I just want to know what kind of punishments do you impose to this immoral acts?

Question

I would like to seek your advise regarding adultery committed by my wife. A guy named is Jefferson De Blas Bagon, working and residing in Makati and is a native of Batangas, belongs to Iglesia ni Kristo. He continued his relationship with my wife and has played with her emotions and confusions since the start and until now. My wife wanted their relationship to end since last year but he insisted. Just this last October 10 of this year I found out about this and he is now returning my wife to me as if nothing have happened. The moral,emotional and mental damages has already been inflicted to me, my wife, our two sons, my wife's relatives and even her co-employees. I just want to know what kind of punishments do you impose to this immoral acts? He knew from the start that my wife is still with me and we have 2 children already but he continued his worldly intentions for her and my wife didn't deny that they have countless intercourse already and she loved him more now.

Answer 1

According to the Bible, you have two options with regard to your wife. 1) you can forgive her and work on repairing your damaged marriage, assuming its what she wants, or 2) you can divorce her on the grounds of adultery.

I have friends who went through this situation. They stayed together and I have to admit, from the looks of their relationship now, they're stronger than ever. But they BOTH agreed to make it work and BOTH work very hard at applying the Bible's teachings.

Regarding the man, I guess that would depend on your beliefs and laws where you live. From a Christian viewpoint, though he may be a terrible person, he is not the one who made a vow to be faithful to you. One scripture to keep in mind is Romans 12:19, which says: "Do not avenge yourselves, beloved, but yield place to the wrath; for it is written: “Vengeance is mine; I will repay, says Jehovah.”"

You didn't say how they came to be together, but if they work together, your wife should find another job if you decide to stick with her. It would never work if she were to see him on a regular basis, and it certainly would cause you a great deal of stress.

I'm so sorry that your family is going through such turmoil and I hope that it all works out for the best.

Answer 2

Your wife is a grown woman, she willingly had sex with the guy, so it's not entirely his fault. While I personally don't agree with his actions, it does not mean that he should be punished. Trying to hurt him is only going to cause you even greater problems than the ones you are already going through.

If I were you I would divorce your wife right away. He did not rape her. He did not drug her. He did not brain wash her. He is not to take the entire blame. I'm sorry if it sounds harsh but its the cold, straight, forward truth- your wife had a choice and now we can see her decision.

Again, I don't think he deserves to be punished and neither your wife. You should work out your issues if you feel like it but I would recommend a divorce and moving on with your life.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

You suggested moral and moral subject matters are gruesome and subsequently puzzling to attend to objectively yet it really is because you belong to a human beings - American human beings - who has to question ethics on a daily foundation. yet you in basic terms attempt this once something quite wonderful takes position,like the dual towers attack - which isn't something compared to what the U. S. authorities did and nonetheless does in Iraq and who comprehend the position else. Make no mistake,although,this isn't an attack to the yank civilization,my aspect is you in all likelihood began wondering about ethics once you suffered its absence,once you've been dealt with unethically. it really is naive to ask even if the dropping of the bombs that began the WW2 became immoral,because it for sure became. each and all of us has a idea of correct and incorrect,yet it really is not the point - the point is human beings save appearing immorally even although they comprehend that what they do is incorrect. So there's no aspect in wondering even if human beings comprehend if what they do or did is moral or morally nicely perfect or not - the point is: are human beings consistent in what they stand for and what they quite do?

Answer 4

All men are human... they stray.. perhaps its the lack of something from your part that made her look for qualities in another man.. you have to put what has happened and talk to her and ask her why she did this.. and you would have to know whether there was something from y our part which made her do this.. perhaps she shared this secret with the other man.. but I would say that you should forgive and ask your wife if she is willing to give it all up and come back to you.. if she is ready for that You should forgive her and accept her.. and you have to find if there was some mistake on your part as well. and if there rectify it so that you would be a husband whom your wife would never even think of leaving. Forget about the man... if you can pray for him that he might repent and he will be judged by God for his actions.

Answer 5

..... IF YOU REALLY LOVE YOUR WIFE ,, YOU MUST FORGIVE HER,, THE ONE THING YOU MUST NEVER DO,,, IS ALLOW OTHERS TO MAKE YOU BEHAVE AS A BEAST.... TRUST ME I KNOW THIS IS HARD,, AND VERY PAINFUL,,, I HAVE BEEN THERE.. ( DONE TO ME ) I THOUGHT I WAS GOING TO DIE... . DO YOU EVEN KNOW WHY DID SHE TURN TO THIS OTHER MAN .. ?? ..DID YOU DO ANY THING ,, OR NOT DO SOME THING TO SEND HER INTO HIS ARMS ?? .. I WOULD FIND OUT... AS I SAID IF YOU REALLY LOVE HER THEN DO NOT LET THIS DESTROY YOUR FAMILY ... IF SHE DOES NOT WANT TO STAY THEN LET HER GO.. DO NOT DO ANYTHING OUT OF ANGER AND RAGE ,, YOU MUST NOT BE A MONSTER,, IF OTHERS ARE IN THE WRONG ,, LIFE HAS A WAY OF TAKING CARE OF THESE THINGS ON IT'S OWN... YOU WILL BE THE BETTER MAN ,, BE ABLE TO HOLD YOUR HEAD UP HIGH , THAT YOU DID NOT LET EVIL TAKE YOU OVER... IF YOU DO FORGIVE HER DO NOT THROW THIS IN HER FACE ALL THE TIME,, NO ONE WILL HEAL THAT WAY,, HONESTLY JUST BE AS IF IT NEVER HAPPENED ,, YOU COULD WARN HER THAT IF EVER AGAIN ,, YOU WILL NEVER FORGIVE AGAIN... AND JUST KEEP THIS MAN AWAY FROM YOUR FAMILY... JUST ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS IS STILL THE MOTHER OF YOUR CHILDREN ,, YOU DO NOT WANT YOUR SONS TO HATE THEIR MOTHER... AND THEN HATE WOMEN ,,, WELL,, PEACE TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY..

Answer 6

I would kick her out.

I would let God deal with this man on judgment day.

If you commit violence against him, you might be put in prison, and then your children would not have a dad.

Are their laws against adultery in your country? If so, contact the authorities. Your wife is not innocent in this matter, either.

Answer 7

Sorry to say it buddy, Your better off leaving her! Scents you can prove wrong doing on her part she will get NOTHING for the divorce! You WILL find someone much better and TRUST worthy... I have NO doughty it will hurt to leave her, but if she went out on you once, she will do it again... COUNT on it. A FRIEND

Answer 8

You are mad at the wrong person. This man did not take vows to be faithful to you, your wife did.

Answer 9

Give her the boots and get on with your life

Answer 10

if you love her you must forgive her I would suggest Marriage counselling