how soon is to soon?

Question

everyone tells me that my boyfriend and i started dating way to soon
i mean yes it was a little soon [it was official 2 days later, but kind a 'goes without saying thing" from the night we met on]
but weve been togetther for almost a year


so whats your opinion?
how soon is to soon? and whats the soonest youve ever started dating someone after you met them?

Answer 1

I don't a time table is something to consider in this situation....if you meet someone that you feel attracted to I don't see any reason to not start dating right away so you have a chance to get to know each other. It's fine if you start dating someone that you've grown up with, have been friends with for a long time, went to school with them, or whatever...but I see nothing wrong with starting to date right away after meeting someone. I'm glad you've clicked so well with your boyfriend...and it sounds like things are going great. Good for you. I've started dating someone right after meeting them before...and it was fine although I'm not with that person now. Dating is for the purpose of getting acquainted.

Answer 2

Is this the same guy you lost it too the night before prom?
Yea i know dont answer a question with a question, but I was just wondering!
Anyway, there is nothing wrong with dating and I dont think you can date too soon. Especially since you said you have know the guy for a year. And if you have been together for a year, why do you care about a year ago and what people think?

Answer 3

Um I think it's never too soon when both individuals are in love and they feel the time is right. I dated or started dating my now ex fiance about a week after we met. But if you consider sitting in our college computer lab chatting and getting to know eachother dating then we started from day one LOL. I hope he pops the question soon and you know which one the "will you marry me baby" one. Good luck girl.

Answer 4

My BF and I met through a mutual friend at a party , one week later at a party at my house we were flirting and playing around with eachother. While we were wrestling around I accidentally kneed him in the groin (oops!). He was in alot of pain so I let him sleep in my bed. I told him if he layed one finger on my I would cut it off (not the finger). When I woke up in the morning he was curled up in a ball on the very edge of my king size bed. It was sooo cute. That day we started dating, 2 weeks later we moved in together, and now 5 years later we are preparing for our first child. Don't let anyone tell you it is too soon. You have to make the decision for yourself. If it feels right go for it. Our relationship is GREAT, we are best friends, lovers, we play, we fight, and more than anything we love eachother. Follow your heart....

Answer 5

It is definately a personal opinion of how soon is too soon. I met my husband and dated him immediately and it was the best choice that I have ever made. 4 years later we are still very happy and I wish I had met him alot sooner. As long as you are happy then it does not matter what other's think. Enjoy him and your relationship.

Answer 6

Well, you guys seem to have been doing just fine! And have gotten to know each other for sure by now and apparently like each other since you are still to together. I am not sure why people seem to always butt in and make people doubt their own relationship, maybe the truth is they are having trouble with their own. Anyway, I think you should enjoy your boyfriend and not worry about what others think. If it works for you, then who cares! I was friends with my fiance a year before we dated but everyone is different! Just be you!

Answer 7

I met my wife at the end of October moved in the first of November and married her in March. And that was 22 years ago. So it is never to soon.

Answer 8

People sometimes regret doing things after waiting for 10 years, so 10 minutes is the same in my book. I don't believe in "too soon." If you guys are feeling passionate, go with the flow. Life's too short to worry about timing, so do what makes you happy. ^_^

Answer 9

I was a broken hearted when I met this man and after two weeks we started dating. After a month he officially became my boyfriend. I thought I was running to the relationship too soon but I really dont mind. I felt that I could trust him, Im close to him and that he is different from the rest of the men I met and I love him. For me, that's all that matters.

I've proven that to be true. Its been 8 years since we fell in love and we've been married for 3 years now with two lovely boys and one on the way. Sure life between us was not easy and full of trials but its LOVE for each other that conquers everything.

The first time i met him, I know its him that I want to be with for the rest of my life.

I remember once he sang me a song on the phone, it goes like this "..I never thought that I could love someone as much as I love you, I know it's crazy but its true...I never thought that I could need someone as much as I need you, I love you.." He was so serious that I could hear his voice trembles. That also helped me decide to go for my feelings for him. Not to mention he is popular in our university to fell in love with ME?

Look for signs that he really loves you. Dont waste time. Life is short. Spend it with people you love. If you love this man, GO FOR IT!

Answer 10

Dating is different for everyone. Some people will date only if they are serious about it. Other will go on flings just to pass time.

So it depends on the kind of person you are... if you want to take it seriously then yeah you started a bit early. Maybe you guys will grow into each other. But if its just a fling... forget it, just go with the flow.