close family and friends, mates of mates...far out rellies
any ideas>>
Mitch and Laura
2006-11-06 21:50:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
oh come on people this is serious cause neither of us want gate crashes screwing things up in any way.....
2006-11-06 21:54:55 · update #1
Mitch and Laura,
It really depends on how large you want your wedding to be. If you want a small, intimate wedding, then invite your close family members and a few close friends. Spread the word that the wedding will be small.
If you want a larger wedding, then also invite other friends, as well as cousins. If you want even larger, then invite the more distant family members, coworkers, and more casual friends.
However, remember that you WILL have some gate crashers. For example, you might invite your good friend Bob, who RSVPs for just himself because he doesn't have a girl. But he might meet one right before your wedding and bring her along.
2006-11-07 01:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gate crashers should be the least of your worries. Doubtful there will be any! First start with the number of guests you can afford-100,150,etc. Then start list ing friends & relatives-half from Laura,half from Mitch, including your parents list , until you hit the magic number. That usually settles it, considering the price per person. Close friends-yes. fairly close relatives-yes. Mates of mates-no way! 2nd cousins-no.On your wedding day, should the odd gate crasher appear, you will be so far on cloud nine you won't notice or care!
2006-11-07 06:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by life coach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thoughts on it are this. Decide where you want to hold it and hold the reception. Then determine how many people you would like to have. I decided on 200. Then, hubby to be and I sat down and decided who between us we absolutely couldn't do without having at the wedding. Then we decided who we absolutely couldn't leave out. Then, we had 50 more seats left for the wedding. We split them between my mother and his and told them they couldn't go beyond their 25 people. Of course, when we sent out the invites, we asked for RSVP - but we realized that some people would still come even if they didn't RSVP. We ended up with less than we invited and it was perfect. Hope that gives you some ideas. Oh, and as for how far down the relatives line you want to go - we stuck to the rule of thumb of if we hadn't seen them in over 5 years - not so important to invite them. But on the other side of that coin - some of the ones we didn't think were that important are ones that our mothers picked up. So, I guess it's a balance. Good luck and congrats on the wedding.
2006-11-07 06:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by Shadowtwinchaos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the advice I was given was related to the cost of weddings, purely. Close family and close friends, this way the people you spend most of your time with are involved. If you are worried about gate crashes, invite people who aren't as close to the ceremony. this way they can still be part of the day, have no inclination to gate crash, and you see everyone you want to see
2006-11-07 06:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what your budget is. If you have a small budget only close friends and family, then if you have more money to spend casual friends and far out rellies and if you want a huge wedding invite everyone you know.
2006-11-07 10:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As many as you can afford. But don't let it ruin your special day because the day belongs only to you two guys.
I personally wouldn't waste my time on mates of mates if you don't know them at all and for far out rellies. Ask your mom's who they think. Mom always knows best.
Congrats to the soon to be wed pair>>>
2006-11-07 05:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by Teddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am from Cyprus and we have a different culture,concerning the weddings when a couple is getting married(church) they invite the whole neighbourhood,parents,friends,family-,friends of the family,our friends. It is quite ridiculous but also fun to see at your wedding people you don't know but still they bring you a present (we prefer money).
2006-11-07 07:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would say your closest friends and thier respective partners, and family i wouldn't reccomend mates of mates as you said yourself you don't want gate crashers, only people you two associate with. probably sounds cliche sorry for that. but then your mates friends would a;so have other friends and things can quickly get out of control. hope it all works out for you both.
2006-11-07 06:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by whay i lost my ?s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should invite the people that you want to share your special day with. Don't feel you have to invite all of your relatives/friends just for the sake of it and because other people want them to come. Keep it simple.
2006-11-07 12:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by emmalp75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse Family members are the first then step by step, all relatives, friends, neighbours, and other acquanted people, the moments like marriages are only complete if all of the stated people there to share our joys with them ths it........
2006-11-07 06:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by willy nilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋