how do we handle it .. brothers wives and me what to do or say right thing stay away from it how we deal with it should we be distant >?
2006-11-07 01:33:15 · 17 answers · asked by Alpha a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He needs to know, and he needs to leave her. She won't change, and he won't be able to trust her. Plus he should probably go to the doctor and get swabbed.
2006-11-07 01:35:29 · answer #1 · answered by Jon C 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As his mother you need to let him make his own desions. I know you raised him but this is why you toiled for years to teach him right and wrong. Everyone will have their own opinion but it is his that counts here. I would shield him from the brothers, their wives and family that feel it is their duty to make him think one way or another. Let him ask for advise. If he wants to talk let him do it. I would ask him several times though if he is alright and let him know you are there for him. You may even have to go through some pros and cons for him to sort out his emotions. Also be watchful that he himself doesn't do something irrational. I don't wish this on anyone but good luck to your son and family.
2006-11-07 02:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mark S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from it. There are 2 sides to every story and although your first instinct is to jump to your son's defense, you have no way of knowing if the information is 100% accurate and if there is much more to the story. Let it be.
2006-11-07 01:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yikes - that's a toughie. Let them resolve their own issues. Hopefully your son will decide to move on from her and not go through with the wedding - that would be the best thing.
2006-11-07 01:35:59 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let your son handle it. He made the choice to ask her to marry him let him deal with cheating. Its not up to mothers to fix relationships for their kids.
2006-11-07 06:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by Erin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say any thing if you get involved and he still stays with her then you'll be the bad person and it will cause conflict in the family just treat her the same way you always treated her.
2006-11-07 01:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really talk to your son because if this is happening already think of what hurt and pain is to come after marriage. He needs to really understand and be aware that marriage isn't to be taken lightly. And if the signs are already there then he needs to wait until the both of them are ready because it's obvious she's not!
2006-11-07 01:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be loving and supportive of him, and follow his lead.
He is your son, and no matter what his choice, you have to do whatever makes him happy in this situation.
Just be ever so thankful that YOU don't have to marry this brat of a woman....I hope your son wises up and dumps the two timer before he is hitched to her.
Like my Grannie said..Once a cheat...always a cheat.
Good Luck
2006-11-07 02:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by donamarie_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has the wedding occured yet?
Usually I say that you should go to the one who cheated, but this is YOUR SON & his life. He may get very upset with you but he'll get over it. Tell him.
2006-11-07 03:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u all get togheter and ur son and her fiancee and tell the truth, lets see how she reacts, she wont be able to lie in front of all of u...ahhh and if u can call her parents as well, would be better
embarrasing but at least this public claim will keep him from being fooled.
2006-11-07 02:00:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your son if he wishes to talk to you then you are there for him. Do not interfere, he has to make the choice himself as to whether to stay with the woman. You have to support his choice, and let him make his own mistakes. If you meddle you could alienate him.
2006-11-07 01:36:35 · answer #11 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋