how do i stop my 2yr old temper screaming instead of asking for things?

Question

he can talk when he wants to but just doesnt bother. its really getting to me. Help

Answer 1

Ignore the tantrums and praise the good behaviour. I know it sounds difficult, especially when you are in the supermarket and people are staring, but believe me it works.

Answer 2

I emphathize... my 2 & a 1/2 year old is the same way.. She's now to the point where all I can do is ask her if she'd like a hug, which she usually does. If that's not enough, I just let her work it out. It's actually a normal part of development. They have the independence to want things, but they haven't learned waiting, choosing or just not getting their way. Good luck! We'll make it!

Answer 3

my child used to do this so i know how infuriating it can be. When ever my child started screaming and having a tantrum i sat her on the "naughty step" and ignored her for a couple minutes. then when she stopped screaming i asked her what she wants. if the screaming carrys on she stays on the naughty step for another 2 minutes.... if the screaming stops and i am asked nicely she has a better chance of getting what she wants.
it maybe hard at first but trust me your child will soon learn that the screaming will not get him anywhere. you have just gotta stick with it. good luck :)

Answer 4

That's why it's called "terrible twos" just ignore the screams and reward the asking, make sure he says please and thank-you, or at least please. I put my daughter in her room a couple of time for some quiet time, this resulted in much louder screaming, but after about 3-5 mins I went in explained why this was not good behaviour, not sure if she really understood, but there was no more screaming, now if she starts, I just ask her if she wants to go for quiet time in her room, screaming stops instantly. Problem solved.

Answer 5

my 2 year old does the same - reassuring to know it's probably a phase! If mine does it, I say that I can't understand what he is saying and that I will only answer if he talks properly. You need to stay really calm and talk quietly. If he goes on and on he gets put on the step for 2 mins. Oh, and sometimes I shout back if I am having a particularly bad day!

Answer 6

It is massively tough to do, but the best thing is to ignore it (and I mean utterly ignore it, don't look at him and don't speak to him, stop him if he is doing something dangerous like head banging..but still no words!)
Then give heaps of attention and praise when he is good. He will learn he will get what he wants when he is good and get absolutely nothing when he is having a tantrum!

Answer 7

It takes a LOT of patience (and ear plugs help! lol) but the best method is to not respond to the tantrums. Soon he will realize that when he asks for something, he receives it...but if he screams, he is ignored.

Answer 8

You tell him he is not going to get what he wants untill he learns to ask. Than if it just gets worst than you ignore him and he will have a better chance of talking.

Answer 9

maybe he gets his way quicker by screaming .... let him scream and when hes done he will not have gained anything ..talk to him and let him know screaming will not get him what he wants asking will and if you cannot give him what he wants explain why and maybe he can have at a later time

Answer 10

Don't respond to his tnatrums. Very calmly tell him that you will listen to him when he asks you calmly and then walk away. When he's calm, make eye contact with him and give him you full attention. He will soon realise that being calm and speaking politely will get him what he wants and that tantrums don't.