I really like this guy but he is socially different from me. We are in the same profession but he is....how can i say it.....very middle class compared to myself. he speaks properly and is a real gent around women. Is it possible that two people from two totally different backgrounds can have a relationship?i feel really common when im around him. (not that this is a bad thing, and he hasnt questionned my background or anything). am i just being paranoid?i feel as if he can do better than me.
2006-11-06 23:06:39 · 25 answers · asked by Pretty Little Girl xxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ive had to work really hard to get into this profession, and i feel as if he looks down on me.
2006-11-06 23:08:56 · update #1
Hey,
Sounds like ur being paranoid! If ur in the same profession...uve got things in common....go for it! What have you got to loose? Good Luck!
2006-11-06 23:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Fun Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No-one person is better or worse than anyone else! (we all pee - even the Queen!) Don't put yourself down like that - people can sometimes sense when you think less of yourself. You obviously have no self confidence. Hold your head up and walk proud. Be proud of what you have become and who you are. Like you said, you worked hard to get there. IF he looks down on you, he is not worth the effort anyhow. People from different backgrounds CAN and do have relationships. (I'm British, married a German, living in SA)!
2006-11-07 07:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get to know him a bit better. Give him a chance to get to know what makes you tick whilst you do the same with him. If he still gives the impression that he's looking down on you and this message is getting clearer, he's obviously a bit of a snob. However, you may just be putting yourself down and assuming he looks down on you. Organise a social night out with work even if it's just a couple of drinks after work. Make the effort to chat to him. You'll soon get to know each other in a relaxed atmosphere outside the more serious work environment. Don't judge a book by its cover! He could be a hell of a boy!!
2006-11-07 07:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound as if you're trying to prove something----what that something is I am clueless---
Why don't you just be friends and do possible social things together without the expectations of romance or pressures.
You do sound paranoid---but also someone with low-self-esteem. Don't doubt yourself and you'll be fine!
People can have relationships and be from different backgrounds this is what makes Life interesting!
2006-11-07 07:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying and stop being paranoid. You are just as good as him, and yes it is possible for 2 people to have a relationship if they're from different backgrounds, so long as they have something in common.(anything!!!) You need to stop making yourself believe that you're inferior, because you are not!
2006-11-07 07:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by laska 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whe are in the 21st century, why even ask for different social statuses. You have the same job and, from what you write, you see eachother outside as well. You are making a problem out of nothing, since he doesn't even seem concerned about your social status.
What interests him is you not your background.
2006-11-07 07:20:41 · answer #6 · answered by ale_limp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure he doesn't just use you for the good times so to speak, then not take you home to mother- if you know what i mean.
But when 2 people get on, that's all that matters. If he feels you are not well spoken enough or socially his equal etc, then it's his loss.
He may be your Mr Darcy ofcourse!
2006-11-07 07:14:02 · answer #7 · answered by brainlady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're being paranoid. Obviously, your background matters more to you, than to him! You've worked hard to get where you are, so sit back and enjoy yourself!
2006-11-07 07:13:50 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want someone who gives you the third degree about every facet of your life? Would you then be worried about his nosiness? Maybe he just likes you for who you are, and doesn't want to pry into your private affairs.
2006-11-07 07:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about "social status"... That went out with the Victorians... Does he like you??? If the answer is yes, then ENJOY IT!!!
2006-11-07 07:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋