my 3 year old little girl wasnt that bad until her little brother was born. he is now 6 months and she is getting out of control.ive tried everything. being nice, being nasty, the naughty step, time out, ive treated her eveytime shes been good, nothing works.she shouts at me swears at me and wont go to bed. she used to be such a happy little girl. its not because shes left out cause i always involve her.
2006-11-07 00:26:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Right about the time that the baby turned 6 mos was always the time that was most difficult for my older kids. The baby, who had previously been a little lump, was now more interactive and was sitting up and becoming mobile. A threat to the older child's territory!
Praise the child for good behavior. "I like how you picked up the blocks without being reminded" or "The baby loves it when you hug him so gently!"
Give reminders ahead of time about what is expected or what is going to happen. "When we go to the restaurant, you must stay in your seat and use an inside voice" or "In 5 minutes we will have to put away toys and put on pajamas" or "We'll be going to the grocery store today and I'll need you to help hold my list."
Talk about what things were like when the older child was the baby. Find ways for the older child to help and feel important. Stress the things that she can do that the baby can't do yet and how those skills or behaviors make her "a big girl!"
Make sure to spend one-on-one time with the older child as often as possible, doing an activity of their choice. If bedtime is difficult, maybe it would be good to lay down in bed with her for 5-10 minutes and cuddle and talk about the day. Do you have a bedtime routine?
2006-11-07 00:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try giving her that oh-so-precious one on one time! She is jealous.. but who wouldn't be? She was the baby for 2 1/2 years!
Use the opportunity to talk to her about her baby brother, and the way she behaves. 3 year olds are VERY SMART!!! Don't think for one minute she doesn't know whats going on!
Finally, remember you are still the Mommy. She still needs to respect you!
2006-11-07 09:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by Fluffy Rover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may not have noticed it but even though you try to involve her, she still feels as though her little brother has taken her place.
She is feeling as though he is there to take you away from her.
She shouldn't be cussing you though. That is just wrong. No child of mine will cuss me. She thinks you are playing with her. She is just trying to get atention. But she wouldn't cuss you unless you cuss her or cuss around her so you need to look at that cause she might just cuss you in the wrong place and embarrass you. Be more stern with her. I would say take a belt to her behind when she gets out of hand but i know it is against the laws in the us to do that. I don't know where you live though. So i can't say.
2006-11-07 08:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i had the same problem my 3 yr old started trippin too when her baby bro was born and i got a time out shair every time she would start crying i would say time out and she go to the chair and stop for about 2 weeks then she started helping me with him as the big sister now i told her to go get the pamper bring me his clothes and the bottle i taught her how to make a bottle now she feekls like mommas lil helper and a big girl now
2006-11-07 12:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by ladi t 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why dont you try telling her to behave and ask her why she behaves like that ask her is she is jealous and if this doesnt work spank her
2006-11-07 08:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by daddyof3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋