Would he bless that marriage if he decided to marry her.Would it matter even if he became a christian?What if he left his wife because he found that she could longer fulfill his needs and he just wanted someone new
2006-11-06 22:51:55 · 33 answers · asked by JUSEve 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Just how selfish are you? "Doesn't fulfil your needs"...did you explain your needs to her before you married her? I would understand if there were other circumstances but you need to be honest with yourself pal, it's not your wife's fault is it? You just fancy someone else. What the hell has "God" got to do with it? If you really believed there was one, I take it you would have stood in his "house" before all your and her family and friends and pledged your lives to each other "for better for worse". Did you mean it when you said it?
I don't blame you for fancying someone else. I firmly believe humans are not meant to be monogamous but if you get married to someone and make those kind of promises to them you should really stick to it or admit you can't and dissolve the relationship making sure no one else is involved first.
I hope there are no kids involved - I don't think I could respect my father for leaving the family just because he "wanted someone new". But I'll bet you'd come up with a better story than that and make yourself look like a victim.
Where the hell are all the real men in this world?!? Would someone show me on a map please??!!??
2006-11-07 00:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by rondavous 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The answer to your question is NO, because God says the only way a man can divorce a woman is if SHE commits adultery. If they divorce for any other reason, and either of them find new partners, or both, then they are committing adultery, as they were never divorced in the eyes of the Lord. So therefore, if the man became a Christian, he would have to go back to his first wife and beg forgiveness, because only once a sin is recognized and the man has TRULY repented, then he would be forgiven, but all the time he would be committing adultery, so could not be forgiven until the sin stopped.
2006-11-06 23:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by Resolution 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This really has nothing to do with whether someone believes in god or not, rather, it is the seeking of an excuse to leave a current wife. All couples have challenges from time to time. The best approach is to set down with the current mate and openly address whatever problem exists, then, together, develop and implement a solution. Don't look other places for solutions.
If that solution can't be found or one of the two doesn't want to participate, then splitting may be the only solution left, but it is your decision and isn't justified by anyone else, real or imagined.
2006-11-06 22:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by Randy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God will forgive anyone who turns to Jesus and repents of their sins. There is really no sin too big, or too small, for Jesus to have paid the price for.
If he's already a christian and he leaves you, he is not doing right.
Marriage should be worked at and worked at, although it's recognised that it doesn't always end happy ever after. Those in an unhappy marriage will often choose to end it rather than to trust in God to make it better (He will).
Once divorce has happened, the christian will need to repent, and mean it, in order to be able to move forward in blessings.
The important thing here is, if you yourself are a christian, keep yourself pure whatever your husband is up to. (I've been through hubby's affair so I know it's asking a lot.) Don't resort to having an affair yourself. You will need help dealing with the pain and bitterness, don't try to do it alone, God gives us our christian family to help us through these times, as well relying on him to keep us going.
The best thing anyone told me when I went through this was to remember that I can't change anyone but me. I had to sit and trust god with my husband because he would do what he would do whether or not I liked it. Pray for him, and the other woman, and let god work.
2006-11-06 23:49:40 · answer #4 · answered by good tree 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
God forgives all, except blashemy of the Holy Spirit. So yes, he would forgive you. No one can say He would bless your new marriage, as it would NOT be in His will for you to leave your other wife because you wanted someone new. BUT, we cannot go around thinking we can do what we want because God will forgive us. There are consequences to your behaviour, even if God forgives.
If you left your other wife because you wanted someone new, in a few years time you will do the same to your next wife.
Remember my friend, He sees your heart and that is whats important.
2006-11-06 23:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by ccc4jesus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can relate your story to David the one who murdered one of his best soldiers cause he desired his wife and yet God said that David had a heart after Him. How does a God who is holy say such a thing when the Bible stands strongly against it?
Jesus came not because we were perfect but because of our imperfections we could never reach God - God came to us!
Adultery is wrong there is no nice way of saying it is not. You have broke a covenant which will affect you in the spiritual realm. You need to repent of breaking this and ask God for forgiveness. Then you need to live a life of separation from sin meaning you cannot be in a relationship with another person while married even still on paper - this is adultery. Live a life of commitment to God firstly and if you decide to leave your wife then at least be honest with her and leave rather then living a lie. Leaving your wife does not give you the right to enter another relationship as any separation will take time to heal - don't be fooled that another relationship is the answer when God alone needs to be your foundation.
Learn what has went wrong with this relationship and if possible meet with a Pastor discussing the issues of which then you and your wife should meet. If the meetings are in vain then the path will be clear to know what to do.
However God seeks restoration firstly and if this does not happen then at least restoration of your soul needs to happen.
Stick to Scripture as the devil will always lead you away from it.
But do remember that God does love you and in that your response should be - I will live my life back unto Him. As for David - He lived a life of repentance paying the price for his actions!
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2006-11-06 23:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
God forgives everyone. That is what makes him a loving God.
It doesn't matter what anyone does.
If you are the ex wife, you need to reflect on what you did in that marriage and not repeat yourself. If you are the husband, you should have worked with your wife and tried fixing things before finding another woman.
2006-11-06 22:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is just disgusting in my eyes, but many of the things I've done in my life are disgusting to someone else.
If that man one day comes to God (on his own) and asks for forgiveness, I promise you, God will forgive him. Thats God nature. He a loving God. He searches a person's heart and knows if they mean what they say. It is the relationship between the two.
Remember, no sin is greater than the other.
2006-11-07 23:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by DolphinLami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am currently going through this situation my husband walked out on me for his then pegnant mistress their child was born 5 months ago my husband knows the bible and can quote it he has always told others what they were doing wrong but now all of a sudden doesnt think he is committing adultrey he says thats not the case because in his words she wasnt betrothed to anyone we have been married for 20 years when we first got together i was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and i told him then if he couldnt handle that now was the time for him to leave but he stayed i had to stop working 6 years ago because i was in the medical field and began to have some mobility issues i now walk with a cane for outside use and a walker on bad days or for distance anyway other then that i am self sufficent he believes his child was a miracle given by god and that he and this mistresses relationship will be a happy one but then has also said if it doesn't work according to the bible i am reconciled to him i love this man but i can truly say he is really confused about things and he even believes he will still go to heaven after saying what is god going to do kill me ? at this point i am at a loss he doesn't seem to understand he is playing with fire in more ways then one
2014-09-05 02:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by jaaylaw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very tough question you are asking. It does say that it is wrong to leave a marriage, unless one is unfaithful.
It has happened to you and you must leave it in God's hands. It hurts very deep I know, but time does heal wounds. You will have to believe God is on your side, and loves you. All I can say is pray that God will take away the pain. Life is not over and God can bring better to you.
2006-11-06 23:31:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋