My Boyfriend cheated on me over the weekend, but he came clean the next day. i forgave him because i value trust in our and any relationship and gave him a second chance, but after he told me i asked him if she ment anything to him and he hasnt replied yet. I love the guy but since he hasnt replied and its been 3 days could this mean ill lose him to the other woman, i want to be with him, but i dont want to force me to stay with me. i dont want to lose him, but he means so much to me im willing to let him go, as long as he can be happy and we can stay friends
2006-11-06 23:41:05 · 5 answers · asked by fallen_angel2099 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try not to think about it much. Second chances are fine as long as you don't let it get out of hand. No third chances. NEVER. If you give him a third chance he will continue to be unfaithful, and you will be in a very bad place (cheating on him to get back at him and having your heart ripped out time after time.)
as for your current situation, Try finding out who the girl is and talk to her about it. Ask her if there are any feelings involved and reason with her. Don't go looking for trouble and beat her ass if she's smaller than you. That won't do anything but piss your boyfriend off.
Make sure you tell him that you are going to talk to her so he doesn't think you're going behind his back. but don't ask him if you can. And you should put him on a guilt trip for a little bit. Don't take it out of hand though. no longer than a month and a half.
2006-11-06 23:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for him that he came clean but it is bs that he hasn't answered you yet!! I mean he cares enough about you to tell you but should care enough to give you an answer. My husband cheated on me and he came clean unfortunately his was drunken stupidity. That was over 12 years ago and him and I are closer than ever we actually are best friends because of the honesty. I think you are a great person for giving him a chance and for willing to let him go even though you care so much good for you if he doesn't answer you deserve better.
2006-11-07 07:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by bowler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, think you just lost him. Release him, let him go, it may take time for you to forget him. But it's better to let him go now while the wound is still "raw", dun wait till the later part when you are healing and he accidentally hurt you again. No point in holding on.
I alwaes believe in "LOVE, make ppl stay together. UNDERSTANDING, make ppl leave each other for a better life."
Good Luck
2006-11-07 07:46:14 · answer #3 · answered by ProblemGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be that he is thinking about the answer very carefully...
If he says yes, then you would end it because you meant so little to him... And if he says no, then you would end it because he had so little regard for you...
Either way, he feels like it is over...
2006-11-07 07:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would let him go if i were you. you said yourself you are ready to let him go, and if he doesn't want to leave he will tell you eventually. he's probably confused right now. just tell him it's okay if he wants to go out with the other woman, you can handle it. then he'll tell you what he wants.
2006-11-07 07:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋