My life has becum a hell..what shud i do?

Question

My father has been convicted for a crime which the administration wooed him to commit and later the same admin sued him. My grandma is ill to her death which adds to my father's grief further. I see my father crying as a small child whom i used to think a very tough man. My mother remains ill and keeps on crying over all the matters. My brother's business is not giving any returns and he is suffering hell lot of losses. I am doing a 12hrs shift at the office and am the sole person to look after the family of 7 per financial needs. Working 12 hrs doesnt even give me time for connecting with the Almighty leave alone myself. i am doubtful about my girlfirend that she doesnt like me after all. Is she double crossing me? I m skeptical.
I feel like living in a hell and all demons are after me. I cant see my family in grief. Wot shud I do? Pls help.

Answer 1

for ur long question i have only short answer for u
"pray and ask God for help"

Answer 2

I tip my hat off to you! your are a lot stronger than you give yourself credit.

As for your father, I'm sorry there isn't much you can do there, everyone has a choice in life and unfortunatley he chosed the wrong path, yes although he was coaxed he still chose to go along with the alleged crime. He now has take responsiblity for his part and chalk it up to a lessons learned. As for your grandmother.......there isn't much you can do here either, but accept the fact that she is leaving this world in body only! We all have to go sometime, the only thing you can do now is pray that she leaves you and your family with no pain and as happy as one can be. Your mother needs to be stronger, easier said then done! After awhile she's got to realize that life could be much worse. As for your brother, his business failing which shouldn't be something you worry about, he needs to consider all his options and seek professional advise, he may just realize that the losses really are not that bad, and he can probably recover or walk away with something. As for yourself. working 12 hour days is never good.....for your mind, body and soul! You need to cut back on those 12 hour days if you need the money that badly then see professional help and see what options you may have. Afterall in this time of need really what are we paying taxes for? Again, I realize it's easier said then done, but all you can do is try.

Take care of yourself, and everything else will fall in place, because if you are unhappy, unhealthy then you can't help your family at all.

Trust in yourself and your abilities and you'll be fine. You are a strong person, and from the sounds of it a survivor with great will power....you just need a little encouragement every now and then.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Don't give up! Do the best you can and know that some day you'll emerge from all the pain a victor among the rest! Everyone goes through togh times and you are facing the worst! How you handle yourself now will determine your path through life!

Hang tough! Think with your heart. Never, never believe you have no time for the almighty! God is with you every step of the way! Talk to God all the time! It's real!

Answer 4

If you are spiritual, then remember this great saying... "Hands to work, heart to God". You have a wonderful opportunity right now to be a guiding light for your family. No one person can do everything and of course you need others to step up and help you with this, but this is a great opportunity for you to give back to your parents and Grandmother some of the love they have given you. Do your best and be joyful knowing that you are doing your best. Your family is going through some difficult times, but you can provide a balm for the family by asking for help and keeping a positive attitude. Use your work as a meditation and prayer. Dedicate your efforts to helping to bring a sense of peace to your family during this time. I am sure they are very grateful for all you are doing. Ask for help and receive it graciously. You deserve a helping hand wherever you can find it.

Answer 5

Edvin, you are doing a great job by supporting your family and i think you should continue it. Your parents come first, i know you are living a very difficult life but it will soon be OK. Dark clouds have to go, now or later but you will have your Sunshine soon.

It is well know saying that you should test your friend at the time of need. If your girl friend doesn't share your problems she is not good for you. Take it from me.

Your father needs you, give him comport, tell him that he has you nothing to worry about. Like is like a wheel, it goes up and down you have to adjust yourself accordingly.

This situation is very common and it happens to every family, you should always learn from the mistakes.

Never loose hope, we are with you. I will pray for you.

Answer 6

I'm right there with you man!!!!! Feel good knowing that everyone has problems they feel are life threatening. I sit back and observe my problems as if they were someone elses. It really helps me keep my sanity. Take on each problem one at a time. They are not going away (Even though you wish they would) and they will be there when you correct an issue. Then go to the next. You can't stay depressed about this. You have your health and that is what you and your family needs to understand. They also need to understand not to spread you to thin. You can only do so much and remember one thing, yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Your desire to take care of your family is to be appriciated to avery very great extent.You are the person this world needs.Forget the girl friend if she does not understand your situation and will be only addition to the problem by really not attaching to the problem.Your Father will come up to the earlier level if you show strength and positive attitude.Then you will be two and then keep adding to your strength from your family of seven.Take help from your wel-wishers and friends.Everything will be ok in some time.

Answer 8

dude,ur a winner. I am impressed and respect u as to how u single handedly manage a family.U r a winner among all the losers out their who care only for themselves.Have faith in ur self and trsut in god.There is always light at the end of a tunnel.God will bail u out.I myself was in a similar horrible position and my faith in god saw me thur.Pray everyday even if it is for 10 mins.it will give u calm.Problems come problems go nothin lasts for a life time...but ertainly u will be a better and strong man thur it.Look at it this way...no matter what issues u still have ur family with u..so many ppl lose their family members to death at an early age..stay together fight it out....ur a fighter,the owrld should emulate..rise to the occasion.All the best..god bless u

Answer 9

You really are stressed out! All you can do is take things one day at a time. Your family is going through a very difficult time, but you can't take on all of their emotional issues. It's commendable that you're working so hard to take care of everyone else. As for your girlfriend, if you don't trust her, than it's time to move on. Take a deep breath, and focus on your goals.

Answer 10

grow to be effective to those around you. See the stable in others. study motivational thoughts or books. walk. Run. Swim. workout. consume vegetables and end result and nuts. flow to church. call somebody you like and have not considered in a mutually as. artwork, yet no longer too lots. Pray. hear to song. learn how to play an tool. Be a buddy. Dance - i can't dance yet i've got been instructed it feels stable. sparkling your room, or your kitchen, or sparkling off your kitchen table. Volunteer at nutrition on Wheels. they're dropping helpers as a results of intense gas fees. Volunteer someplace. you're mandatory and substantial and effectual. you additionally could make a international of distinction to a minimum of one guy or woman or to many. it somewhat is as much as you. What are you stable at? amplify your self out to the international and it will respond to you. Ask God to lead you. Pray and pray and pray and communicate over with human beings around you. you will see outcomes. attain out.