i am very nervous about marring my boyfriend.......i want to and i am happy but still nervous....not sure why...he is more thanhappy to do it and everything and his parents are great help with the planning....but sometimes i wonder if i can be faitful or happy for the rest of my life with him......im sure i can and will but are these normal thoughts??????
2006-11-06 22:47:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes these are very normal thoughts. I knew that my husband was the one for me and that we were supposed to be together, but I was so nervous, the closer it got to our wedding day. I had the same kinds of thoughts: Am I really marrying him?? What if I'm not a good wife?? What if he isn't a good husband?? What if I don't like being married? What if, what if, what if....
All the time, knowing in my heart that I love this man and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. We have these thoughts because one phase of our life (being single) is coming to an end. We feel like we're losing a part of ourselves. And in a sense we are, but it's for the greater good. We are becoming one with the person God intended for us to be with. And so in the end, our wedding day was everything we hoped it would be, and I have never once regretted marrying him. He is my best friend and my lover, and my protector and provider...and you will feel the same, once you get over that "wedding day hump." lol
[However, having said all that, if you truly are having second thoughts, and you just don't have a peace about this deep down in your heart, then now is the time to step back and consider what you're about to do. If you have ANY misgivings about him; whether it be that he's going to be abusive, or be a druggie, or anything harmful such as that, then you need to stop and seriously reconsider. If he's abusive or otherwise harmful to you and your health NOW, then it's NOT going to get better with marriage. It will only get worse.]
But if your second thoughts are just cold feet, like most brides-to-be, then just take a deep breath, relax, and think of all the good things about your man and about being with him for life. :) It will be OK! Good luck. And relax!! ♥
2006-11-06 23:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by peachy78 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, My husband and I were both very nervous on our wedding night. Its normal. In fact I don't know one person who has said they weren't nervous. But its not that bad. After the first time you won't be so nervous anymore. It takes time to get used to doing it though. And I agree with some of the other comments..don't watch porn. Just relax and enjoy the moment.
2016-05-22 07:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very normal. Girls are specially emotional to such things.
It's like haunting and so-many-tears-I've-cried but when the real moment comes you just doubt whether u wanna change your life and your manners to flirt with men and all these questions arise: will I be happy or what if I fall in love with another, oh gosh... etc.
I think, everybody go thru it and you are not the first and not the last to experience it.
It's normal becuase you can hardly predict what is waitiing for you in the future with this man. First you think, you love and know 100% each other, and you do, but still, the person is a new member of your family. That's it.
2006-11-06 22:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always a bit of uncertainty with such a big commitment. But I remember I was pretty calm the week of my wedding and extremely calm the day of it - mostly because I knew I was making such a great decision to marry my hubby. If you have huge doubts, that is more of a problem. You should do everything in your power to be faithful - if you don't think you are capable of this, you may want to postpone the wedding and think about it more.
2006-11-07 00:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal!
If I was marrying my girlfriend I'd be dren-scared! It's a lifechanging, momentous decision. Even if you love someone with all your heart, it's normal to be worried about changing your life so drastically.
So, talk with your fiance. Let him know how you feel - I'm certain he feels the same way! Talk it through. And good luck!!
2006-11-06 22:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by Aisha C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very normal ! its a combination of the excitement, fear of the unknown and just plain wedding jitters. think about all the reason you want to marry him and keep reminding yourself of these. once you settle into married life things will be less tense and you two can just enjoy each other. don't worry everything will be fine.
2006-11-07 03:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is. Most brides go thru that phase. I'm getting married in a month's time and i keep asking myself the same questions as u.
2006-11-06 23:33:37 · answer #7 · answered by autumn lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is very normal to be nervous because there are a lot of possibilities in life and temptations... that only your will ,and faith in yourself can help you surpass these temptations...
2006-11-06 22:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by amarutu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really normal. Trust me.
2006-11-06 23:01:51 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me...that's very very normal.
2006-11-06 22:50:39 · answer #10 · answered by rinah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋