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Question

Ok I asked a question yesterday. And this is like a follow up question. I just found out my man is 51 (he's been telling me he was 41) I'm 21. Just to give you all a little background. My question is. Do any of you see it being possiable at all to stay together. I'm not even talking about love are caring for one another right now. I'm just talking about the age difference. 20 yrs was a big age jump for me. Now it's damn 30 yrs. He's older than my father and mother. Closer to my grandparents age. I mean short term yea maybe. But I dont' know long term are not. So what do you all think about it. Can a relationship w/ this big of age difference last. If so why are why do you think along the lines you think? Thanks in advance for answering my question everyone.

Answer 1

Look my friend, it is very hard for a couple with that difference of age to stay together a long time. Remember that you are young, and you haven't lived even half of what he has experienced in his life.
Soon, you are going to want to go out, party, have friends, do things that people from OUR age do. He is old for that, I'm sure he has partied so much he doesn't want to hear about it. He has gone through many experiences that you haven't because of your age.
Don't make the mistake of being with someone that at the end, if he lied to you about his age, he can lie to you about anything. And don't throw your youth to the trash, he lived already, as you said he could be your father, or grandfather, imagine all the things they did at your age, and during the rest of their lives till now.
Just follow your dreams, go for it. If you really think that the age is not important, think that it's not the age, is the life experience.

Answer 2

I find age differences to matter more before your eighteen simply because before your eighteen your not an adult and shouldn't be dating people who are say 20 or older. However after your well over eighteen even only a couple years you can date any one older than you that you want to date. And I always go with the saying that love is blind it can happen to any two people despite race, religion, and in your case age. So if you truly love him it doesn't matter that he is 51, but more importantly you need to know if he is capable of having a relationship that will last. I would forget about the age barrier and worry more about deciding whether or not a relationship will last with him by how good he is at holding a relationship together. Date him as if he was your age what characteristics do you look for?, does he have them?, how many is he missing?, Will it work out?. Then decide but as for the age barrier I would say it's not extremely important.

Answer 3

Honey i just don't think it will work out for long or short term. First of all he lied, what else isn't he telling u and second, u are increadbly young compared to him. He lived and saw most of his life already, don't u want to do that too with someone a little closer in age to u. Like u said he's older than ur mom and dad. That's a little crazy for me. Look at it this way all the time that u spend with this guy could be wasted when u could be spending it with someone else who will be around longer and who u could see growing old with. U don't want someone growing 20 times older than u, what about 10 years from now he'll be slowing down quicker than u know it. Honey pick a guy that's at least 20 years younger and enjoy ur young life, it's a great thing. It's so much fun!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

The first thing that comes to mind is having to watch your love die of old age when you are just in your late 30s or mid-40s. But as the saying goes age is just a number and if you don't think you could possibly love anyone as much as him then maybe there is nothing you can do. My bet is on it just lasting the short term.

Answer 5

I think that it's highly likely you'll find someone in their 20's that you will be attracted to, just as much or more than this older man. While the relationship is possible, although drastically different because of physical hinderances (for instance, your sex life will take a plummet soon), if you love him then it's possible to hold together. As I said though- I think it's much likelier you'll find someone closer to your age that you will love moreso. Don't rush into something like this!

Answer 6

his age shouldn't be a problem if you really like him. but, why did he feel he had to lie? what else has he lied about? I would ask him those questions. Now you know he's a liar is he going to continues to lie about things. See I'm not sure he can be trusted but you should see how things go for the next month or so. Age difference is nothing you gotta sugar daddy, lots of us have them, i mean your both grown ain't nothing wrong with it. follow your heart. Good luck!!

Answer 7

Honestly, I don't see it lasting. What happens if you want to explore, or go hiking, he can't? I understand the theory that age is only a number, but realistically as one's age progresses, the body begins to change, medically and physically. Are you @ 21 maybe 24 by that time, planning to hang on?

Answer 8

age is a number and doesnt matter to most, the fact that he lied about his age first off should be the indicator that this relationship is not going to last. and also if you find it hard to get along with him being so much older is another indicator that the relationship is not going to last

Answer 9

thirty years is a huge difference, he was a grown man and had probably had a number of serious relationships before you were even born. However you have to go along with your feelings on this one, love has no age barrier. good luck with whatever decision you make!

Answer 10

i dont think age is an issue if you love someone. but i dont think that you feel comfortable with it by your question. you need to work out if you are comfortable with the age difference to continue a relationship with this man. and what kind of relationship you see yourself having with him. talk to him about it.