I broke up with my B/f of just under 2yrs about 4 months ago , i lived with him and the break up was really harsh . he was a bit on the heavy handed side and when i moved back home he trashed ALL my belongings all my baby photos all my clothes everything. As you could imagine i was gutted. Since then i have spent most my time working to get over it and it has worked to a point but my prob is i met this guy who is really nice and kind he showers me with compliments and never miss treats me however im not realy that atracted to him and we agree that were just kinda **** buddies in a sence and neither of us want anything more . however i have met another guy who is 2 years younger than me he is really funny and very cheeky and we flirt like mad with each other. i have never made a move on him cos i dont know if i want to i am really atracted to him but he dose have an imature side to him and just no i dont think i am ready for anything big as i am still trying to forget the grief and hate
2006-11-06 23:37:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time will heal. Trying helping your mother.
2006-11-06 23:39:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've answered it yourself - you don't feel ready for something big. However, that doesn't stop you from trying something small! Maybe you should try dating this guy, and see if his immature side is only apparent when he is flirting, or if it's too big an obstacle for you. Either way, it's worth a risk. One bad break-up doesn't mean all men are like that, honest. And in this day and age, it's perfectly acceptable for you to have a bit of fun - you should not look at every relationship as being long-term right from the start, just enjoy them day by day.
2006-11-06 23:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by cuddles_gb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know that the casual guy you are seeing is not somebody that you want a serious relationship with then there is no reason not to give this other guy a chance. It sounds to me that you aren't ready for a full on relationship so just see how it goes. You may be on the rebound which is why you are jumping from man to man. It may be good to spend some time on your own and just enjoy being single! Hope it all works out!
2006-11-06 23:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by Lottie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deal with the grief and hate is to get another partner who can love you rather than mistreat you.
This is an interesting, but not uncommon problem with love. Who does your heart really belong to? You'll have to decide that for yourself. The gentleman who's two years younger than you sounds like a wonderful person who can help heal your heart- maybe you should talk to him about your feelings. Your "**** buddy" is a nice guy, and if things don't develop further, he will be a long term friend.
Of course, understanding their motives is also important. Before making any decisions, understand why each of them love you the way they do, and then decide who you want to be with, if anyone.
2006-11-06 23:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by Link 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i think we would all like to have to men that we can make are minds up over ... you luck lady .. now heresa what you do ... this one man .. the one thats kind and loving to you ..mr 1 ... ok is more than likley just wating to be a proper boyfriend to you but not yet as he knows you not ready ..... on the other hand mr 2 .. the flirty one has captered you sence of adventer .... and thats always really nice when they do that ..but .. already you have thought that there is something about him that you dont really like .. so even though you had a problem with the man that was so mean to you .. and im so glad that hes out of your life .. well doneyou ... you now need to compare the two men that are now around to the ( nite ) that hurt you ... see if one of them comes closest to him ..and ...( run from him ) your heart will gide you just listen .. but if you want my advice ..move way from mr2 .. good luck
2006-11-06 23:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by kittyblinkhorn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are on the rebound, and being unfair on yourself. Sex is wonderful, but unfortunately, us gals are labelled sluts if we have casual relationships like you describe. Why not rather give dating a miss for awhile and discover who YOU are. Give yourself first time to heal, and then time to readjust to being single again. Take your time and recover your self respect. Then you will be ready to meet Mr Right. By the way, when u do, you don't want your reputation getting in the way. Slow down Hon.
2006-11-07 00:06:35 · answer #6 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same as the others really, I think you should take some time out for yourself, Trying to think about other relationships and their meaning won't help you move on from the bad one. Start enjoying life again as you not as someones girlfirend, spend time with your mates and think about blokes much later on. We don't need men to survive, you just gotta find you and enjoy yourself for the time being.. good luck.
2006-11-06 23:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by CEVP55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you had a rough time with your ex will kind of cause you to be wary of getting deeply involved but you just take things easy with men. At the rate your going (keeping boyfriends you're not sure of) you'll soon be called names expecially if the town you're living in is not quite big. I suggest you take it easy!
2006-11-07 00:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by ndy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay single....flirt as much as you can...if your gonna sleep with anyone use protection....life's too short to be wondering what if and who with....just enjoy yourself and stop worrying about other people...the heavy handed guy should be left to his own devices...he's not good for you...the immature one will be good for a few flings but if your not ready then just have fun meeting other lads....you have a whole life ahead of you...don't waste time wondering...just go out and have the best time of your life
2006-11-06 23:56:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u dont want to go out with 2 guys at once, just leave it as it is,ur still getting over ur ex,if ur happy with the first guy ur sleeping with i say go for it give urself time it may get to the stage that u may have a relationship with him,just be m8s with the second guy x
2006-11-06 23:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 10:08:47 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋