i am in relationship with a girl from past 9 months.i proposed her 5 months back but she said that she is not ready for love yet.she is 20 now.she is very secretive she and she never share anything about her feelings.but she recently told me about her family problems to me which she did not share with anyone else .she never talks directly.i am in a confusion that she is committing to me now.i really love her and i want to know whether she is loving me or not.
2006-11-06 20:49:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She had a family problem and she needed someone to talk to and share her feelings. It is not a commitment from her. She just needed a place to lean on. In that place, your role was just a good friend to hear her problem.
Well talk to her clearly what you want. You cannot assume what is in a girl's heart. You need to talk to her to clear your doubts.
If she is still not saying anything then you need to back up a bit. Dont hope too much give her some space and see what is there after that.
2006-11-06 21:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anne H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, she has problems in her family. So her first priority is to tend to the needs of the family. Don't say that she doesn't love you. And don't think that she's not ready to love. She only said that because she couldn't find a specific word to explain it to you clearly. Show to her how much you really love her and she might come around. Help her with her family problems and be nice. Don't force her into anything. Try to follow what she wants, but if you think its something out of the ordinary forget it. I know she likes you, she just doesn't have enough freedom from the family or she is being pressured.
2006-11-07 04:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by Marc G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a happily married (2 and a half years and counting) 28 year old man who almost got married to another woman 3 years before I met my wife; if you need to ask this question, then the answer is.....
no.
If she loved you, then the only secret that she'd ever keep from you is the surprise birthday party she's planning for you with all of your friends.
You probably make her feel safe, so she confides in you when she's upset. However, that doesn't mean that she cares about you. And if you care about her as intensely as you clam to, then I'm willing to bet that you'll do anything to make her happy. I'm also willing to bet that she is aware of this and is learning how to get what she wants from you.
Take my advice. I've been in several terrible relationships and one truly great one. If she truly loved you, then you'd already know.
2006-11-07 05:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by Nathan M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, over time you will come to see that you are aching to get from her what she is not giving you.
A relationship depends on exchange, what each does for the other, and it sounds to me like you are most likely doing all o fthe giving and she is happy just taking, taking, taking.
I would bet you $5,000 that if you put her on ice for a bit, didn't call her for a few days, acted a little less interested, suddenly she'd be chasing you.
When you are getting to know someone make sure that you are trying them out too, not just that you are trying to prove your worthiness to them.
2006-11-07 04:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by FSJD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find SOME way to make her trust you first. How can she love you if she doesn't trust you with her feelings? It could be that she LEARNED not to trust men. You just have to help her break down the protective walls she may be holding up. There's a start! See, she is STARTING to trust you! She told YOU something she hasn't told anyone else!!! :) It sounds like she's testing you to see if she can trust you with pieces of information before telling you how she feels.
2006-11-07 05:01:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jou-Jou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask her directly whether she loves you or not. If she does love you, she should want you to know that she does, and she should want you to feel loved.
Love doesn't happen easily for some people. Sometimes it can take years. It just depends on the person.
2006-11-07 04:55:39 · answer #6 · answered by Katya M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say that you are confused that she is commiting to you now, maybe she is confused as well. I think you should explain your concerns to her and ask her if she loves you.
2006-11-07 04:57:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she mite but if there is family problems her brain wi be going threw at least 6 different emotions. so give her time
2006-11-07 04:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by shaneberry22 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no of fence dude... but she just doesn't seem like she luvs u.
2006-11-07 04:54:43 · answer #9 · answered by rOCKO 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we can never be too sure. why don't you ask her how she feels again?
2006-11-07 04:53:09 · answer #10 · answered by shelly_cute 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋