to hit this stupid girl, she is 28, but acts 5, i can deal with her but my daughter cannot, is there anything legally i can do, i do not want to move or change my numbers, why should i?
2006-11-07 03:23:13 · update #1
when we slept together they had split up 3 weeks prior, he has no back bone and cannot control her, i just tell him to put a muzzle on the pitbull, I have not spoke to him for 3 months, he is unable to stop her from doing this, she also wont let him speak to his family, he is totally run by this woman/child
2006-11-07 03:40:20 · update #2
Well I just want to scream reading this...enough already. You sound like me, I just keep trying to be nice to people that do bad to me. You have to break off all relationships with these people. First get call blocking and block their phone numbers. Next go to a lawyer...explain everything, show him the harassing e-mails from her. Getting angry and wanting to slap this lady is not the thing to do. Chances are you will get into a mess...lawsuits, etc. Go the website below to see about protection and restraining orders and how to file one. If these people call or visit don't speak to them, they are nothing but troublemakers and you can't reason with them.
2006-11-07 03:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, make a diary of everything she has done - dates, times, details of texts and maintain it. Keep the texts she has sent too. Prepare a dossier of all this information and send it to her explaining this will be going to the police if she contacts you or your daughter again. Next, DO change your number, and set up a new email address for your daughter. Keep the old number hooked up to an answerphone to record any nasty messages she leaves and use this as evidence if you need to. If she finds your new details, contact the police immediately. Meantime, you need to deal with Dad. Explain to him what you're doing and that, if he's prepared to try and start again with keeping in touch with your daughter, then you're prepared to have a go to accommodate this - your poor daughter too - am sure she just wants to see her dad. Try and go forward with keeping it between the three of you - whether he stays with this woman is up to him, but don't get 'involved' with him whilst he's still with her - it's wrong and it complicates things. I know you shouldn't have to change your number but just swallow your pride and do it - peace and quiet is worth more than pride. In the meantime, cast a hex on her - she might just disappear in a puff of smoke, which would be nice!
2006-11-07 12:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by Just_wondering 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must contact the police at once as this woman is dangerous and could be even more trouble in future. Take all the proof you have aka letters, text messages anything you have got as you will need evidence. You may have to also speak with a legal expert in these matters if the police do not take your case seriously enough but Way you have said I can't think that they won't. This woman needs to be stopped and soon. Good luck
2006-11-07 11:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
make sure that this person is told by you that you do not want to hear from them any more, make it clear, after that end all contact with this woman with immediate effect and stick to it. Do not give anybody a reason to contact you, if you continue contact yourself this sends the wrong messege.
If you still have problems after this and she continues to harass you, keep a written record of the dates and times it occurs. If any property damage occurs our she turns up at your home or work, call the police.
Should you need to submit to them your written record and ask them to intervene.
It may be a good idea to get a new sim card or change your phone number.
As for your ex if i were you I would keep your contact to only that which concerns your child, citizens advice can help you with the legal implication for free, or you could choose to seek your own legal council.
take care
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2006-11-07 11:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by lady_sephie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what a nasty little rodent....she is disgusting...keep all the messages she has sent, print the emails out also save them in a folder for safe measure....they can trace them through her IP, take these to the police....you don't have to find out who put your name on a chat site...it was her without a doubt....seriously if i was in your situation i would be over there breaking her face by now....it's one thing sending you messages but sending false emails from her dad is disgusting, she is a horrible excuse of a human.....you MUST stop this...first off...get a new Sim card, change your email address....and do not contact your daughters father again....he has brought this trouble to your door...if he had not have turned up then none of this would have happened...report that vile piece of dog dirt to the police...I'm just worried about what she could do next...be careful...don't hesitate, go to the police and have IT arrested....jeez i am shocked....sorry you are going through this...she's a reminds me of the evil bunny boiler....
2006-11-07 13:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is hateful take your phone to the police it is evidence change your number only give it to people who need it.Tell him to sort her out and then don't enter into any communication with her at all. He has to build his bridges with his daughter not you and he has to choose be honest with your daughter.Never sleep with him again as this is a bit low and you would of annoyed me if it was my bloke but she has no right to do this to your daughter.
2006-11-07 11:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you got the best deal 11 years ago..the loser walked out on you...you now have a beautiful daughter ...i have a daughter that's three and i could never walk out on her...and any man that denies his children for any amount of time is not a man in my eyes...we bought them in the world we should care for them even if we split up....this man is playing with your daughters heart strings which is not right...he had his chance 11 years ago and didn't want to know....blow this loser out for good
2006-11-07 11:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by michael b 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
can you have a word with your ex about her? Would he be able to put a stop to it?
I agree with the others, it sounds like harassment, she sounds very disturbed. Keep a note of all the calls and texts in case it gets to court.
2006-11-07 11:29:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is harrasment. Got to the police first thing in the morning - i know they will help you as much as possible.
2006-11-07 14:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by ally_2802 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go to the police and complain that you and your daughter are being harassed.
2006-11-07 11:25:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋