Its my mans bday. I bought him amazing gifts probably totaling at $800 and cooked a great dinner. He kept saying too much, this is too much...why did he want less? Just didnot seem so excited.....maybe embarrassed? I kept thinking it wasnot enough!
I wanted to do this b/c he spoils me and always treats me... its okay right?
2006-11-07 02:08:49 · 14 answers · asked by Teresa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont scare him offf
2006-11-07 02:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by Chris L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is done is done but yes, in a sense there can be "too much." What you did on your part was to make him feel pampered and special but you might have embarrassed him or made him feel as though he owes you something even bigger for the next birthday or anniversary for you.
You can show someone you care and shower them with affections and not spend a lot of money - an art maybe you can learn :)
If he acts a little strange or wants to talk about the birthday, just let him know you wanted him to feel special and its the only way you knew how to do that. You might get some valuable input from him as well.
Miss Cris
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2006-11-07 10:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's okay I guess, but too many gifts may also give off the impression that you don't really know what the person would like so you just bought him a lot of stuff. Like don't worry about the fact that you did that. It's not a problem. Just next time get him one thing or just do something special for him that he'd like. Personally I don't like getting gifts for my birthday and just like to go out and be with my friends.
2006-11-07 10:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by Triathlete88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're either trying to buy his affections or you're trying to even things out.
"Things" are really nice but at the end of the day they're just "things".
Maybe the next time you want to show him you care you'll do the dinner and maybe give him a nice massage and light some candles, listen to some music, and just enjoy each other without cell phones, TV or outside interruptions.
It doesn't cost much but it says a lot.
2006-11-07 10:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I think it depends how long you've been together, and if the amount you spend on each other is about the same. My parents don't even spend that much on each other. It sounds like you adore him though. Thats so sweet, but yeah it probably was a bit much.
2006-11-07 10:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by Steph :-) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you can do too much. it made him uncomfortable.
it could be with how he was raised. to spoil the woman and expect nothing in return. you definately caught him off guard.
maybe you guys should set a price limit for holiday shopping and birthdays, anniversaries, other days so it doesn't happen again.
2006-11-07 10:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it hink thats something everyone does if my boyfriend gets me something im all the time like you shouldnt have done this i dont need all this buti secretly love it. i let him know i love it also. but its still kinda just something thats said. his birthdays coming up and hes said a countless number of times, i dont want anything i just want to spend a day and night with you, i think thats just his way of convincing me that no matter what i get him he loves me and not to stress over what and what not to get him
im sure he loved it, ask him
2006-11-07 10:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jordan Alexis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just ask him, how much is too much. i would sit down with him and dicuss exactly what is his limit. i really wouldn't mind too many gifts though, thats just me. after all you wouldnt want to lose someone you love right?
2006-11-07 10:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by LittleBit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a gift do whatever you want it's your money only you know how much is too much. Like when your money is gone cause you spent it all, ya know
2006-11-07 10:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by 1 luvly LEO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this probrably isn't the case, but he might think you're cheating on him or something, and now you want to make it up by spoiling him. Crazy, i know, but if he gets suspitious.... you never know.
2006-11-07 10:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by Cassie♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go overboard it might seem like you are bribing your man for something, or trying to buy his love.
Just take it easy.
2006-11-07 10:11:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋