I dont understand it.Okay from the start,we decided that we gona take things slow.We both at the age to settle down but we havent really talked bout it been him and I.Taking it slow is a good thing if we want it to last but how slow can we go?He says the most sweetest things and told me that his parent do know about me but I have not officially met them.He has met my parents but was not introduced as my guy friend.Meeting the parents is a very big thing and it makes me wonder when he is deciding to take me home.We have only been together for 5 months but we both dont want to mess around anymore.When I bring up the issues that we do have (like every normal couple has),he pushes me away by just agreeing or changing the topic.We spend lots of time with friends and dont have much quality time together.To be honest,I dont think that either of us make the effort to be alone.He has made a promise to me and I think I could truly luv him but im afraid that he wont want to talk about that.Help
2006-11-06 23:44:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are taking it slow, then you are doing just that...taking it slow. Meeting the parents is a big step in relationships, so that would be speeding it up.
Guys never like discussing issues...they are just "guys" and would rather ignore it and let it resolve itself. He may be avoiding you as one on one because he does not want to discuss these things and knows that is what you want to do.
Next time you are on the phone, I would just tell him that your family was asking about whether or not you would be there for Thanksgiving...and just state that you need to know so they can firm up their plans.
If he says "no" then he is not ready. At that point, you should probably take it "slower" if you know what I mean and date other people. I wouldn't talk about dating other people in that same conversation though, I would wait until you find someone else you think you might be interested in and then tell him.
Relationships are about timing, and if he is not ready and you are then you need to find someone else that is...but you need to verify that first.
2006-11-07 00:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've only been together 5 months. You are only beginning to know each other. Why rush things? If neither of you make the effort to spend time alone together, maybe you aren't ready for this kind of relationship. Or you aren't right for each other.
Take some more time! Get to know each other better. Try to plan things just for the two of you and see how it goes. If you settle down with this guy, you won't have all these other people around all the time.
If he doesn't introduce you to his parents at some point, then maybe he isn't serious about the relationship. Just don't push him too far, or he may back off. You don't say how old you are, but I'm sure you have plenty of time yet!
Good luck!
2006-11-07 00:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is he a virgin.
Scare of committing.
Bad up bringing.orphaned. Abuse, ashamed of his family.
Got another girlfriend.
Left the love of his life and doesn't want to talk about it.
Just in it for the sex.
He has got a secret clearly he thinks he can escape you from knowing.
Who are his friends?Ask them. Because who he is, is what he isn't tell you!
Where does he come from.
Does he ask for money.
Is he using you for something.
2006-11-06 23:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by shadow 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He isn't ready for the "us" talk yet. If ya'll haven't spent alone time yet, u very much still in the friendship stage of ur relationship. Keep the conversation to "u and I", & protect ur heart, allow him to progress the relationship.
2006-11-06 23:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't get it ypu call him guy freind yet you say you've been together 5 months. What kind of relationship do you actually have? If his just your friend would you be offended if he slept with another girl?
2006-11-06 23:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, u want to talk to him, but it seems like he is living in the present. maybe he doesn't want to go that far in the relationship. but be agressive to get some alone time with him, so you can talk about it. just be prepared that it might turn into an argument
2006-11-06 23:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by sam 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he probably just wants u for 1 thing
2006-11-06 23:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by Texas Made! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He doesnt want an "us"
2006-11-06 23:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋