They are less than 10.
2006-11-06 20:46:44 · 20 answers · asked by yahooanswers 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2006-11-07 04:07:37 · update #1
there are some great books .. I would just tell them the truth in simple terms.. if they ask more questions then answer them.. I wouldn't make up stories..
2006-11-06 20:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Around four or five, they usually start asking questions, and it's best to answer them honestly at their age level for the information. Make sure to have them use the correct terms for body parts. Boys have penises and testicles, girls have vaginas and vulvas. At around six, or grade one, they should know the general aspects of birth. At this point, you need to handle this according to your own family or religious morals and values. For us, we explained the biology first, because that is what that age level wants to know - the baby comes out of the birth canal. How does it get in there? That's up to you to decide how to tell them. We had a really good Family Life program at the elementary school, so that was helpful to us. We explained what we could at each age level, and asked questions later to make sure they understood. There are good books you can buy or get from the library to help you out. Make sure you keep the communication open and don't get embarassed by questions. There is nothing wrong with saying "you don't need to know that right now" or even "I don't know - I'll get back to you". Generally, it's better to give the information than having kids believe myths they hear at school! Don't assume anything, either.
2006-11-07 04:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Buy a book and read it together. Tell the truth now and you will save a lot of troble in 5 or so years (sooner than you think) when things get actual on the chances in their own bodies.
It's very easy then to say you are getting ready to be mom/papa and the rensponsibilty that brings you.
Cheapskating with birds and bees now will eat up the credibility later when you need it.
2006-11-07 06:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tero J 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did not have "the talk" with my daughter until earlier this year at the age of 11. She started asking questions and I finally decided that she is mature enough to know the basics. I was very specific with her but not in a vulgar way. I feel that in this day and age it is important to be specific with kids aobut this matter. Whether you base your parenting around religious beliefs or just general moral beliefs I think the issue of sex is important to discuss with our kids. I told her that it is very important that she wait until she is an adult and capable of making adult decisions like this. I encouraged her to wait until she is married so that she can handle it better if she were to become pregnant. However, I'm not stupid enough to think that the opportunity for pre-marital sex won't be there for her as a teen and young adult. Most of us were faced with this at that tender age! I just pray that she will use good judgement based on our talks.
2006-11-07 15:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest about it. My son is four and he knows the proper names for the body parts of both boys and girls and to a certain extend understands how a baby is made and how it is born. Sex isnt dirty or wrong..I just think you have to word it in a way that you child can understand. Do be age appropriate but don't lie or ignore what they are asking.
2006-11-07 09:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by ktpb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Babies grow inside a mother's tummy, and when they're finished growing they come out". "There's a place that opens, and the baby comes out." You could even - if its called for - expand to, "The baby gets its food from something called a 'placenta' that grows just for that purpose."
With regard to the possible question, "How did the baby start growing" you could either say, "Some day I'll explain that" or else just tell some simple version of it. Then, too, there's always, "God wanted the parents to have a baby, so a baby started growing."
2006-11-07 04:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree...I feel it's important that you be honest and tell them the truth. The kid's will appreciate it and want to become more involved with the new addition (helping etc). Honesty is the best way....
2006-11-07 04:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
all my kids know where and how the youngest is three and the eldest is 11.the yougnest was told in a way of the seed was planted by daddy in mummy blagh blagh blagh but she knows where babies come out and that mumys tummy was her home.the elder two know that sex is involved and why people want babies and the more educational side to it .there is no easy wy of teling them its all dead embaressing but it has to be done.good luck and be honest
2006-11-07 04:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My four year old came home from daycare and asked me this. i told him that before he was a baby, in the photos, he was a baby that lived in mummy's tummy. He kept asking questions so I went on with, he was growing all his body parts, and when they had grown to the right size he was born.
He doesn't believe me, but I told him the truth.
2006-11-07 04:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Buy a book about childs' birth and use the illustrations to explain to them slowly and accurately. Do not give them the birds and the bees stories...
2006-11-07 04:50:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋