Mother in law?

Question

Does anyone else get really p*ss*d off with their mother in law ?? My Husband thinks she is the greatest thing in the world ???

Answer 1

Well it’s your husbands mum so of course he will think she is the greatest thing. But yes my mother in law, or monster in law as I prefer can be and is a pain. She always has to get her own way and things always have to be done on her terms. However because I will stand up to her and because I sometimes do not agree with what she says doesn’t like it one bit. She used to always try and make catty remarks but since I always have a wise comment to say back she has stopped.

I don’t know about you but you have to look at it this way she is your husbands mum, so you are just going to have to grit your teeth and deal with her, try not to make negative comments (even though this can be hard) about her to your husband because he will hold it against you.

At least you don’t have to see her all the time and that is a good thing. When you go over to see her and sometimes you will have to just make sure that your glass which needs to have something alcoholic in it is NEVER empty

Answer 2

He's apparently got blinders on as they say. I had th esame experience twice. My mother was mendlesome, and would tell things to my wives, kids behind my back so I would here a see it happen. In each case they would then tell their mother's and I would get attacked by my wives for it. I say wives as it cost me two marriages for it. When confronted with the issues, she would deny ever having said anything. In todays world it shouldn't or wouldn't happen quite as easily with the types of surveilance things out there. If one had questions to this happening, you can use what they call the bionic ear and hear whispers through a window from a long ways off. I wish I could have had this for backing up what I was told, as I could have misproved my mother and she would have stopped interfereing. She was a retired school teacher with a lot of pride, and would have been so embarrased by being caught in what she was doing she would have never made those mistakes again! I feel for you, since I'm all to knowledgeable about what mother's and mother's in-law, can do to and for their own kids. Good luck trying to untie his apron strings!

Answer 3

My mother in law and I get along great. There are certain things she does that gets on my nerves. Then again, I can say the same for my own mother. We can put our differences aside and still maintain a healthy adult relationship!

My husband also adores his mother. Also he understands that his mother is not perfect. He doesn't take sides, but he and I have the same opinions in many situations. He loves his mother and loves me. He and I also have open communication between the two of us.

My mom told me when I was growing up, "if you want to know how a man is going to treat a woman as his wife, watch how he treats his mother".

Of course this is different if the relationship is an extreme mama's boy, then there may be issues. But if they have a great relationship and have their own independence, it's a great set up.

Does your husband treat you right? Most likely it had to do with the way his mother raised him.

Answer 4

Honey, i could write a book on the shi.t my Mother- in-Law used to put me through. And her mum as well.
Ruining my wedding. Telling me she hoped i'd miscarry the baby. Constantly comparing me to his ex. Buying things for my daughter but not my sons (she didn't like boys). Calling my child "IT" until they were about 4years old.
And all that just covers about the first 3 years. I had 7 more years after that.

And all those people saying it's you or that the mother-in-law thing is an old joke don't know what they are talking about.
Unless you've had to deal with this you don't know what it's like. The strain it puts on a relationship is unbearable. I never asked him to defend me, just his kids and he wouldn't do it. She even encouraged him to have an affair. What kind of a woman encourages a man to break up his family.

Answer 5

I had a great relationship with my mother in law when she was alive, but I can answer your question because I am a mother in law. My relationship with my daughter in law is excellent Know why? I DON'T BUTT IN. At first it was hard but I asked myself- would I have wanted a mother in law always butting in? Try to look at her with a positive look, Remember you can not fight her, if you do I assure you that you will lose the battle. A mother is the world to some of us. What you can do is try to tolerate the situation, if she comes between the both of you the best thing is to talk to her and let her know what she is doing, sometimes we mothers forget that our children are grown ups and have lives of their own, don't be harsh or rude. She will be his mother and your kids grandmother always.
Lots of luck. PS- One day you will be a mother in law- Learn from your experiences. ;-)

Answer 6

Nope, I like my mother in law, it is my mother who is a real nut job. I have a two year old, and every time I talk to my mother, she tells me I better not have any more children. She thinks my sister should have more, when my sister lives at home with two children from two different guys. My mother is a hateful person, but my mother in law is one of the nicest people I have ever met.

Answer 7

yes i do get mad at all my in-laws like this year my grandma-in-law said she is getting to old to cook now and gets really tired, so my mother-in-law knowing i can cook passed me by says shes going to order the food already prepared and that she will make the things like potato salad and pie, now my mother-in-law last time she made potato salad came out as mashed potato's and when she made boxed brownies she burnt them so bad we couldn't get them out and had to through the pan away. My mother was a baker by trait and Pennsylvania Dutch so it really pisses me off that they are not letting me help when I know I cant cook better then all of them. And my husband keeps satin I'm over reacting not to worry his mom wont cook. I'm so furious I don't even want to go for thanksgiving.

plus my mother passed away about 6 months ago and my family is spread out across the state so my in-laws are all i have right now and cant stand it. i miss my mom and this will be my first holiday seasons without her here so i don't even want to celebrate

Answer 8

My husband has the upmost respect for his mum, I also respect her. She has had a tough life and still enjoys her extended family. She respects that we have a life of our own as a family but also that she is a big part of that, of which she really enjoys. She likes to know that her little boy is happy, but does not get in the way of that. My mother in law is great!!!

Answer 9

Sure I get pissed off at my mother in law sometimes who doesn't. But she is an awesome mother to my husband and to me. Plus she is really good to me. I love her to death!!! i could not ask for a better mother in law

Answer 10

Yes! My husband is an only child, and his parents were divorced when he was two. He and his mother have been very close his whole life. I have been with my husband for 18 years, and my relationship with his mom has always been rocky! So much so that I had to leave my own home 2 years ago on Thanksgiving! She tends to be very disrespectful to me as a wife and a mother. It is mostly out of jealousy I think. I have 4 wonderful children and my husband is happy with me! That makes her crazy, because she wasn't a very good mom to him and her husband left her! I won't go into the details of the things she has said to me, but they are horrible! I wouldn't even say those things to my worst enemy.

That being said, let me make something very clear to you. It took me a VERY long time to figure this out, but my husband is 100% responsible for it! He never defended me to her. He would talk to her about private details of our relationship, which would just give her more ammunition. Through counceling, I am hopeful that he finally realizes this, but I am still not convinced.

So.....my advice to you......

Do not ever say disrespectful things about your mother-in-law to your husband. That is his mom and he loves her! If she is being disrespectful to you and your relationship, you need to ask him to talk to her about it. Explain to him how hurtful it is to you, and that you really need it to stop. DO NOT allow him to tell you it is your problem. Mine tried that! It is your husbands responsibility to talk to his mom. You doing it will only be a source of animousity between the two of you. I was forced to do that, and I haven't spoken to her in over 2 years now.

Sorry for the long answer....can you tell this is a sore subject for me? I wish you the best of luck! Your husband should defend you! He left his parents and became as one with his wife!! Remind him of that!!!!!