Is it possible to fall in love with someone you've never met in person?

Question

I met this Girl over the internet approx. 6months ago and have been talking to her every day since and for about three months we have been talking on the phone as well and have become very good friends. The only thing that has kept me from meeting her already is the fact that I am in the military and have not been back home in the states since February. We have more in common than you can imagine, The more I get to know about her the more I feel like I am falling for her. There is not a day that goes by that I dont think about her. Am I just crazy or is it accually possible to fall in love with someone youve never met in person....Please help

Answer 1

It is easy to fall in love over the internet but becareful not to confuse love with mere infatuation. The word love is used to lightly. Wait till you are able to hold and kiss this person to call it love. Good luck. Believe me. Been there and done that.

Answer 2

You can fall in love with the idea of them or with their personality. But be careful. Often when people finally meet face to face there is just no chemistry at all and it is a flop. I had this happen to me. But i also had one time that i met someone that it was a good meeting. But i even met just a couple of friends from online and we both drifted away afterward. Make sure it is the person and not the idea.
What a person should love is a person's soul. But you are seeing the good side only. You arent seeing the person who throws clothes on the floor or leaves the cap off the toothpaste or leaves a sink full of dishes for 3 days. Or the neat freak that drives you crazy. I would say meet and see how it goes. And for your safety too , meet in a public place first. A restaurant or something. Dont put yourself in a position you cant get out of. Like her car...It may all work out , just be cautious.

Answer 3

I totally feel where you're coming from!

I met this guy online a few months back and he has been the perfect companion. We talk almost everyday and we have so much in common. Completing each other's sentence became a norm! In fact, he's almost everything I've wanted and even though I was in a relationship, I felt that he was the one.

It's amazing how chemistry works isn't it. Cos by communicating through the internet, you're taking away most of the false fronts and superficiality. What's left is just the essentials of every relationship - chemistry and conversation.

So dude, perfectly normal. Treasure the girl. She has to be in your future, if not your wife, then a very good friend. =)

Answer 4

For the record you're not crazy...of course it is very easy to fall for someone you have never met in person...we become wrapped in the things that are said, and especially if there is total understanding between the two of you...if we feel that someone out there actually get what were about, it can be the biggest appeal ever...but remember talking over the phone, or on the Internet is in no way a guarantee for what they are like in real life...in real life we see the flaws if any more clearly in the light of day...sorry but just speaking over the phone we can romanticize, or mold that person in our minds to be the perfect companion...having said that there is absolutely no harm in talking and remaining close friends, if it does develop into something more that's a bonus. Good Luck with your decision.

Answer 5

I'd be very, very, careful here. Listen to what Mary N is saying. I too have met people offline; it's been nothing short of a disaster. She's right - you don't see the opinionated ratbag with stinky breath when you're online. You don't see the flaws.

It's true: you fall in love with the idea of a person. A boy I knew online and roleplayed with said "I dont want your character to age, I see her as you. I cant imagine you aging." He said he loved me. How can you love someone you can't imagine aging? It's just an example, but it's an effective show of how much people enjoy the idea of someone rather than that someone themselves.

I used to have a few long term 'relationships' purely online; and quite a few said they loved me. They didn't. They were infatuated with me, because I bothered to give them the time of day.

You can't 'fall in love' with someone you've never met, because love is more than a mental connection, it is a spiritual, physical and emotional one too. The last three are connections you simply can't achieve online.

Keep talking to her, tell her how you feel if you haven't already. If she likes you as well, arrange to meet when you get back into the country. See if you still love her then. Don't propose online!

Hope this helps!!

Answer 6

Maybe.... but I wouldn't categorize it yet. Until you meet her you don't know all of her. I got a long great with a guy over the phone, but in person there just wasn't the chemistry. It does sound like you really like her but I would wait. You can defiantly love some one, but being in love is harder.

Answer 7

Yes of course it is possible and if you feel this strong maybe you should try dating when you come back to the states

Answer 8

it's possible to care about someone you haven't met but I would be careful until you get to meet her,the person you think she is might be very different to the one she is.Hope you get to see her soon and it works out for you x

Answer 9

of course it is i just moved from canada to germany to be with my internet boyfriend...we talked for months and on the phone untill i came to germany for a visit and then we did it back and forth for a bit and now i live in germany...and we are getting married on the 11th...
no one can tell you if you have fallen in love or not...its your feelings..no one can tell you how you feel...just go with it..and if it does not work out...well hey...its just another experience right!!!

good luck!

Answer 10

At this day and age, anything goes. All I can suggest you do is be very careful.