Is it to soon to get engaged after 14 months?

Answer 1

If your truly in love its never to soon

Answer 2

How old are you? I think age and experience makes all the difference here.

I've seen 17 and 18 year olds get engaged, it's laughable. Some people get engaged to their first boyfriend/girlfriend, cuz they're in love and they think "well thats what you do when you're in love". There is so much that these people don't understand about compatability and long-term commitment. My first love was very all-consuming, but I had no idea at the time what was missing from our relationship. I thought it was perfect. I just had nothing to compare it to! If you're very young, or this is your first proper relationship, I'd urge you not to rush in too soon- there is every chance this relationship will go the distance, but you've got some growing up to do before you can be sure.

But I've seen people get engaged after short periods of time, and it's been great. These people have met someone and immediately changed for the better- you can see a real happiness in them that was never there before, even in previous relationships where they claimed to be in love. And these people have the experience and maturity to know that they've found the right person, and know how to go about committing to them and forming a good relationship that will go the distance. If this is you, then I'd say 14 months is plenty long enough to be sure about it.

Without knowing a thing about you, no one can say whether it's too soon or not- "14 months" means nothing out of context...

Answer 3

Absolutely not. If you have a little bit of doubt about whether to get engaged or not maybe the time isn't right!!

If, like me, you have been burnt before it maybe that you are just a bit scared that history may repeat itself. At the end of the day you can never guarantee that you will be with your partner for the rest of your life no matter how much you are in love, you just need to trust what your heart is telling you and go for it. Enjoy every moment and don't live your life with any regrets, you don't want to wake up in 12 months time thinking about what you should have done.

Have faith in how you feel and I wish you all the best ;-)

Answer 4

Never too soon to get engaged providing all is in place & you both feel comfortable with the situation an Engagement is meant to give you both a chance to see whether you can both handle what will be a important decision should you decide later to become one,a lot of marriages fail because they didn`t give themselves enough time to see whether they were compatible or not,the pressures on people today in this economical climate are many so, giving yourselves time to consider how you will both cope will set you up for a hopefully strong future together.Good Luck to you both.

Answer 5

It's not too soon, I got engaged 8 months after I met my "then gf", now were married and we haven't looked back.
It was our friends that said isn't to soon, I told them "there isn't a law to tell you, you can't get engage/married after a short time".
My wife & I are still in love with each other, so go with your feelings and pop the question.

Hope it works out for you.

Answer 6

Good grief no. Moved in with my husband after 8 week, got engaged within the year. Would have got engaged earlier but he couldn't afford to buy me a ring.
Still happy after 8 years!

Answer 7

I really think this partly depends on how old you are. If you're over 18 and have a mature and genuine relationship, respect each other, give each other space, trust each other, laugh together and you want to enter marriage because you truly see yourself growing old together, go for it! But get engaged to get married, not just to be engaged (if that makes sense!). I make the reference to age because if you're really young and this is your first proper relationship I'd say take your time and if, further down the line you feel just as strongly, go for it! For the record, my husband and I got engaged after 12 months. I was 23 and he was 32. We got married 12 months later and we've been married 5 years.

Answer 8

I reckon it depends how old you are - younger people tend to go out with each other for ages until the idea of marriage crops up - but once you get into late twenties onwards it seems to happen quite quickly - you're not interested in just 'going out' with someone anymore you want commitment/babies etc. Some people are more mature about this kind of stuff at an earlier age and know they want it all sooner.
Who knows - I got engaged after about 18mts at 30 yrs old.
Most of my friends who started going out with somebody towards their late twenties seem to get engage dpretty quick - but the ones who have bene going out for ages just seem to plod on not worried about marriage - different strokes for different folks. Don't panic - you can always get divorced!

Answer 9

Not at all...I think that is a reasonable amount of time to get to know someone. I was engaged 2 months after meeting my hunny and it was the best thing.

Answer 10

hell no! Me and my partner got engaged after 12 months and we're getting married in march!

My friend, he told his current girlfriend that he loved her after about 2 hours, and got engaged after 2 weeks!

If it's true love, then it doesn't matter if it's 2 weeks, 14 months or 14 years (although, after 14 years, you may be a bit bord of waiting!!!)

Answer 11

i got engaged after 3 months and married after 1 year, and we have been married for 3 years now and happy

its depends on how quickly you two bond and if both of you truly want to go ahead for this big step.

good luck