I want to Break up?

Question

I have been with this girl since an year and a half. But now i wanna break up. I am not leaving her for another girl or something but i just dont feel like i'll be happy with her anymore.

Answer 1

then do it fast and no friends crap.

Answer 2

LISTEN! I know it's a hard thing to do but a year and a half is a long time too and waisted time if you're not in love. Only you know if you're in love. If you have truly thought about this for a while and you still feel that you are NOT happy then you should sit her down and explain how you feel. At first I'm sure she is going to be upset with you but in the long run I think she will come to appreciate your honesty. Don't wait 'til you end up cheating on her because then your true conversation is lost by your 'STUPIDITY'. Do the right thing and tell her. Don't waist her time and yours. You seem like a good person from your question, so prove it and do right by her too!

Answer 3

Steve i know how you feel i have a boyfriend and i have been dating him for a year and me and him fight constanly but i love him with everything i have.Why do you want to break up with her? I understand that there is probably a part in you that isn't whole but i think that you two can make it work me and my boyfriend make it work most of the time but sometimes i get so mad that i don't want it to work but in the end im happy that it did and i hope it works for you too. You just got to follow your heart and see what happens you two have been going out for a long time and you know of course every couple fights and in the end sometimes its happy and others its sad but i wish the best for you and like i said follow your heart and think real hard on what you wanna do. But before you make your decision think about all the goos times you've both had together.

Answer 4

It sounds to me like you don't wanna break her heart, but there are two ways to break-up without being too hurtful.

One: you can do the old "I'm depressed and going through some changes" scenario. This where you say, "Baby, it's not you. It's me. I just feel stressed and confused and I need time to evaluate my life. I need time to think and find myself. I really need to be alone."

But don't do it in person if you're too much of a "Nice Guy". Do it in a letter or on the phone so that you don't have to look her directly in the face. You can do it face to face but you have to stand tall, cause she's gonna want to "help" you and she may give you "the sad look". And that will break your heart... and you won't be able to break-up.

Another way is to make yourself scarce. Be BUSY. Anytime she wants to do something or go somewhere, or see you, then you should "be asleep", "getting ready to go to sleep", "taking a nap", "getting some rest", or "going to see a relative", or "going to take care of important personal business", "or working", etc.

If you do this, even when you're on the phone, don't talk much. Be busy. Just listen while you're surfing the Net, or watching TV. Don't respond to all of her questions, news, or gossip. And cut the conversation short. Don't call her. Wait for her to call you. If she tells you that you don't love her anymore - don't say anything. And if you have to say something - just say, "You can think what you want." or "You can believe what you wanna believe. I don't care." (saying "I don't care" is optional.)

This can backfire, because she may try harder to gain your interest and win your love, but hopefully, she will get tired of being ignored and break-off the relationship.

But you can just be straightforward and say, "Sandy, (or whatever her name is) right now, I'm just not feeling this situation (or this relationship) and I need some time-out. I just need a break from this relationship. I think you're a cool girl and I like you as a friend, but I just don't want to be tied down right now. I just need to be alone."

If she starts asking you questions, don't answer them. If you do, it will put you on "defense" and you will feel guilty about ending the relationship. And why should you? If you're not happy, you're just not happy. It's best if you both go your separate ways so that you CAN be happy and make two other people happy as well - or whatever.

But, if you don't like her for a specific reason. If she is not what you want her to be, then find a way to talk about it. Maybe she is willing to make changes for you. Are you willing to change for her?

Think about what you really want before you make the move to dump the girl.

Brother DzL (AsP)
"The Player's Lifestyle"

Answer 5

I understand that. My ex broke up with me because he wasn't happy. I just didn't want to see it at the time. But since time spent apart I could then see we were both actually not happy. Breaking up is probably a really hard thing to do. But good luck. But if you think you could make this relationship work, find out where the unhappiness lies. ;)

Answer 6

i say do it now if u no in ur heart its over y be together if theres nothing there talk to her explain u not in love with her but u havr luv for her people change things change dont drag it out this will hurt trust me even though u may jus have luv yall grew apart it sounds like year and a half is a long time good luck

Answer 7

I suggest breaking it down to her in a "humane" way..
I don't imagine from your post that you gave her the courtesy of a clue? In the end I'm sure you'll be much happier "alone" and
she will be better off with/out someone who cant communicate or express themselves in a relationship of 1- 1/2 years..
Good luck with everything.

Answer 8

So what is the question? If you want to break up because you are not happy just do it, just be friends if you want. If you stay with her, odds are you will mess up a friendship by cheating or doing something you regret.

Answer 9

If you feel like you're not happy with this person you should be honest and tell them. It's not fair to you or her if you continue to stay in a relationship you're not happy in, cause in the long run you'll end up hurting her anyways. Be true to yourself and do what makes you happy.

Answer 10

Break it to her gently. Be firm BUT gentle. Tell it to her face to face. Be honest about your feelings BUT you have to make sure that this is really what you want and that you will have no guilty feelings afterwards.

Answer 11

do what ever makes u happy if ur nott happy with her there aint nothing u can do aboutt it tell her u dont feel the way that you use 2 about her ne more and u dont think its gonna work outt