Why do dads get so stressed?

Question

My dad comes home every night from work and get stressed out for no reason. How can i help him? I keep telling him that he needs to calm down but he just tells me to shut up

Answer 1

Im a Dad I think most Dad's are very much into providing all the things that he feels his family needs such as food clothing money for fun cars schooling medical etc and if at times he feels inadequette it can stress him out establish a relationship that recognises this give him a hug tell him hes loved and get him a beer a cold one cheers.

Answer 2

Never tell your dad to calm down! Especially after a day of work! First, give him atleast a half hour. Invite him somewhere with you...to a sports bar, game, car show, ect..(whatever interests him)or ask him if he wants to order some food. Dont ask him how his day was..Work is Work!! Something most women don't understand.....that when most men come home they try to forget about work. Do not analyze him and suggest him to relax or calm down. He obviously wants to do that.

Answer 3

How old are you? You sound very mature for your age. Your dad has the weight of the world on his shoulders. Maybe he hates his job but is stuck there. Maybe he busts his butt working all week and still can't get out from under the bills. These things are enough to make anyone crabby. It's most likely you can't help him with his problems but if you just keep calm yourself, repay his snappy answers with kind and humble ones, you will get to his heart and he will feel bad for how he's been treating you. Good luck. I know it's hard.

Answer 4

Adults hate to be told anything. In his mind he KNOWS he is stressed. He probably hates himself for telling you to shut up but parents don't understand the fact that kids have feelings that get crushed easier than adults. Fathers think that being hard teaches their son to be that way but it isn't a trait that is very becoming in the world outside of their own home.
Try this....when your dad comes home do something positive for him. Get a movie he would like (there is lots of time for you to get one you like when he isn't home) Offer to get him something like a drink, snack. Do something for him. If he appreciates it at all, do it on a daily basis. It will be an investment of your time. Make it a habit. Make positive memories. Add them up. Kill him with kindness.

Don't respond to any anger he may show. Just walk away. Like a magnet, anger attracts anger and repels love and understanding. Reverse the cycle and he will change. Men aren't verbal when it comes to communication. Action is a greater communication skill than words.

Answer 5

Randell I really do not think a 15 year should be telling he father to calm down.. Do you.?

Your father is in the army isnt he.? He is stressed out because of work not for no reason at all.

Arnt you the one that said you 'have' to lie and sneek around because your father will not let you date or stay our or up after 8pm..

Maybe you could help your fathers stress level by doing what he ask you to do.

Answer 6

Just give him a big hug as soon as he walks in the door & say "i love you". Dont do this for anything in return but just to make him feel happy. I heard someone say once." Your dad looks after you when you need him but who looks after your Dad when things are tough for him?" Just try make life at home as easy as you can for him and he will be happy to be there, where he can relax and enjoy his family. Whenever we ask my Dad what he wants for Fathers Day, he always says "Good Children"

Answer 7

He's obviously under some sort of pressure. Maybe he doesn't really enjoy his job, then he comes home and is under more pressure from family members. Give him some space, or make him a cuppa or crack a beer for him when he gets home from work. See what happens.

Answer 8

If he is active make him go for a run or go to the gym in order for him to relieve his stress. Another good one is to make him a nice dinner which he can sit down and relax. Alternatively buy him some bath oils where he can lie down and relax without the thought of work.

Answer 9

I agree with the others that say you shouldn't tell him to calm down. That could stress him even more. You could offer him this stress reducer. http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/cat/stress_management.html?1596!y-stress I use it alot for myself with great success.

Answer 10

you ought to attempt taking him for a walk after artwork and purely letting him talk approximately it. according to risk plan a picnic dinner with pizza at a community park. purely kick back and get to appreciate one yet another via listening. i will recommend him to attempt Tylenol PM fairly of ingesting. it particularly is none habit forming and he will sleep ok. HUGS FROM MINNESOTA!