I NEED BIG TIME help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

okay, there's this girl i like at school and i like her a lot. She knows that i like her along with the whole entire school. im positive i had a chance at the start of the year, but now its gone way down and she doesnt like me AT ALL. she thinks im a stalker cause i go wherever she goes and never talk to her cause i can never figure out what to say (we have exactly the same friends and we know each other pretty well) so now im like way down in the hole and i like her too much to let her go. if you have an idea for like a "comeback" (like in sports when you're down by 2 touchdowns in the fourth quarter) please list that. im a freshman in highschool so the "comeback" idea you have can last a couple years or sumtin. dont list negative comments cause they put my self esteem down, lol. again, she doesnt really like me, and i want to literally grab her attention towards me! i need ur help so plz help ME!!!!!!! ANYTHING WOULD BE GREAT

Answer 1

Try ignoring her for a while, and flirting with other girls. Don't follow her cause thats just creepy. So is the whole not talking thing.

Answer 2

Hey....chill there 'school boy'. LOL It sounds like you do have a major crush and my guess would be that your 'intended' is very flattered....although she may be confused too. You could go the 'old fashioned route' and offer to carry her books (try it and see what happens...you know carry her books on the way to her next class, on the way to the bus, or while walking her home one day if she walks to and from school). You need chivalry at this point....and you need to 'step up' if another guy does something offensive (that majorly aggressive of course that would get you in trouble at school...but just the right touch at the right time to let her know you'd be there for her). And you're going to have to find a way to get comfortable talking with her or else you'll never be able to communicate how much you like her....which you don't necessarily have to actually spell out in so many words to her (especially in the 'getting to know her phase') but it'll show in your actions toward her. And girls like sweet guys (you sound like you have a sweet side) so don't be afraid to show her that. You need to know more about her to develop a 'plan of action' (this is impt. right? so it's worth the prep. work and/or homework). And if you don't get around to making your move before valentine...don't forget the sweet note, chocolates, etc. If you knew when her birthday was you might have an opportunity then as well. Good Luck and stay sweet.

Answer 3

What I know about teenage girls is that they're more worried about how they are "coming off"(appearing to others) than they are about what your up to. The best thing is to be honest but not make a big deal. So what if you were/are crazy about her; every body is crazy about somebody. Be cool! it only hurts for a little while and it won't kill you. You can be the charming guy who's crazy about her; what girl doesn't like that? Smile a shy smile, NO STALKING. If you can appear to be a peace with your self and your feelings it will help alot. Maybe you can have the additude that you know she will feel the same way eventually and you are happy to live your life and have fun until she sees that. NO WAY is this the end of the world. Believe it or not she is the first of many.
Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Sweetie, relax. You're scaring me, never mind the poor girl. If you guys are friends then just start back at square one. Talk about school, or whatever. Stop following her everywhere she goes. Girl needs some air.
Get yourself a hobby, something to accupy your time so not everything is about this girl. This does work, because it will change your personality. When people are interested in different things they are more interesting to others. Right now this whole focus on her and nothing else is overwhelming to the both of you.

Answer 5

Try backing off, give her space. Start by not going around where she is at and doing your own thing. Get involved in activities, whether it's sports, science, arts, or whatever and strive to do your best. Be kind and gracious to others, make lots of new friends. This will show her you are a good person and have other interests. If you are truly interested in her, let her come to you half-way. If after a year, she doesn't then it just isn't meant to be.

Answer 6

Well you seem to have shown or you say everyone knows that you like her..so if you want TRUE advice...well I would back off....because you have overdone it...you are pushing and it's pushing her away SO...if you REALLY do like her and are sincere (which you sound :)....get into your school work...go out with other friends...do something important to you or what you enjoy and BACK OFF...don't be rude...but bascially act as if you are fine with it...over it...but don't say that and play games ...just let her go....IF she does like you and can....she will start to talk to you noticing that you are not following her etc.....even if you can go out on a date with someone else to get your mind off of her.
IF she does start to talk to you more or seem curious or whatever don't get all excited and blow it...keep it cool :)
Hope that helps :?
You can always go the flower road or simple sweet card etc on her birthday or some reason but it sounds like you have overwhelmed her at this point so I would back off for awhile not a week either until she comes to you....if she has ANY interest i promise she will :)

Answer 7

Make a move. She does like you but it sounds like you avoided a chance and she saw that as rejection. If both of you are allowed to date ask her to dinner alone. This does not have to be fancy or expensive. Use the opportunity to find out exactly what both of you want. Both of you want seem to want the same thing but take it from an old woman - we do not handle rejection well, especially when it is full of mixed signals. You are always there however you pretty much ignore her in a social dating situation.

Answer 8

If she thinks you're stalking her...she WILL avoid contact with you. Back off! Let her have her freedom and when you see each other later on...ask her if you and she could talk for just a moment to clear up what you think is a problem. Trying to use someone elses fancy phrases only makes you an unoriginal fake. Be yourself!!

Answer 9

yeah, from what i read i would probrably dislike you too. DON"T BE A FREAKING STALKER. okay, here's how to get her back: ignore her. THat's right. Don't talk with her, look at her, and keep your distance. She'll probrably miss your company sooner or later, then she start to try to get long conversations going with you. Don't get all excited. Just nod and say a few short sentences then leave, as if you don't care and don't have time for her. In time, she'll come around.

Answer 10

In this case, perhaps you need to back off getting her for a girlfriend and just work on a friendship. Its obvious that your actions before have somewhat put her off.

Also, if you take a step back and just regard her as a friend, this will give you time to learn her likes and dislikes and to be able to speak around her without getting tongue-tied.

Once you have a good relationship/friendship she will see you for who you are and not be so put out by your actions.

Give it time, mellow out a bit and get to know her

Miss Cris
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