have you become attached to someone you met over the net??

Question

sometimes we meet really interesting people on the internet chat rooms and become very good freinds (well i have anyway)

after chatting to them for months on end would it be wrng to feel attached to them even though you have never met this person..... should you meet this personas they are really eager to ......(ive been told its very dangerous)
what do you do

Answer 1

I don't get it when people say things like "Oh, you don't know who people are on the net - the could be rapists or paedophiles". If you went to a bar, can you positively say for certain that the man who's offered you a drink isn't a rapist or a paedophile? Or the man that takes your fancy isn't a serial killer / stalker / molester? If your image of a typical criminal is one of a guy with shaven head, big scar across his face and "L-O-V-E" and "H-A-T-E" tattooed on his knuckles, then you're just naive.

My wife and I met on the net. We corresponded for some time before actually meeting up. But once we met, we got on really well and as far as relationships go, it's what you do together and the time you spend together that counts, not how you meet.

Of course precautions should be heeded, hence the need for time to know each other by writing. If you feel funny or suspiscious about anything that is said in emails or messages, trust your instincts and err on the side of caution. Most of all, give it as much time as you feel you need before meeting up for real, and reassess things once you have.

Good luck and have fun!

Answer 2

Yes and we are now married with a baby girl.He is my soul mate.I think its better that we did chat on the internet and got to know each other before we met but when we did we just clicked.We lived 320 miles apart and probably would never have met otherwise.But be care ful though as some people arent like this always meet somewhere public and let someone know where you are going and what time you will be back

Answer 3

A person should be exremley careful what they do. I am talking from experiance. The thing with falling for someone on the net is that you get sucked into it very easily. A guy may or may not feel the same about a girl as she does for him but If they have not met then they can't say they have fallen for eachother, They have both fallen for the idea of what the other person is "really like" They also need to remember that this person could be totally diferent in reality than they are in cyberspace. A person should meet up with their interest before they fall too deep..

Answer 4

I married someone I met in a chatroom. They were from the States, I was from England, so they moved here to be with me.

It was a massive, massive mistake...

But I have been on loads of other dates with people I met through dating sites, and met my current partner that way.

So I think it's like any other way of meeting people, some relationships or friendships will turn out great, others won't. As long as you observe some sensible safety precautions, like meeting in a public place, having your phone with you, telling someone else where you're going etc, I can't see how it's any more dangerous than hooking up again with someone you met once in a pub, got talking to at an art gallery, or came into contact with any other way.

Answer 5

I would echo all the other comments - you need to take care in the usual ways, there are some losers out there - but there are losers in pubs and clubs. Don't take too much notice of the extremes (i.e. the stories or marriage and the horror stories) - most relationships, on-line or elsewhere, are somewhere between the two. I do think it is easy to get 'over-attached' too quickly, but actually meeting might have a beneficial effect on that, reminding you that this person is real and has all the usual faults - we can all hide our faults on here, can't we boys and girls ? x Go for it - with sensible precautions - and good luck.

Answer 6

ok i made a really good friend on the net, that was about 7-8 years ago when msn messenger chatting was all new.

we used to chat everyday, share what happened during the day. i wont call it love but attachment yes, i felt the need of sharing my ups and downs with him. anyway, really nice guy, he was in the same country as me and after talking for about 1 and half years, we thought, maybe we should meet. and guess what - we really didnt like each other in person. i thought he was way too cocky and 'mr know it all' and i couldnt believe it was the same guy i was chatting with last year...

i guess that happened coz over time you make an image of this person in your head and he turns out to be different.

depends how you feel about this person, yeah if you feel like meeting him, then you should but all i would say is dont expect anything - dont expect it to go anywhere, just go with an open mind, like you know nothing about this person

good luck

Answer 7

One of my best friends is someone I initially met online through a club that held a mutual interest for us. However, I did meet her in person at a conference (with lots of other people around) and got a chance to know her. We've also chatted on the phone quite a bit.

I would be cautious. I also had one "friend" who turned out to be a complete psycho. People can pretend to be anything they want when a computer screen hides them.

Answer 8

i chat to many people on the net,yes you do sometimes become attatched,i suppose it depends on what yr looking for,attatched for me is just a case of if i aint heard from them in a while i often worry were are they i hope there ok etc.

It can be dangerous to meet people off the net as you dont know what yr walking into but if you meet up in a public place for a coffee and a chat and dont accept a lift anywere then you should be fine good luck xx

Answer 9

I met a couple thru an online game and we've become good friends altho we have yet to meet. they just had their first baby and i've made a blanket to send to them and when her internet went down about two months ago we were thankful we'd exchanged addresses as we wrote to one another!

Sometimes it can be dangerous tho and if you are planning on meeting someone you met online take a chaperone and tell people where you are going and what time you expect to be back. be sensible and don't put yourself at risk.

Answer 10

If attachment only occurred with sight inspection of your mate, then the Dating Game players and blind people would never have the feeling of attachment. Of course a relationship takes place in many more dimensions than merely matters of looks.