I am a 15 year old boy and my dad is in the army. He does not alow me to stay out later than 8.30 on a friday night and does not like me having girlfriends so i have to sneek around and lie to him. What do i do?
2006-11-06 21:24:00 · 11 answers · asked by Randall 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
listen to your parents....they actually know what they are doing. its for your own good. you'll thank him one day. trust me. i was your age only a few years ago...and sometimes i wish that i had obeyed my parents more...i would be a lot better off i think.
2006-11-06 21:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your dad is trying to establish standards that hopefully you'll be able to carry for the rest of your life. You should respect your parent's rules and standards. You'll gain their trust by your actions.
Stop sneaking around. If he's pretty strict, just think of the consequences. You may have to kiss even the 8:30 curfew good-bye.
Let him know your feelings about the 8:30 curfew and give him a suggestion of a curfew you think is reasonable. Don't use your friend's curfew as an example. You may be able to negotiate. Also, let him know that if you break your curfew, you'll be willing to go back to the 8:30 curfew for a month as punishment.
One thing that might help is to ask your parents at what age you will be allowed to date. Also find out what they believe your curfew will be when you're 16, 17 and 18. That'll give you something to look forward to in the future.
2006-11-06 21:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by fairydancer2003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems to me like if you lie, you will get caught. Then you will have to deal with the drill Sargent. Do you want that?? I know that talking to him might be difficult, but just like everything in life, you can't always get what you want. Today's world is alot different from what your dad grew up in and he probably knows what he is doing. You only have 3 more years to graduate high school and then you can join the Army like your dad, prove to him that you can be all you can be!!! After that your life is yours! Party in Germany and he can't say BUUYAH! The Army owns you now!! But until then, follow directions, obey the rules.. Girls are a dime a dozen. They WILL be there when you go to college. That's when they are more fun :) But make sure that you follow those rules too. Girls are tricky. Protect yourself. But I'm sure that you will learn all that in the Army. Also, encourage your friends as your self to be educated enough to vote when you turn 18. Your life may depend on it.
Good luck young gun..
2006-11-06 21:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by meowzer mix 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is very good to be strict. I have 3 girls... and they are very well behaved. They are Christians, active in sports, and other activities in school. They are bright and beautiful and I am very proud of them, there is a trust between us, that we have built!
Your dad has his reasons for being strict. I think you should obey him, and when he see's that you can be responsible with the rules he has set then he will give you more freedom.. TRUST is the key, and it takes time to build.
Good luck
2006-11-06 21:29:06 · answer #4 · answered by next.... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a parent my job is to do everything in my power to protect my child......sometimes because we are so caught up in everything going on in this sick world we make our children think that we don't trust them or want them to have fun......that's not it at all......we want the best for you and sometimes the rules are too strict. You should show your parents that you are deserving of more freedom by going to them and talking to them about how you are feeling. Let them know that you don't want to have to sneak and do things and you want to let them know what's happening in your life.
2006-11-06 21:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by JustCurious28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of a 10 yr. old and I was not the greatest kid myself, but if it wasn't for my parents being so strict i would not have the common sense, and sense of responsibility that i do today. And I'm telling you i did a lot of sneaking around, but hun, usually parents know what you are doing, but are not going to accuse you until they have proof.
2006-11-06 22:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by sweetheather79 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes parents should be strict but also allow certain privileges--as you get older and respect your parents they will show you the same respect and allow you to do more---sneaking around and LYING will only cause more problems
2006-11-06 21:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by Rez 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its good for parents to be strict.. but some stuff dont sound right. Not staying out past 830, eh you can let that slide. But not letting you have girlfriends? I wouldnt say 15 is too young, just to kinda go out and stuff. My parents were strict, and I couldnt do alot of stuff alot of times. But when it came to like girlfriends or anything, they never hated on me.. so I dunno kinda hard to say.
2006-11-06 21:28:51 · answer #8 · answered by Cody B 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just know that he is doin it 4 ur best interests u may not think so but he does no better
2006-11-06 21:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes it is for certain situations,but not too much strict because it may cause too much fear of parents.
2006-11-06 21:40:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋