Why do "full time mums" (personally I hate that phrase as I believe that ALL mothers are full time) think they are wonderwoman just for keeping their own house clean and bringing up their own kids?
Do they not realise that they are lucky to be in that situation and that most mothers who work would dearly love to be a stay at home parent?
I personally have a lot more respect for mums who have to work as well as bringing up their children and doing everything else and think that they are the ones who really deserve the praise.
If you are a "full time mum" and wish to have a go at me for my opinion, please state whether you have a partner who works or you are living off benefits.
2006-11-06 22:49:57 · 29 answers · asked by Catwhiskers 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Oh boy are 'they' going to let you have it Desmond.
2006-11-06 23:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a "full time mum" No benefits, husband works. I know how lucky I am. I don't feel like wonder woman, the mothers that work and deal with everything else are the wonder women. I worked up until my son was 3, just before my daughter was born and it was a lot harder than staying at home. Personally though I think you should have respect for ALL mothers, we all have a hard job to do.
2006-11-07 06:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol. Well technically now I am a full-time mum (which makes me wonder what I was before??!!) This is because of cardiac illness which has stopped me from working. So I am on benefit and my hubby works. However I do not think I am a supermum but find being at home all day long to be very boring when I am used to working full-time. My son is at school and I look forward to 3pm and "fill in time" doing the housework cos it needs doing. Working and being mum and housewife was far more difficult although my son had less time from me. I think my ideal would be part-time work, but each woman is different.
I think given half a chance the majority of women WOULD like to stay at home with their kids or at least be able to pick them up friom school when they seem to have that 10 mins of incessant chatter telling you about their day.
But please remember all types of rearing children are hard - it's always greener on the other side of the fence.....
2006-11-06 23:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by mrs_iffy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have some good answers there! I agree with Jessie P-its hard being at work all day then going home to your family and housework, but it's equally hard being home alone with a baby or toddler all day. i found life exhausting when my children were younger, and I could never afford to give up work. I decided that I wanted to play a big part in my children's upbringing, having worked mostly evenings and weekends since I became a mum, so they get quality time with both me and their dad. The only mothers who I can't abide are the ones who work full time and swan around in posh cars, whilst leaving their children with childminders or full-time nursery even when newborn-why have a baby to leave it with someone else? that's my only gripe. Some women like being full-time mums, and if they can afford to do that, it certainly benefits the child. I don't think you are in any position to criticise!
2006-11-07 06:46:36 · answer #4 · answered by Twisty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I brought up my 6 year old daughter at home without working, my partner worked full-time, i considred myself lucky to be able to do that, now though we have also a one year daughter and to compensate that i now work part time, my partner usually does 2 months shop fitting near christmas so we can afford nice things for them both. i am also very very lucky to have a partner who is very hands on with our children, from changing nappies to putting on a wash! if olny all men were like that lol! I dont think mums that sit at home all day are wonderwoman they just have more time on their hands to do things like clean their house, i also believe its not because they think they are wonderwoman its mostly because thats all they do so its all they hjave got to talk about! a lot of them dont really go anywhere, oh maybe their friends for cuppa, after the school run!
2006-11-06 23:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by button moon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your sentiment. I would have loved to be a full time dad and house husband (wife earns more) but it wasn't financially possible.
I am well aware that being a mum is no mean feat, and that it is of course hard work, but you're spot on in that working parents have to spend a lot of time away from home and still get all of the household chores etc. done when they get in.
Children do not need permanent attention and every minute spare can be used while at home, but being at work means everything has to be done between the kids bed-time and your own.
2006-11-06 22:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by le_coupe 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The Borrowers is one that hasn't been mentioned yet. Might be a little soon for Old Yeller & Where the Red Fern Grows, but keep those in mind for later. My 3yo dd LOVES Legally Blonde because she thinks Barbie is the star! Also Charlotte's Web, Racing Stripes, Eight Below, The Little Prince. You might be able to get away with some early Shirley Temple films with all the singing. Try Air Bud, Beethoven, Pete's Dragon, Pebble & the Penguin, Dr. Dolittle, Stuart Little, Annie, Muppet Movies, the newer Flubber, or Space Jam. Some of these may be a couple of years too soon, but you know your kids. Hope some of these helped!
2016-05-22 07:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am a SAHM but yes, I do live off benefits. My fiance has a lot of medical problems which prevent him from working, and since I don't think I should be denied the chance of being a SAHM because of this, I have chosen to stay at home.
I have never considered myself to be wonderwoman, and I do have respect for those who have to work. I just think that every parent has the choice to do what each one wants to do, and I think that it would be a lot better for all concerned if we just kept our noses out of other people's business and stopped criticising the way others live.
2006-11-07 01:59:51 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The think it is a no-win situation. I don't have kids myself at the moment but we are planning them in the near furture. The problem we have come across is I will have to go back to work even though I don't wish to but we don't earn enough to pay the bills if I didn't work. On the other hand even if I go back to work it won't be worth it due to the money I'm going to have to pay out for childcare.
I believe a family should be a joint effort of mum and dad, and anyone who can bring up kids in a safe environment and the kids aren't unruly or rude or out of control deserve praise.
2006-11-06 23:02:23 · answer #9 · answered by smudge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do I suspect that you're of the opinion that women who stay at home with their kids are either incapable of a career or happy to be a benefits recipient? Are you even a parent??
I am a Mom. Period. The fact that I chose to sacrifice my career at 32yrs old in order to stay at home and care for my children (5 months, 17 months and 7yrs now by the way) is not something that I feel I deserve praise for, but then neither do I deserve the snide derision that you obviously feel the need to express. My husband and I talked long and hard and decided that despite the financial penalties it was best for our young children (the third was en-route) if I stayed at home. My husband works in the armed forces, he's well paid but not so well that its 'all gravy' and as we claim no benefits and have a mortgage our lifestyle has changed accordingly-and dramatically-that's what happens when you take £20k out of a household income. I guess it's true that it doesn't look that hard to stay home and 'do housework' but there are no defined hours to my 'job'. I'm up at all hours, awake and busy all day and that's 24/7,365 not 9-5 Mon-Fri with hubby taking over 'cos I work too'. That said, however I'm aware that I am lucky-lucky enough to see beyond the materialism that blinds a huge number of working parents to the fact that they're missing out on the greatest,most rewarding gift of all in order to afford two cars, holidays abroad and that gucci toy the neighbours kid wanted. Parents out there that both work in order to provide the basics you have my unreserved support and admiration. Single parents doing the same, I've been there, worn the t-shirt(two or three days in a row sometimes!) when my 7yr old was young and it's no mean feat to just stay awake sometimes never mind parent.
'Walk a mile in their shoes' the old saying goes.
In your case you'd better make it two.
2006-11-07 00:10:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Just so you know, not all "full time mums" (your phrase, not mine) think this way.
I know that I am blessed to be able to stay home and tend to our home, my husband and our daughter. I have to admit that I have a hard time understanding why a woman would choose to go to work when she has little ones at home, and also that it's not a choice I would ever make. Neither my husband nor I believe that daycare is a choice at all for our children.
As for your phrase, "full time mum"... I am a homemaker. It is my responsibility to make this house a comfortable, welcoming refuge for my family to come home to. Yes, I stay at home and tend to our daughter, but "stay at home mom" is not my job title. I take great pride in being a homemaker.
Oh, and any good mother is a full time mother. A good mother will love, hope for, worry about and care for their children "full time"!
2006-11-06 23:45:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋