My boyfriend recently bought a new cellphone and he claims his mother told his ex girlfriend his number. Whenever he's ove my house all she does is call him. Im my face he dont answer the call. What should I do? He gets all these private calls on his phone. Whenever I check his phone her number is always in the incomming call list. Then he wont let me answer the phone when she calls. What should I do.
2006-11-07 00:47:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't mind it...your bf respects you a lot for not answering her call while he is with you...
2006-11-07 00:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would bug out! Not that I am jealous like that, it's just plain rude! I'm sure he wouldn't like it if your ex was constantly calling you. Regardless if he doesn't pick it up while he's in front of you, he does any other time...right? I think him telling you his mom gave her the number is an excuse. Unless the mother doesn't like you, I don't think she would of given it to her. She might of, not thinking but you know her better so it's your call on that.
Regarding what you should do, you have 3 choices:
1) Deal with it. You love him, you trust him and you don't want to make any friction.
2) Lay it all on the table for him, either he cut off the communications with his ex or you leave. It's obviously driving you crazy. You will not be able to trust him if he is constantly getting these calls. When he's not around your gonna kill yourself thinking where is he, is he with her...etc.
3) Confront the girl. Maybe she is not aware he has a new girlfriend (Wishful thinking). Speak to her woman to woman. If that doesn't work, a quick smack across the face (or a quick jab) should do the trick.
Who broke up with who? If she broke up with him, you may be in trouble. Maybe that's why he is still speaking to her and she is worst because she is keeping him on a string. If it was him that dumped her, then your good. He may just feel bad that he dumped her and doesn't want to hurt her even more by cutting her off completly. Either way, you need to figure out what will make you happy, cause what it comes down to is your happiness and thats what matters. If being with this guy is making you misrable then leave. Why put yourself through something when you don't have to?
2006-11-07 09:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by SexyMommy2B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all has to do with trust...just because a guy has private numbers on his phone doesn't automatically verify he is cheating. Has there been other signs that he has been lying? How honest are you by snooping around in his phone anyway? Have you told him or confronted him about what you've found? I'm guessing you haven't because then he would know that you think he has something to hide when it may be innocent. And about him not letting you answer his phone....well, it IS his phone...would you let him answer your phone whenever to find out who may be calling you? The trust goes both ways if you intend to keep the relationship going. Be honest and talk to him...you maybe suprised...
2006-11-07 09:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by Janhellyca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ex sounds like she's trying steal your boyfriend back from you. I'd put a stop to it in a firm and aggressive manner. I'd make him change the number and tell him not to let either him or his mother give the number out to his ex. If this doesn't work, I would confront the ex either on his phone or in person.
2006-11-07 09:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by Ben R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his mom gave his x his number that's one thing, but he has the power now to block her # if he truly doesn't want her calling. If he cares about u then he would care if something he was doing was hurting u. Rather than playing games and driving yourself crazy by constantly wondering about his calls and checking his phone...........just honestly tell him how much it hurts u and how u don't agree with it, but don't accuse him of things, guys really get defensive if they think they are being told what to do.......so just be honest how u feel and if he refuses to block her # then u know its something he wants to do. If that is the case then u have to make the decision if u want to be with a guy that continues to have contact with her to spare her feelings but won't do that for u.
2006-11-07 09:33:54 · answer #5 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be jumping the gun on this...But you have a right to be suspicious...You have to ask yourself a few things...1:Do you trust him enough not to cheat on you? 2:Is it worth your while to be in a relationship where you have to question his every move? 3:How much time do you have invested in the relationship? Now the last question here is important. If you have years invested,then you need to find out whats going on (you need to anyway).But,if you have a few weeks or a few months invested,then the lack of trust this early in the relationship is a bad thing.You have to talk to him and find out what the deal is..Don't come off with an attitude about it tho...Then decide if you believe him...The choice will be clear after that..Good luck
2006-11-07 09:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by Frank D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know what you need to do but looking for some reasurrance....Dont let yourself be in denial...He is definately cheating...if he cant let you answer the phone, or is hiding numbers from you or dont even want to talk on the phone when your around...he is obviously doing something behind your back...Good Luck
2006-11-07 08:58:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a life! make it clear that you will not permit this. Or better still get even! Ask your boyfriend if u can give his number to a few friends. Give it to some male friend and ask him to call you when you are with your boyfriend.
Tit for TAT!
2006-11-07 08:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by lovelylongrana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him take you for a fool, he's obviously lying! Guys only lie and cheat because we allow them to. Offer an ultimatum and if it doesn't stop, get rid of him. You deserve better!
2006-11-07 08:52:24 · answer #9 · answered by salstick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He obviously has something to hide....if he wont discuss it with you let him know that the relationship will suffer because of it, and tell him how much this is hurting you.
2006-11-07 08:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to be honest with you and if he denies anything shove that phone right up is azz.
2006-11-07 09:01:33 · answer #11 · answered by hotbitch69_xoxo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋