How can I tell if they really like me for me? I always feel like they are in it for the wrong reason. Obviously I can't help what I look like or anything like that, but how can I trust guys not to do that?
2006-11-07 02:59:39 · 16 answers · asked by feisty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not trying to sound stuck-up, it actually makes me feel bad.
2006-11-07 03:43:15 · update #1
A little stuck on yourself, huh?
2006-11-07 03:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I like the way you worded your question, because you acknowledge your beauty with true humility. Congratulations!
That said, the first suggestion I would give is to tell the man you are with that this is how guys made you feel in the past, and so when you are put in that position you immediately wonder if they really like you.
Secondly, continue to be who you are. Unless you dress like a slutt, beauty is pure and should not be hidden. It is a blessing. ENjoy it.
Lastly, be very clear about "no Sex" that way, they know they will not get ANY - and you know if they stick around, it's because they really like you. Other things can give it away, like the way they talk to you, what they talk about, their interests. Obviously a guy who is only interested in partying is not looking for your intelect.
In all, there are wise words to live by: Show me who you are with, and I will tell you who you are. Stick to people with substance, and you will have no doubt about their intentions. As a beautiful person you know it is possible to have both beauty and intellect or you would not ask this question.
Good luck, and speak up. It is never okay to feel like a piece of meat, or to be presented as some kind of trophy. Make it clear and make it loud and that will earn you enough respect to keep the "flies" away...
2006-11-07 03:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
here's a fact of life. 9's marry 9's, 7's marry 7's. If you are a 9 and the guy is a 7 then he is extremely happy and wants every other 7 know it is possible to get a 9. He's happy.
You know if he likes you for you if you do other stuff like talking about issues that are important to you. If all he ever wants to do is kiss, touch and try to get you to have sex, then he's not interested in you for you.
2006-11-07 03:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Change the guys you go for. You are going for the guys with the looks you like but they are losers on the inside. They perceive you as a trophy on their arm. YOU make them look good, or make them look better. YOU need a man that already has confidence and self worth and isn't looking for a woman to make them "look good" or "better". If you change the type of guy you go for, and look for..... you will find the man you are wanting. You like the guys obviously that like to 'party' or go to 'social gatherings' with friends and co-workers. You would benefit from getting with a guy that is more interested in his future and less in his social life, a guy that is more interested in real life, and less interested in 'how he looks to others'. I think you know what I mean. A man you find boring but good looking is the man that you are looking for that will give you what you are wanting. But you have to let go of the man that is all about "social events' and 'gatherings' in public and with just friends. Change your profile in your men, and you will get what you are looking for here. Blessed be...........
2006-11-07 03:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
obviously they're making u as their TROPHY( or as PRIZE)...
mayb u're someone special, pretty or one of those hard-to-get girls that after they've courted u, they feel proud about it...so have to show somebody else that they can...
DO TRY to find out the real reasons why they're FALLING for u...
IF because of ur gorgeous looks, then depends on you whether u want to keep this relation on...
Sometimes it isn't ur fault to blame on, mayb it's due to his IMMATURE behaviour...
GOOD looks does have lots of advantages, but can be hard at times to trust the REAL PEOPLE around you....
so try to give TIME AND ACTION to prove their worth to u...
time........dun rush into a relation too rushly
action......in the long run how he helped u,went thru ups and downs with u...be with u when u're down...
ANYWAY :)
good luck in hopes of finding ur PRINCE ya?
2006-11-07 03:12:52 · answer #5 · answered by FRUSTRATED bituser 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys are Visual attraction induced cave men. I love to show off my hot wife! However I had the love for her to wait before gettin in her pants. If he likes you for you he will wait long enough. If he's in it for the *** he will lose intrest after a few weeks or months and wander off.
2006-11-07 03:08:06 · answer #6 · answered by zippo_lyp 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
to start, try not to show ur body off as much (if u do that), and dont try to be with a guy who has a reputation for those kindas of things, who dates grls for their looks.
u can go on a date, and tell him alot bout urself, ur persoanlity, hobbies, etc. then ask bout himself... ask ALOT of questions ^.^
good luck
2006-11-07 03:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if a guy really likes you, he wont show you off like a trophy. try finding a nice decent guy in a nice decent place
2006-11-07 03:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by scottb03gt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
to impress a woman- that's the main goal. they all try to do it, but only initially, till you know them well. egoism forms a large part in the nature of a man.
2006-11-07 03:03:52 · answer #9 · answered by Kria 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because you are the first girl they have dated that has all four arms and legs? lol....
Mutilate your face with acid or something. It will solve your problem and then you will know they love you for your personality.
2006-11-07 03:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋