She is pushing me away like i have done something wrong. This past weekend she took off for 2days and didnt tell me. So I call and Call and couldnt get through. She was supposed to meet me at my job when i got off and she wasnt there. I call her to see if she was on her way and she didnt answer. All day she didnt call me until 4 in the afternoon. says she was going through a phase an hung up just like that. No I love you or nothing. Then yesterday we were out and she wouldnt show me any affection. I would try to hold her hand and she would pull away, She wouldnt let me kiss her. Im hurting and i think she doesnt care. I am tired of crying. I really care about her and we have been together for a year and 7months.
2006-11-07 01:36:54 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't you try to dump her! You do not know what's going on with her. I just put my feet on her shoes. I think there's something wrong you've done to her. I mean you don't know unless you talk to her. Maybe there are a lot of things she's thinking right now and you're one of those. Relationship is not just looking for fault and wrongs and in one snap it’s gone. It is an open communication with two people involves. I am a girl also, sometimes if I saw or feel something awkward towards my b/f, I tried to hide what am I going through until he feels and ask me about it. If you really love her and you know she still loves you too, try to save what you had. Observe and be sensitive to her needs and feelings before you jump to any conclusion.
2006-11-07 01:51:11 · answer #1 · answered by herzae 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Here's the thing. Women will do this stuff occasionally, and they don't care how it affects their boyfriend/husband. Of course, if we were the ones acting like this, they would be all up in arms and offended.
Anyway, what you should do is just ignore her. If it is a phase, she will get over it, and she will come back to you. When I say ignore her, I mean do not initiate contact with her. If she calls, let her get the voicemail, and take a day or two to return the call. Same with text messages, IMs, etc.
You must understand that this may NOT be a phase and could be something more, but this is the only thing you can do at this point. Constantly making yourself available to her right now will just push her further away. Good luck.
2006-11-07 09:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by EchoCharlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know her, so I can't "say" what the problem is. But if she's shunning you, that's a clear sign that she at "least" wants some time to herself. I love my guy, but sometimes when we spend too much time together, I tell him we need an "emotional break" and he respects that enough to leave me alone for a couple of days. And then sometimes, "he" goes through the same thing, and "I" respect his desire to have his space. We have been married for 4 years, and it's always been this way. So maybe if you give your girlfriend some space, don't call or go looking for her, let her "miss" you and appreciate you, and she'll probably come back around, okay? By the time I have had my 2 days of calm and quite, I "want" to spend time with my guy, but I think that's just how women are in general. Then when you "do" see her, tell her you decided to give her some space, and she'll "love" that!
Then if she is still acting that way towards you, and really doesn't want to be with you, at least you have tried, okay? If this is the case, hard as it may seem, let her go, and keep busy. Good luck.
2006-11-07 09:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm very sorry things are turning out this way. I just got out of a relationship that I was in for about the same amount of time...I would suggest trying to talk again, but if she wont even give you the time of day, don't show her the courtesy she lacks for you. I would try to move on, and remember, there are plenty of fish in the sea, and there is a lot of love to be givin. If things don't work out, you'll find the right girl, I promise you.
2006-11-07 09:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by Symmict 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's already left you, so ending it with her is a formality at this point.
When you see her next, or email her or leave a message...let her know that you don't know what's going on with her. Tell her she's being thoughtless and rude, and before you write her off, you'd like to know what's up. If she doesn't at least extend the courtesy of a reply, then don't call her anymore. Consider the relationship over and move one. If she contacts you and wants to talk, tell her "No, I asked you before, you had your opportunity. You couldn't treat me with courtesy or respect, it's over."
It's terrible how she's treated you, but don't be tempted to return to her. She treated you poorly and you didn't deserve it. Given the time you've spent together, she could have been far more thoughtful.
2006-11-07 09:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously talk to her, it could be she is going through a tough time and maybe even depression, talk to her get counsel if thats the case talk to a Dr. But if it just seems a persoanl thing about the relationship talk to her straight, infrom her that you need affection from her, that you love her, ect. But hell what you are describing are the actions of a women that is seeing soemone new and is really in love, thats why she doesn't wnat o do anything with you...its like shes cheating on her new love with YOU!!! PLease talk to her, don't jump to conclusions...
good luck and God Bless
2006-11-07 09:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that the relationship is done. The most important thing in a relationship is communication and honesty. That's obviously lacking here. You've obviously have tried and she refuses. I'd find someone else.
2006-11-07 09:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by krazy_b81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The situation doesn't sound good. If she loved you & had positive feelings toward you, she would not being treating you like this. This isn't a "phase." She is choosing to treat you like crap. It is best to end the relationship, & leave her wondering. Take care of yourself.
2006-11-07 09:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a girl... and i think this is her telling you i don't want you anymore..
she does that because she knows you are there and that you are going no where.
Dump her...
one of 2 things will happen the:
1. she'll beg you not to... she thought you'll take her **** forever, but she still wants you... but things will go back to how they were after a very short while if you go back to her
2. She'll thank god that you were man enough to let go of her after she tried so hard to make you hate her... maybe she doesn't want to dump you because she cares just about enough not to hurt your feelings
EITHER WAY LET GOOOOOOOOO
2006-11-07 09:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by pumpkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk it out with her. Maybe something has changed in your relationship. Ask her if she is still in love with you and if your relationship is worth holding on to. If she truly loves you, she come through and tell you whats bothering her.
2006-11-07 09:39:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋