I have been going out with someone for a year - I have one 7 yr old son
on, he has 3 children from his marriage, 1 living with him, soon to leave home & 2 younger children who visit ever 2nd w/end and get on great with my son. My boyfriend loves me and wants to move in together, buy a house together in the future etc BUT has said that he dosen't want to be a step father/role model to my son! - says that his grandfather can fulfill this
(My son's natural father was violent & abusive and has not seen my son for two yrs by court order)
I love my boyfriend but wonder if it is unfair/too confusing to my son to live together when my b/friend dosen't want to take on this role - my father from a young age is my stepfather, I guess I have always hoped my boyfriend/the man I end up with would want to take this role on - Help- I love my b/friend but my son must come first!
2006-11-07 03:10:32 · 8 answers · asked by Dilemma! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes .. your bf can definately find another women but your son wont find another mom .. overall if your bf is not ready to take your son's responsibility how does he guarantee yours or the new kids from his in long term
Regards
Sameer
http://sameer-shaikh.blogspot.com
2006-11-07 03:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is you have a son, and if there is going to be a male in the household he should be a role model for him. It seems to me like he truly is not ready to move in and take on all of the responsibilities.
2006-11-07 03:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your son must come first and with you comes your son and if he wants you and not your son than you should leave and find someone who will accept you both. Your boyfriend is a waste of time.
2006-11-07 03:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, i have to say that ur bf is not worth it. He haz no heart. Does he want u 2 throw ur son away just 4 u 2 stay with him? Wat abt his kids, isn't he going 2 stay with them and beleive u'ld accept the responsibility of taking care of them? I think u shld have a heart to heart talk with him or forget about anybody that will break the mother-son relationship.
2006-11-07 03:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by genipabu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said it yourself. your son comes first. if he loved you as much as he says he does then he wouldnt mind being the role model for your son. why dont you rethink your relationship over. because obviously he wants you to be a rolemodel for his kids but not to your son.
2006-11-07 03:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by Daisy Carlos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you seriously date someone with a child, it's a package deal. Sounds like he's not willing to step up. He's not really leaving you much choice but to move on.....
2006-11-07 03:21:14 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've actually answered your own question, your child should come first. Good luck!
2006-11-07 03:14:15 · answer #7 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
children first..........always
2006-11-07 03:12:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋