I've been told several times to move on with my life and i know its the only reasonable thing to do but i cannot. I've tried dating someone else but all i see when i kiss my current boyfriend is my ex boyfriend's face. I've tried reading but he comes back to me, tried going out with my friends but all i think of is him. He's basically always on my mind even after three years. I cant even think of giving my virginity to someone else but to him, though he's gone and with someone else now. What should i do?
2006-11-06 23:23:29 · 21 answers · asked by Sammy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh sweetheart .... the easyest thing in the world would be to say ..move on .. but you dont ever .... thats the truth ... all you can do is this .. and i hope it helps ... it dod for me ..( a little ) write all your feelings down ... us a pen and paper ... it takes longer but it really helps with the healing .. as you have to keep reading it .... then only if you feel safe to do so .. send it off to him ... and let it go ... dont then worry that you shouldnt have done .. or if you cant send it forwhat ever reason .. fold it up put it in a draw and once ever 2 or 3 months .. take it out re read it .. cross of what you now have gotten over and there will be some things ... then put it back away .. keep doing thins and one day i promise you ... it wont hurt . its the fact that we dodnt have the means to (end it our selfs that couses us the problem ..this way you can end it ...because you have got it out there ..good luck ..
2006-11-06 23:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by kittyblinkhorn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your split with your ex obviously happened for a reason, otherwise you would still be together.
It's all too easy to view previous relationships through rose tinted spectacles but if they truly were that fantastic then you wouldn't have split up in the first place.
You need to accept the things you cannot change, your ex has moved on and so should you.
It sounds as if you are only living half a life and whilst you are clinging to the past you are missing out on everything the future has to offer.
If you cannot commit yourself to your current boyfriend then you should finish the relationship, it's unfair to string someone along when your mind and your heart is elsewhere.
Have a complete break from relationships and throw yourself into new and exciting things, work on finding out who you are and what makes you tick - don't let someone else define you.
Try being selfish for a change and focus on what makes you happy, not who.
It's not easy but eventually you will reach a point where you can remember your ex fondly without pining for him.
Good luck!
2006-11-07 07:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by Witchywoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's not easy to move on after a breakup.
In your case I can only suggest you find some professional help. Whatever other people might say, will never be good enough, because you don't allow yourself to move on.
I'm sorry you feel like that. I know it's hard. But hang on, he isn't the only guy in the world, I know there is a Mr. Right for you somewhere, but first you must let go of your ex, asap.
2006-11-07 07:38:48 · answer #3 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and Life have a terrible habit of breaking our heart. The good news is that you will come out of this stronger and more mature.
Stay upbeat, confident and always believe in yourself, who knows the new you might attract another or even get the attention of your ex
Men like women whose "Get up and Go has not Got up and Gone" so get going girl
Lots of people feel this way as Christmas draws nigh, Good Luck
2006-11-07 07:38:47 · answer #4 · answered by JAYFIRE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get it in your head that you must learn to move on your ex has moved on, it sounds as if you are in a depression and until you get that sorted out you will be unable to live your life fully. Are you seeing your ex through rose coloured glasses now, think of the reasons why you split up. You was not meant to be a couple please try to sort you head out and then you will be able to move on. I wish you the very best.
2006-11-07 07:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you both shared a special kind of friendship for you to be so taken to him but since there wasn't any sexual relationship between you (you're a virgin) then you can actually move on.
Dont try too hard to get in touch with him but dont avoid your meeting each other either.......i guess i really can't give you a concrete advice but why not try psychological help?
2006-11-07 07:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by ndy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea you need to move on, talk to a counselor or therapist if needed. If your ex has someone else then he has moved on, and you should do the same, i know it is hard, but why do you want to be with someone, who doesn't want to be with you, spend some time with other guys on dates, if one doen't work out go to another, something good eventually will happen.
2006-11-07 07:31:38 · answer #7 · answered by mpw80525 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand totally how you feel im struggling to move on from my ex aswell because i still see him as a friend and hes always still around if needed its kinda like we are still together. If he got a new girlfriend i would be really upset but i will have to get used to it. It does get easier though trust me.
2006-11-07 07:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Jen ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant move on then i dont think you have any choice but not to move on and just go through life coping.
I dont mean to sound harsh but i think i would take on your problems if it meant mine would be gone.
There is nothing you can do in life sometimes except live whatever way you can.
2006-11-07 07:25:40 · answer #9 · answered by malcolmg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH please give yourself a break, allow your self to move on, by the sounds of things you are still holding on. Give your old relationship respect and let it go, if its meant to be you will end up together, if not, then there is much much more waiting out there for you.
2006-11-07 07:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋