m a twenty years old gal.i was going around wid an abusive guy,possesive n insecure guy for d past four n half years but i broke up coz i was tired of sacrifising so much n cudnt take dose harsh words.but yesterday i saw him wid a friend of mine[she is not exactly my friend as she had a massive crush on my bf n cud not tolertae me n him together].she created many differences between me n him.n my ex knows dat i hate dat gal n it hurts me wen he talks to her.m in pain .plss help me .i know i wnt be hapy wid him?will he change.y is he doing like dis?will he behave in d same manner wid d other gal also.
2006-11-07 02:12:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i mean that my ex bf who was abusive is seeing the gal who was ealier my friend.but due to sm reasons i stopped tlaking to her.now she is my foe n i hate her.my ex has started talking to her n i cant tolerate dis.
2006-11-07 02:21:30 · update #1
Why look back?
Treasure what you have before you. You have a bright new world in front. He isn't worth you shedding tears and sacrificing so much for him
Don't bother to even think anything about him! If he changes, he changes.
Be grateful that you left him.
Stay strong and be happy. You will find someone who truly appreciates you and respects you
2006-11-07 02:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Snap honey, I'm in this position too. I'm finding that it's best not to dwell on what they are up to together or how good he may treat her, 'cos he'll revert to betraying her in time. In fact the memories are made more golden by his absence try to rec collect some of the awful rows too. You are pro bally going to find a lovely man who will be as Honourable as you deserve. You have to kiss a few frogs first though. You are stronger than you think. Good luck
2016-05-22 07:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Shweta, If that guy was abusive to you then you have one big reason not to chase him. He is not worth it. Even if you go and warn the new girl she will not take you seriously bcos of your past with him. Why are you still behind him? Dump him. You are still very young and there' lots to life in you as well as your professional career. I am open to discussions if you want on bh37bh37@hotmail.com.
x
tom
2006-11-07 02:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by bh37bh37 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU GOT AWAY FROM THIS GUY! you already are ahead of the game! you have a second chance to be happy!! make the most of it, choose well and forget about this guy. i know it hurts to see him act happy when he has caused you so much pain, but that is HIS problem that HE has to live with. thank God that you are not HIM. you have a chance at happiness. i keep recommending this book but im telling you, its an incredibly powerful tool to understand and get over abusive men!! its called "why does he do that? inside the minds of angry and controling men" by lundy bancroft. i highly recommend your reading it and having counceling by an abuse councelor. you will thank youself over and over and over and over ..... good luck to you
2006-11-07 03:07:15 · answer #4 · answered by AlwaysWondering 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl get therapy. You're out of an abusive relationship, stay out of it. Do whatever you have to to stay away from this guy. He is playing you, he knows you hate this girl so who does he date, her. Not a coincidence.
He will never change, ever. Run.
2006-11-07 02:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a dictionary and look up "masochism". Then use the dictionary to learn to spell.
2006-11-07 04:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just date a guy that both of them hate the most it a war now so any thing is fair and move on
2006-11-07 02:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just think it's probably hurting her to. If he was abusive to you chances are is is with her to
2006-11-07 02:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by Donna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't even begin to help you. I wouldn't even know where to start.
2006-11-07 02:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by TheOneVersion3.0 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
warn the new chick
2006-11-07 02:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋