The dresses that my bridesmaids will be wearing are somewhat elaborate, and since I have 2 maids of honor I thought it would be best that that both the bridesmaids and the maids of honor wear the same dress, with the difference that the maids of honor dresses will be in a different shade within the wedding's color scheme. But now one of my MOH, thinks that everyone wearing the same dress will not look good, and I worry that a different dress might clash with the bridesmaids dresses which are already bought. What do you think?
2006-11-07 02:26:43 · 16 answers · asked by marij 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I agree with you becaue I am currently doing the same thing. My moh and bridesmaid are wearing the same dress but moh is a different shade. The have no problem with and I am happy withthe way the dresses are going to look.
In my sisters wedding, her maid of honor wore a completely different dress to us in a complimentary.(our dresses were peach and hers was ivory). It worked out ok color wise, but the ultimate decision is yours.
2006-11-07 03:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by martini_40727 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen bridal parties where the maids of honor and the bridesmaids wore different dresses. Usually in that situation, th ebride tells the attendants what color it has to be (and they all come from the same store) and the individual picks the shape/style of dress that fits her body type. The best thing to do would be to take a bridesmaid dress with you when you are looking for alternative maids of honor dresses. If you can't find anything that you like...or nothing seems to go, then tell your MOH to deal with it b/c most bridal parties do wear the exact same dress...
2006-11-07 04:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the weddings I've been to, it is usually done in one of two ways:
1. The MOH wears a similar, but different dress, but in the same color. Usually, the MOH dress is slightly more elaborate than the bridesmaids, or it is a different cut (say if the MOH is older the others, or someone is a different weight).
2. The MOH wears the same dress, but in a different shade of the same color or in the other wedding color. (Like if someone has coloring that would make them look terrible in a certain color, or you just want the MOH to stand out.)
Ultimately, it is your wedding and whichever dress you want her to wear is the one she needs to wear. I'd say she is out of line here, trying to pick and choose the design of someone else's wedding.
The only way I can see that she'd have something to say is if she is on a budget and the dress is far outside of it. But even then, she did agree to be in your wedding, and it's common knowlegde that each member of the wedding party will pay for their own clothing.
Or maybe even this disagreement is her way of trying to get out of MOH duties? I don't know you or your friends, but if there's a chance she could be regretting the desicion, she could want out, but not want to feel guilty for telling you so, so she's hoping that you'll just ask her if she wants out. I don't know. That happened to a cousin of mine with one of her bridesmaids.
I hope that everything gets resolved soon, and try not to stress too much! Good luck and congratulations on you upcoming wedding!
2006-11-07 07:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just in a wedding on Saturday. I was a bridesmaid we had on a the same dresses as the MOH but the MOH had a different color than the bridesmaid and it look really good. I think that it will look great as long as everyone in the wedding party sticks with the wedding colors. Good luck and congratulations!
2006-11-07 02:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by jazzymomma77 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have never seen moh dresses that done match the bridesmaid dresses. Sounds like your MOH is stepping out of line here and wants some sort of spot light on herself. Unless she is paying for the dress she should shutup and put up. This is your wedding not hers.
She should be honored to be the maid of honor and quit trying to be a spot light whore.
2006-11-07 02:30:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually, the members of the wedding party (bridesmaids and maids of honor included) pay for their own dresses and is considered their gift to the bride already. Sometimes, the bride just tells them the cloth and the color motif of the entire wedding and recommends a couturier so it would be up to the bridesmaid to go on her own. Better clear these things up with the bride so that you'll know if you have to pick up the dress on your own or she wants all the bridesmaids to have similar dresses.
2016-05-22 07:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick with the matching dresses. If you put two girls in different dresses eyes will be on them. You want all eyes on you. Just give the moh different flowers. I think it would also look best in the pictures if everyone looks the same. Remember, this is your day and don't let anyone try to tell you other wise.
2006-11-07 03:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a different style would look fine. My bridesmaides all worse similar black tea-length dresses that had a haulter top (2pm wedding in summer). My moh's dress had silver beads and the other dresses were solid black. They were all different styles but were of the same material, and pretty similar. It worked out well.
2006-11-07 03:24:22 · answer #8 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tis your wedding..ignore the MOH and go with your original thought..if your worried bout clashing, put them in all the same color, but, give the MOHs different flowers!
Good Luck
2006-11-07 02:31:58 · answer #9 · answered by donamarie_1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was a MOH, I wore the same style dress, just a shade darker. It matched and looked nice. However, it is your wedding - so you do what you want!
2006-11-07 02:35:27 · answer #10 · answered by jujiot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋