I have a disagreement with mom. Who is right?

Question

Went to a wedding reception Saturday night. I wore an above the knee dress with heels and hose; and my mother almost flipped because I had worn just pantyhose under the dress. It hurt my feelings. I wore just pantyhose to avoid lines...and for comfort. I just turned 20...so its not like I am a young child. The dress was short but not a mini. They were all sheer hose; however made to be worn without.

Answer 1

You should dress how you want at your age. However, at weddings its usually nice to dress conservatively because teh attention is supposed to be on the bride.
Did most of the other women wear longer dresses or short ones?
Think about that and make up your own mind on whether or not it was appropriate.

Answer 2

YOU are right.

I'm reading some of the comments on here, and the fact that your mother is freaking out. (clearing throat) WHAT IN THE WORLD IS WRONG WITH EVERYBODY!?
Why should it EVEN be an issue at all what you wear under a dress? Some of the comments are obnoxious/pathetic. Like about being grosse not wearing panties. People are warped. You're Mom should NOT have been freaking out. My suggestion is if there is ever a next time, keep your undergarments out of conversation with your nosey mother. Maybe she likes wearing uberbriefs, doesn't mean you should. Ok, here's my combo question/comment: Isn't it like wearing a belt with suspenders, if you wear underwear with pantyhose? Call me confused.

Answer 3

Your mother is over-controlling and knows very little about fashion. I'd much rather find out that someone was wearing panty-less hose than see her march around all night with panty lines. MANY fabrics cling and those lines are distracting - no one remembers what you wore, they just refer to you as the gal with the panty lines. As long as are certain that all private body parts were covered at all times, you dressed appropriately. By the way, how did Mom find out what you were wearing? From now on NEVER reveal that kind of personal information to your mother. You are almost a legally-recognized ADULT with the ability to buy a home, enter into a contract, etc. It is absolutely none of her business as to your choice of undergarments. Does she check out your clothes regularly? If so, she needs to let go or get some help; - maybe you're an only daughter so she's a bit protective. But I really can't find a good defense for her position. NOW IF SOMEONE AT THE RECEPTION SAW SOMETHING "PRIVATE" THAT REVEALED YOUR LACK OF PANTIES AND TOLD YOUR MOM THAT'S A WHOLE DIFFERENT STORHY - but I'm assumng that didn't happen. I'd love to know what she thinks of your beach attire, or whether she has an opinion on thongs, etc. You didn't mention that your dress was especially tight or low cut or had a slit up the side. So I won't address those fashion no-no's, but I believe you're the victim of an overly controlling and conservative mother. (By the way I'm a 48 year-old attorney - old enough to be your mother and qualified to be a judge for cases of indecent exposure -I 've also been trained as a police officer - and we arrest for indecent exposure - so I've got just a little experience in what is really considered "poor taste.") You PASS the fashion police test with flying colors. Now take some calcium to build up that backbone - you're gonna' need it honey. She probably has other areas of discontent with you and although you're probably living under her roof, it's time for her to recognize your age and maturity., I think you showed incredibly maturity by coming to this forum for a balanced arrray of opinions rather than throwing a temper tantrum. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 4

How did she know you weren't wearing anything under the hose? My guess is if she knew, everyone else did too, and maybe you should have worn something else all together. It's almost just as bad for people to see what's under the hose or your panties. Either way, I say you're old enough to dress yourself and you shouldnt have to discuss, your clothes with your mother.

Answer 5

My mother and I get into the same disagreements. I hate pantyhose and refuse to wear them even with a dress. While your mother is entitled to her opinions the bottom line is that at 20 you are old enough to make your own decisions regarding comfort and style. She just needs to get over it.

Answer 6

IMO as a male, and a father, I would say as long as your not flashing what is the big deal. Also Pantyhose have a cotton crotch, just as panties do. My wife does not wear Panties when she wear Pantyhose. Sleek line, and no Pantie lines. Your mother should get a life..

Answer 7

OK, isn't that why they call them pantyhose! So you don't have to wear panties with them. I would have to say that you are right on this one because you didn't want any lines to show. you are also old enough to dress yourself.

Answer 8

I'm not clear on what the issue is with your mom. Was she upset that you wore hose at all? That's odd...most moms are of the "wear nylons with all skirts" mentality.

Or was she upset that you wore only hose and no panties? I can kind of understand that...sounds a little icky and uncomfortable to me. But hey, to each her own. It's your nether-region, you can cover or uncover them as you see fit.

Answer 9

You should tell her that, I think that was unkind but she mind not now and maby if you tell her she would understand, you are plenty old enough to chose what to wear. I think that there is nothing wrong with what you wore. My mom and I disagree all the time about my clothes too and I'm 18. I think that you dressed decent and that you are right.

Answer 10

If she didn't see your lack of undies, then who the heck cares? If you're not flashing, feel free to go commando, pantyhose or not.

Personally, I can't go without pantyhose...keeps my thighs from chafing, plus they just feel good.