My girl friend is Canadian, and her father abandoned her when she was very young. She always hangs out with other male friends, and it really bothers me a lot. I told her to stop doing it. But she keeps telling me that I should trust her, and sometimes she even calls me sexist. I really like her, but I can't stand this anymore. Do you think her acting this way is somewhat related to her father that abandoned her? or is this just very typical thing to do for North american girls? Are you girls hang out with other guys a lot when you actually have boyfriends too?
2006-11-07 01:29:38 · 19 answers · asked by Patrick J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess she feels good that way. Isn't it so? And you like her?
Then you should enjoy that she feels good. Or don't you ?
So, I see you do not like her so much. That's it.
Got it ?
2006-11-07 01:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by GGG 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I've always had more guys friends than girl friends. I generally find most girls to be catty and too concerned with trivial and superficial things. I'd rather play video games or watch football than worry about my hair and makeup. That doesn't make me less feminine, I just have different interests. It took my husband a little while to understand this, and now his guy friends are my friends too. I can be friends with a man and there be nothing else to it.
She may not be comfortable with you telling her who she can and who she can't hang out with. That is very likely why she gets upset. That does tend to be a trait among North American girls. If you truly care for this young woman, show her and trust her. I hope you can work everything out.
2006-11-07 09:39:26 · answer #2 · answered by mreheather6 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not a Northern American thing. Its a female thing. I hang out with my guy friends. I have more guy friends than I have girl friends. My boyfriend does trust me entirely. It has nothing to do with her father leaving her. It has to do with you not trusting her enough to know that the guys she hangs out with are just her friends. I think you may have some jealousy or possessive issues. It doesn't make you sexist, unless you continually hang around with your female friends but won't let her hang out with her male friends. That would be sexist because then you are saying that females aren't as trustworthy as males are. I think you should get over yourself. If I was her and you were telling me not to hang around with my friends, I would dump you. Guys are around for awhile, but friendships last forever!
2006-11-07 09:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by laislinns 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think her hanging with males is odd, even if her father did abandon her. I have alot male friends and we do stuff without my boyfriend all the time. I am in fantasy football with them, play darts etc..
Sometimes my boyfriend cops an attitude but what are the choices he has???
2006-11-07 09:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by cici 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly...It might have something to do with the fact that her father abandoned her, but dont assume that thats the only reason. These guys may have been her friends before she ever even met you. I dont think shes just going to ditch them because it makes you uncomfortable. If she says you should trust her, then maybe you should. Just have faith in her.
2006-11-07 09:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people have a circle of friends that hang out....if she gives you no reason to feel differently, I'd just be mature about it and let her have her freinds.....I hope they know where you are in the picture...make friends with the guys and hang out too....this way they DO KNOW where you are in the big picture!
2006-11-07 09:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by Sammyleggs222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think there is a problem here. i get on better with guys than i do with girls, i am not a tom boy or that, i just cant be bothered with how girls ***** and go on about their weight, hair etc. i just get a better laugh with guys thats all.
2006-11-07 09:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she has a better freindship with boys! it not bad to hang out with boys. you should trust her and if she has a boyfreind extra points coz even her bf is trusting her to be with so many boys at once. stop the hating and appriciate
2006-11-07 09:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by Aaliyah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal. Girls are by nature better able to have platonic relationships than boys are. It's not all about sex for girls. Don't worry so much!
2006-11-07 09:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by mimi22 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it common for guys in your area to think they have the right to tell their girlfriends what they can and cannot do?
You need to dump this confident, outgoing young woman and find one who is more of a ...doormat.
2006-11-07 09:32:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are fairly insecure and controlling. Perhaps you should move on. She obviously isn't changing.
2006-11-07 09:33:08 · answer #11 · answered by Michael J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋