After month of trying to persaude me to live with him, I finally moved in with my boyfriend in a circumstance where I had no where else to turn to.
I moved country to come and be with him and now at my time of most need of his support he has expressed a desire to be alone.....have his "independence".
He is a sensible guy and by no means do I think it's anything other than "All the right things, just at the wrong time". Because he still wants me to wait for him while he has his chance at doing what "he wants".
I have never let him down, always been there for him and we couldn't get on better together and now such a shock to my system.......
Do I take this as a sign to cut and run........or do I be patient even though the outcome is unsure for me?
I am 22 and he is 24.....I'm a New Zealander but moved from Switzerland to be with him.
2006-11-07 02:31:25 · 9 answers · asked by jessieket04 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately it's his house.....I shall have to go and live with my brother.
2006-11-07 03:15:19 · update #1
what a drag...... the things we do for love and look at what we get in return. Maybe he isnt the right one for you but the best advice Ive recived that is so true "Whats for you wont go past you"! Please dont kiss up move on and move out!
2006-11-07 02:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if he wants his independence, suggest that *he* move out and leave you the flat! That way you can find another roommate and he gets the hassle of moving since he's the one suggesting a change. Don't wait for anyone who is not pledging to wait for you, too. Got to keep those scales balanced!
2006-11-07 10:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kia-ora, as a fellow Kiwi I don't need to tell you that NZ chicks are stronger than you are feeling at the moment - it's all on his terms so respect yourself and move on. When he's ready he will get in touch, then you can decide if it's something you want to pursue!
2006-11-07 10:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has done this to you i would go. He should of told you he wanted his independance more before you moved from Switzerland to be with him.
2006-11-07 10:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants his "independence" he shouldn't have asked you to move. It seems like he's using you. It's time to make some very hard and expensive decisions.
2006-11-07 10:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by colin.christie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a fella, it is a shame he didn`t tell you before you upt sticks to be with him I, would have said something,move on would be my advice as, if he really felt something wasn`t going to materialise he is not sure I think what he wants in life anyway.
2006-11-07 10:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch Him us Kiwi birds dont need the hassle of guys that dont treat you well. Go back to the easy going chilled out lifestyle all kiwi's love. He cant pick and chose when he wants you!!!
2006-11-07 10:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by BIGMOUTHSTOPTALKING 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what about what you want??Does he not think you have dreams that you want to fulfill?? You gave up alot to be with him, and now he has itchy feet and expects you to wait..blooming cheek...cut your losses and run, both do what you have to do, keep in touch in the meantime and see what the future holds...your both young..enjoy yourselves!!!x
2006-11-07 12:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes taking the p.iss
2006-11-07 10:51:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋