Looks like that she is afraid of going to school. She has been going to the same school for the past 3 years. Suddenly, she has developed a fear that she will not go to school. I talked to her teacher but she could not help me out. I don't know what to do?
2006-11-06 19:49:32 · 19 answers · asked by B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Try switching schools maybe it's a social problem she's having with her classmates. Try asking her if anybody is bothering her at school.
2006-11-06 19:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by Rodiak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may be having a problem at school with another student or even an adult that she is scared of. it may help to have a therapist talk to her and maybe help find out what her fear is. i dont want to scare you, but In todays say and age there are o many weirdos out there, maybe your teacher doesnt know that anything is going on, I would hate to overlook anything that could be going on.
reassure your daughter no matter what the problem is or what she is afraid of youre not mad at her and only want to help her.
My step daughter when she was in 5th grade (she s now 15) had a boy at school push her down and reach up her skirt and touch her against her will. no one saw this and it scared her and she didnt tell us about it, she was so ashamed and though she had done something wrong, didnt want to go to school etc.
i wish you and your daughter luck
2006-11-07 06:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by JoAnne H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her that not going to school will get the authorities showing up at your door, so if she is afraid of something she needs to talk about it so you can see if you can do anything about it.
Maybe she's afraid of school shootings? Kids hear stuff on television. Ask if someone has bothered her in some way. If you have to set up an appointment with a psychologist. Obviously, this is something you have to get resolved.
Tell her you understand if she cannot discuss it with you but that she will have to discuss it with a counselor if you are to have something to tell the school authorities if they start getting in touch with you. Tell her if you don't take action the authorities could have you charged with neglect, and she could be put in foster care. No matter how young she is she will probably understand that you will get in trouble if you can't tell the authorities she's seeing a doctor.
(Who knows - she may start talking to you and decide to go to school too....)
2006-11-07 04:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this abrupt change in behavior indicates something is going on at school that is now making her uncomfortable.
i would get school officials involved to try and find out what is going on. i would start with the school counselor or pyschiatrist. they are trained to talk to children in a way that doesn't make them feel as if they are in trouble and are able to find out exactly what is going on.
if she is being bullied-this is a hard thing to talk to a parent about b/c it's embarrasing for most kids.
sit her down and tell her that no matter what she tells you-you love her and it's your job to protect her and make sure she is safe-even in places that you can't be with her. explain to her how important school is and that it's really hard to switch schools in the middle of the school year and she will lose all of the friends she has made. tell her you very much want to know what is happening and that no matter what-she isn't in trouble but you need to know what the problem is so you can work with the school to resolve the issue.
good luck to you
2006-11-07 05:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by prncessang228 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking to her teacher, is not talking to her. Obviously you don't have an open door policy with your daughter. Meaning if ever there is a problem, no matter what it can be shared. Knowing the out come, will be to resolve the issue with understanding. If someone is harassing her, she will be reluctant to confide in you. Thinking you will march up to the school, to confront the individual. Something is seriously wrong! Think back to when you were in school, share a similar experience and how it turned out. Who knows, she might see an out in discussion.
2006-11-07 09:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by jrneytime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There might be many reasons...either she was scolded for not doing her homework or bieng constantly bullied by her friends or some guys are disturbing her etc etc...you first talk to her friends and ask them if something wrong happened in school else try getting it out of your daughter...assure that you are not gonna scold her if she did anything wrong and get it out...then decide what can be done on the situation....if things are worse you may need to change the school or a mere assurance that you will help her in the situation itself will help!! All the Best :)
2006-11-07 04:15:19 · answer #6 · answered by Harish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there something bothering her such as is she being bullied or has there been a change in situation at home, you need to explain to her that she has to go try helping out one morning in her class, most teachers will be grateful of that you could also try talking to the head or deputy if the teacher cant help
2006-11-07 07:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by JULIE S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's the possibility,that she's being bothered by a "Bully.
Is there someone else (like maybe an adult),who follows her or bothers her,while she's on her way to school?. Your answer will only come from her!. Gain her trust,and start looking for other signs likes: Nightmares,fear of certains animals-like dogs,not wanting to be with anyone,but you!. There are so many signals,that you can't count them all,but she is going to have to "Open-up" to you,in order for you to understand what's going on.
2006-11-07 03:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not interested in going to the same school or not interested in going to any of the schools. First find out with her, if she is interested in going to the other school, then it is very clear that there
is a problem in the existing school. Because if she is not interested at all in going to school, then you would have faced the problem, three years back itself. I hope this will help you out to solve your problem. I wish good luck for your daughter.
2006-11-07 04:05:02 · answer #9 · answered by sriram_rahi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the teacher is no help, schedule a conference with the Dean of Students or the Principal.
Talk to your daughter and try to get her to explain to you what she is so afraid of. Is someone picking on her?
2006-11-07 08:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there could be something going on ...or....... she could just be testing her boundries with you....... in that case you drive her up to the school carry drag what ever to the school and deposit her with a teacher or in the office......or perhaps the police can help..... or you can speak with her friends.... if you dont know of any friends that might be the problem.....if it continues and you arent getting any answers maybe you should have her talk with another family member .. ect someone she might feel comfortable talking to or get counseling
2006-11-07 12:25:59 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋