have you and your boyfriend ever gotten into a little argument where he says somethings that hurts you but its nothing physical.
now this morning it happened we always get into little arguments over the most stupid things ever.... but it gives me doubts if he really loves me just by the things he says... what can you give me as advice.
2006-11-07 03:10:10 · 20 answers · asked by SHORTY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
arguments are a part of every relationship. Sometimes when you're angry, you say things you don't really mean, that's why, they say you're 'mad', when you're angry. You don't know what you're talking about. How or whether you can go on in this relationship, depends upon the feelings you have for each other when you are not arguing, so, try to keep calm and try not to argue on your part, see how it goes when one of you is more controlled.
2006-11-07 03:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by Kria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know what you're talking about.
if he said something that hurt you , tell him. let him know how you feel and what hurts etc.
give him a chance to tell you how he feels. if you talk about things and he knows how you feel and what you're thinking maybe things could be a bit better.
he might not even know he ever said anything that hurt. try to "brush" little things off and move on.
if after you talk and things don't change for the better... then remember YOU DESERVE THE BEST and you deserve to be respected and cared for.
Auguring over anything isn't ever good for a relationship, so if something comes up and you disagree, just change the subject and realize you hold different opinions, that way there won't be hurtful things said and done.
Don't put up with crap, you deserve love and respect. if he isn't willing to change...then you should move on.
If you talk and he knows what he is doing , and doesn't change.... then he doesn't love you.
2006-11-07 11:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by jojo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if your boyfriend is saying bad things to you that even make you QUESTION whether or not he loves you, then its probably pretty bad. If you guys fight about stupid things now, let me tell you, this relationship is only going to get worse. You need to have respect for yourself and not put up with those things that he says to you. You can do either of two options: A) If you really love this guy and you feel you could make it work somehow, i would sit him down and talk to him. Tell him why you're upset, ask him why he does these things. Tell him if he doesnt stop, you're gone. If he stops, perfect. If not, well option B) is to just leave him anyways! If you have to question his love for you, then its probably not love. No guy should ever hurt their girlfriends feelings ON PURPOSE while they are fighting. There are thousands of guys out there that are willing to treat you with respect and not fight with you and not be mean when you're fighting and be nice and love you 100% of the time. I hope everything works out for you, and good luck!
2006-11-07 11:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by Ricki M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, My husband always says hurtful things, but that doesn't mean he doesn't love you some men don't know how to show it. When an argument gets that heated take a walk or just tell him before you say something you don't mean just go for a walk , watch tv , or just change the subject. it will work I am going on our 3rd year of marriage.
2006-11-07 11:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
people can say leave him blah blah.. but the fact of the matter an argument is a mental battleground or a place to vent and settle differences for a brief period of time.. it's almost like a competition or a test.. you can't follow these people's advice and think "their's other people out there who this and that" it's that level of thinking that leads girls on to believe these things.. anyways don't think too much of it.. everyone argues and fights.. it's how you fix it or work through it that matters... goodluck
2006-11-08 04:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my man for 7 years we are married! When we get into arguments he says the most hurtful things in the world! At first i THOUGHT LIKE YOU DID, BUT NOW I DO NOT QUESTION HIS LOVE FOR ME ONE BIT! HE JUST GETS ANGRY AND THOSE ARE HIS WAYS OF DEALING WITH IT, !
YOU SHOULD BE OK, JUST LET HIM KNOW HE IS HURTING YOU HE'LL PROBLEY SAY HE IS SORRY AND THEN HE'LL DO IT AGAIN IN THE NEXT ARGUMENT!
2006-11-07 11:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by junebaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the severity of his words this could be emotional abuse, and if he makes you doubt his love for you then maybe there are deeper problems that you two need to work out.
2006-11-07 11:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may love you no matter what he says, but he's disrespecting your feelings. That's verbal/emotional abuse and you've got to stick up for yourself. The love and the cruelty are in this one person. Are you willing to take it as a package deal?
2006-11-07 11:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people don't realize how much what they say can hurt someone else. the important thing is that they try to change. change doesn't happen overnight, and he will slip up. if he doesn't try to change at all, then he isn't showing that he cares about how you feel. make sure when you talk to him, you explain to him calmly and ratiionally how what he says hurts you.
2006-11-07 11:13:35 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are leaving yourself wide open for hurtful comments when you argue with him or anyone else. Don't argue. You do what you know is right, and if he comments, discuss the matter with him. Arguing doesn't accomplish anything.
I would bet, that he really doesn't enjoy it either.
2006-11-07 11:30:55 · answer #10 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋