My best friend planned a 50th birthday party for her father and let her friends and family know there were no children invited. This included my 13 month old. She did say, however, the worse case scenario and I couldn't get a babysitter, then to take my child. My chidcare arrangements failed at the last second and when I told her this, she said that it wouldn't be fair if I came to the party seeing as though no one else there would have their kids. I understood this completely, but felt slighted because of our previous conversation. I can understand a nighttime party and not inviting children, but a 12p-4p on a Sunday and no kids allowed??
2006-11-07 00:24:31 · 21 answers · asked by Alison M 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I don;t know about rude, as it is for her father, but the apparent withdrawal of the invitation seems a kind of slight
2006-11-07 01:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like it was a family type party. Which is really weird as she is a daughter having a party for her dad. To me that is weird in itself...the offer she made obviously wasn't sincere or was rethought when no one else asked to bring their children.
If she is truly a Best Friend - you should be able to discuss this with her. If not, consider the source and rethink that "totally best friend" theory you have! At 13 months, you could have put them in a playpen in a room in the house and taken turns watching the child with your spouse or other friends...it shouldn't have been that big a deal...I find the situation weird...unless your 13 month old is a heathen...which I doubt?!
2006-11-07 00:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by Angelfood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just because the party is on a sunday afternoon doesn't mean that it won't be an adult party...after all it is a 50th birthday party...some-times people don't want to have a party and have to plan on having it "kid friendly"....
i agree that her telling you that you could bring the baby and then telling you that you couldn't was pretty rude...but then again you knew it was a "no kids allowed" party from the get go...so what did you expect?
2006-11-07 02:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not rude. It's her Dad's 50th B-Day and that is how she and probably the family planned. Respect their preference. Too bad grandparents couldn't watch your bundle of joy for 4 hrs... it happens. Get over it, she's your friend... they wanted an all Adult party for whatever reason. Don't let this event ruin a friendship. Let it go and just think u had an extra special day with your baby.
2006-11-07 00:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by Staci 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not rude at all. It is up to the host to make the rules and the guests to follow them if they want to attend. Too many times we take offense at the smallest things when if we just use our heads, who is it that is asking us to attend a gathering? Key word, ASKING. If we are offended or do not want or like the rules set for the gathering, why be offended? It is not for us to say what the rules should or should not be but the host, the one that is footing the bill, so to say. Now if you want to foot the bill and do all the work involved, you should be the one to make the rules but if not, don't be so shallow as to think you should be offended if your kids are not invited to an adult affair when no other kids are being invited either.
2006-11-07 00:38:20 · answer #5 · answered by ramall1to 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The party is for her father, and I'm certain that she wants his day to be perfect. It would also be very boring for a little one, I am sure. It would simply be awkward for you to bring your child after she had requested that "no one" bring children, and I'm sure you wouldn't want to be the only one with children in tow. It was not rude for her to exclude children on any type of party invitation she wished, and there's no reason to feel slighted. You simply have other priorities right now.
2006-11-07 00:29:08 · answer #6 · answered by JenV 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes,. this is very fair. Remember, it is a 50th Birthday Party, not a child's party! There are certain factors that make this party different than a child's party.
*There may be drinking.
*There may be tired old people.
*No childrens games to keep children occupied.
etc.
2006-11-07 01:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by lin_z_cole05 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
that is totally creative, and intensely pathetic. you may want to turn invites down, and if you're apprehensive about your toddlers feeling undesirable or their acquaintances being damage, then encourage your toddlers to desire the buddy a minimum of - like a telephone call or the subsequent time they meet. in basic terms get a card, or have your toddlers make one themselves. do not get expensive presents. notwithstanding you do, do not go on such as your tag-switching anymore! that is pathetic, and (in case you haven't already been stumbled on out) as quickly because it receives out, you'll seem terrible (with good reason) and so will your toddlers (which they don't deserve).
2016-11-28 21:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as an ADULT ONLY PARTY TO GET AWAY FROM CHILDREN and so that the focus is on the father and his day, plus i'm sure some alcohol and free conversation without worrying about little ears in room so that the adults can have fun, without the kids, what is so wrong about that. adults need adult time without kids, so that the adults can have adult fun ! cut the cord , don't be a prude and grow up !
2006-11-07 00:39:50 · answer #9 · answered by grim_reaper_69 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
An afternoon party doesn't automatically make it an event that children can attend.
It's nice to have an afternoon without children running around. Also, not everyone likes children, and if it's their party, then they shouldn't have to deal with them.
2006-11-07 03:21:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A request for no children is not rude.
Your friend knew you would feel uncomfortable with the whispered comments of guests who left their children at home. She was trying to spare your feelings. You need to look at this side of the coin.
2006-11-07 00:34:38 · answer #11 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋