Seriously, wtf? I am so tired of hearing people say "yeah I was _ when I lost mine and I wish I would've waited"...waited for WHAT? I lost my virginity at 16, and I NEVER regretted it--why would I? It was great! I guess people tend to confuse love with sex, and try to make sex into something that it is not.
Sex is not about love, and it is not something "special" to be saved for that "special" someone....it is something you do because it's fun and it feels good. I'll tell you something else--I've been in love a couple of times, and the sex felt exactly the same. So much for that theory!
So I guess my real question is; why are people so desperate to believe in a myth?
2006-11-06 22:31:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think for some it's "religious guilt" (if that's a word)
I grew up in a strict independent fundamental Baptist church and school. I lost my virginity just before turning 18. The only thing I regret is the fact that he (my husband) is the only man I have been with, sexually. I wish I would have had more experience. (not like 100 men, but a few more would have been nice)
2006-11-06 22:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi Poster22 love the new hairdo...;0)
i dunno really ...i think there is a difference between love and sex and lovely sex...like you ive never wished id saved myself, fallen in love...been married...got divorced,lol...ive had better sex outside of being married and in love...but sex in a close relationship has another dimension..i guess the only difference is that if you have a good lover whether married or not that meets your needs well and and vice versa that kind where you dont even have to try to melt into each other then its going to be better than any other type of sex and more so if there are are feelings of closeness there too...i dont however see the point of 'waiting' for this...infact i think you can only gel to this kind of point when you have a few years of experience under your belt and are happier and more at ease with yourself as a person,lol...everyone for whatever reason hankers after that really special thing...but sometimes we look for it in the wrong places...chasing the myth...its there but not neccessarily as we require it to be like the first person we have sex with, we instantly fall in love,live happy ever after in a castle on the hill...its more likely that you get terribly hurt and depressed after being dumped or dumping your first love...then get married and settle into a boring and caged but convenient state until you get fed up...its all around us all the time but people are just dreamers and wont ever stop....wow...that was a long answer for me,lol ;0)
2006-11-07 08:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you for the most part. Not on every point, but regarding the waiting.
I also think it's just plain silly, particularly when done for religious reasons. But don't get me started.
It's certainly fine to be cautious, and to wait until you're at a "reasonable" age, but I don't see how a flap of skin can be considered a gift. I know that's not what it's about - but I don't even see how letting someone break you in is a gift.
I'd rather have an experienced lover. It's probably easier for men to be with an inexperienced woman than vice versa, though.
2006-11-07 13:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well. i was 14,and i know i didn't get much out of it.But being female makes a difference. At least when you are with someone you love you are more comfortable to do different things in bed. You would not believe the sh*t me and my husband do!
2006-11-07 07:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by Pardon Moi? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's just drama queen crap, trying to play others for sympathy of some kind. Really they all wish they got ****** really hard when they were like 15!!! Hahaha! Liars is what they are! Maybe a few are serious and they are just dumb!: )
2006-11-07 13:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have regrets in life and losing their virginity, while it clearly isn't yours, is theirs.
Some people are more old fashioned than others but we all know how hard it is to hold back and you just wanna "strike while the iron is hot"
2006-11-07 11:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by Angie Pastrami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your contention that love and sex are two totally separate entities.
However, your trivialization of the joining of two people in the act of procreation speaks volumes for your crude manner -- and cruel banal pagan existence which simply parrots some trite maxim you do not understand.
You could certainly strive to be more than the sarcastic ill spoken uncomprehending bumpkin you project so vividly. The only myth you portray in your earthy idiotic ranting is your understanding of humanity.
2006-11-07 06:52:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋