haven't seen in a long while has put on a HUGE amount of weight?
I recently visited with a friend whom I hadn't seen in 2-3 years. She went from about 115 llbs to 200lbs or more. I didn't say anything, but felt very weird for pretending not to notice.
2006-11-07 03:00:35 · 12 answers · asked by 13th Floor 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
She had to grab me at the airport to get me to notice her - even then I didn't know who she was for several seconds. That made it really ridiculous for both us,,,,,
2006-11-07 03:31:21 · update #1
i think it depends on your relationship with the person and the situation...
i had put on some weight once and ran into an aquaintance and at first i felt kinda wierd cuz i had gained the weight and kinda embarrassed....but then the girl said "it's been a long time since i've seen you...you look great, you've put on some weight and you look so healthy and so much less stressed out"
....you might ask how she's doing...maybe she just had a baby or maybe she has a health issue...
or maybe say "wow you've changed so much since i last saw you..." and then add a compliment like "i really like how you're wearing your hair now, you look great"
2006-11-07 05:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you say to her? "Wow, Heather, I haven't seen you in a while, and your @ss is HUGE!" Why would you mention your friend's weight gain? If the opposite were true, and she appeared anorexic, would you say something to her then as well? Probably not.
You could always rationalize a comment made about her weight by saying you're concerned for her health, but then--if she was that close a friend and you truly ARE concerned for her health, then why is it you only visit her every few years? Why isn't she a close enough girlfriend that she mentions to you her fluctuating dress size on regular phone calls or emails?
If I were you, I'd drop it.
2006-11-07 13:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. Love her for who she is. She is still the same person.
Believe me. She's knows that she has put on weight and she doesn't need for you to mention it.
In fact she is probably thankful that you said nothing because I guarantee that it was all she thought about leading up to your reunion.
2006-11-07 11:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by DontPanic 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should say anything. And to do so would be very rude. There are many reasons for a person to gain weight.....medical, medications, etc..
I think it is better left alone.
2006-11-07 11:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She knows she's put on weight.... but is she still the same person (inside) that you remember? That's all that counts
2006-11-07 16:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by historywritergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best not to say anything. Believe me, she knows that you noticed.
2006-11-07 11:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by Ha Ha Charade You Are................... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not like this person doesn't know she's put the weight on. but i do know what you mean. i've put on 30 pounds in a year and no one is saying anything. (i needed a few pounds, but this is ridiculous!)
it's almost like , do you say something SO obvious ? duh
2006-11-07 11:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by craina c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not say anything. In being her friend, if she decides to talk to you about it at some point, listen to her. Really listen to her.
2006-11-07 11:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by Lost in Maryland 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything.
2006-11-07 11:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
basically you were dishonest, it's like you told a porkie just by not saying anything.
you should have weighed into her for letting herself go.
would she break down and blubber about it?
if so, tell her to lighten up.
2006-11-07 11:10:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋