Am i "depressed"??

Question

ok so im a bit wary of putting this all up here but i dont know where else to turn.
I hate my life.
I lost my job.
Im in debt up to my eyeballs (ive tried Debt management companies but i cant eve afford their repayments!)
My partner does nothing but annoy me
I dont get on with my parents (never have)
I hate where i live
Sometimes i wish id never had my daughter who is nearly 2
I hate looking in a mirror
I hate even seeing my name written down
I just want to stop it all and have a fresh start......
When i go to the Drs, i break down and i just dont tell them half of what is in my head, coz i know im taking up their time and prob dont want to see a 27 year old woman in floods of tears in their office.
Im scared that if i do tell them everything they will lock me up as a complete loon.
WHat should i do?

Answer 1

yes, it sounds like you are depressed. maybe you could think about counceling. it might help to just talk to someone about your problems.

Answer 2

Firstly dont be scared that they will lock u up .. you will only be sectioned under the mental health act if u are a threat to ur own or someone elses life .
It does sound like u are depressed .. the doctor is there to help even if it takes and hr of their time ..sit and talk to them , tell them every thing .
If ur debts are that bad contact the Citizens Advice , they can give u impartial advice .. You could go bankrupt , a friend of mine did she owed nearly 20 grand, yes she had to go to court and state why she was in this mess , but believe me she is happier for it . i think it cost about £400 to go bankrupt . She was discharged from bankruptcy after 12 months .. her life is so much easier ( although if u own a property i would think wisely b4 doing it )
You have problems with ur self esteem due to ur depression , once the doctor has recognised they will either get u to c a councillor or prescribe drugs .. and the drugs do work .. i know because i am also on them , yes it will take about a month . but u will see the light at the end of the tunnel
It is common that we want to push away the people most close to us at a time when we are feeling low .. but in time u will feel differently
i hope this helps :o)

Answer 3

What a sad story, my heart goes out to you right now. You do sound depressed, but depression can take on many forms - so stop labelling yourself, you will not be seen as a loon, just someone who really needs some professional help. Top priority is to get yourself back to your GP and tell him/her exactly how you are feeling. Print off your question and hand it to them if you're not sure what to say - it Say's it all for you. You have a daughter who is totally dependant on you and your partner, you have got to get yourself better for her sake - she really needs you. Your situation will only get worse until you seek some help - you've made the first brave step by asking Yahoo. You know yourself that you are not well - there is no shame in being ill, if you had a broken leg you'd go and get it fixed wouldn't you? Depression is a valid illness that can require medication amongst others things. Once you start to feel better within yourself, then you'll be able to tackle all the other things on your list that seem to be causing you problems - simply because you'll feel stronger. I've been there, and I know how hard it is. Just take one step at a time, you can get through it - just not by yourself. Take care.

Answer 4

Go back to Doctors and have a good cry and get it all out in the open. You are definately depressed and you can get help for it. I was given medication because everything was getting on top of me - just like you -and they really do work. Taking something to help doesnt mean you are going to end up addicted. I'm now taking my little tablet every day and just getting on with it.
You know - when Im feeling really down I just think of those that are really in a true state at the moment. People suffering with terminal illnesses - in which I know of some. It makes you wake up a little and notice that lifes not so bad.
Remember, you can always declare yourself bankrupt and clear the debt issue..........you can always move on without your partner as you obvioulsy don't love him that much anymore......you can always contact your parents and at least make some good with them even if you still cant stand them much. You can always move to a different area..........some people offer great jobs accommodation and most importantly, dont ever hate looking in the mirror..........You obviously have very low self esteem. Lock yourself in the bathroom and give yourself the best pampering session you can. I promise you will feel immediately better.
Whatever you choose to do................I think we all forget sometimes that it is 'we' who are in charge of our own destiny and if you really want something..............go make it happen!
Good luck!

Answer 5

I once had the same symptons, but without the debt, the daughter and the annoying partner, and thought I was depressed, but it just turned out I was manically unhappy. SLIGHT difference.

So you hate your life: change it.
Tell your partner how you feel. Get him to take a week off work so you can both have a bonding session with your daughter. If you find you can't be genuinely happy, then yes, you're probably depressed. But if you get to be quite happy, make some changes. By the way, if your daughter is reaching the age of two, well, it's called the terrible two's for a reason. It's just a stage. Partner annoys you? I think they annoy everyone to be honest.

Don't like your reflection? Get a haircut. Don't like your name? Change it. Think your doctor won't want to see you cry? Well look at it this way, who are they going to tell? Patient doctor confidentiality, you learn to love it. And if you really are depressed, the only way you're going to get prozac is by telling them the truth.

As for your money problems, by the time I've finished uni, I'm going to be at the very least, £21,000 in debt. But you know what? I couldn't give a stuff. It's just money after all. Bits of paper, scraps of metal and numbers printed or scratched all over them. Money is money is money. It's not important. Just keep trundling along, get as many application forms as possible for various jobs, even if they sound menial and pathetic. I find that having a small job, even if it's pathetic, is better than having no job at all, because at least you are getting some sort of money in.

And no one's going to lock you away. My ex-bestfriend had voices in her head, she still does, but you know what? She's allowed to wonder among the living, no one locked her away and no one ever will. Depression isn't quite sane mindedness, but it doesn't mean you belong in an asylum. Some very lucky people with depression can actually understand things more clearly with their condition. Another old friend of mine was like this. He did some strange things but later on we found out that he was always right to do so.

So to summarise... if you're unhappy, do something about it, if you're depressed, see a doctor, and be honest.

Answer 6

I think you are depressed and need help.
your Doctor should have spotted this if your are "breaking down" when you see him/her.
ask to see another Doctor .maybe you would feel more comfortable with a female doc.
they won`t think your a loon" but they will give you the help you need.
I am a fellow suffer with many of the same problems and have been for sometime so I do know what your going through.
your daughter needs her mom so PLEASE talk to someone ASAP.
maybe a good friend would be willing to help?
A call to the Samaritans may help because the service is completely confidential (you dont have to be suicidal for these (excellent) people to listen)
Hope everything works out for you xxx

Answer 7

It sounds like you are gong through some tough times and need to evaluate what you really want out of life. What can you let go of, and what is really important to you? It's easy to feel sad and frustrated when you don't feel as though you're moving forward in life. You'd be amazed at what finding a goal and taking steps towards it can do for your whole outlook.

It's good to talk to someone, but this is really more about you being honest with yourself. You need to know that you have the ultimate control over your life experience. You need to know that the bad things in your life aren't so bad because you chose them. There is a reason for every choice we make. If the reason isn't worth it, make a different choice.

Answer 8

Darling, you're not a loon. You're just stressed to bits!

What you really need to do to start with is find yourself a new doctor! I'm not saying any doctors are bad..it's just that you need one that suits YOUR personality & needs!
Then you'll feel safe to tell all & know you won't be locked up.
Not that you would be if what you've written is the truth. I'd be bawling & climbing the walls in your situation too!
Hang on..I've been there! All except for the "I hate seeing my name written down"..I couldn't look.

I finally had a fab doctor who told me I was stressed & depressed rather than just writing me endless prescriptions for drugs that I would never fill. I denied depression (staunch cow!), so he just smiled, gave me a hug & a brochure to take home & read.
The following week I was back in his surgery & blubbing like a baby (stupid brochure)..very embarrassing!

My honey of a doctor spent the time with me discussing alternative treatments rather than racing straight into anti-depressants. We talked about my circumstances. In the end we agreed that I would take a 6-month course of anti-depressants & he referred me to a counsellor.

It took a while for me to pull myself together, with a lot of help from good medical professionals, some special friends, & a couple of awesome family members.

Honestly, don't be scared to go 'shopping' for a good doctor for you!
HONESTLY, you're not crazy or a loon!

Answer 9

I wouldn't say so-This is all fixable-Depression is when you can't fix it-
I do think you are low and don't have anything good to aim for right now-
You have to turn it around
Being positive is a good start and so is asking for help-
However I wouldn't start taking anti-depressents cos that just hides what's going on-
Depression is an inverted state of mind-Being positive is the only thing to change it-
As for the debts and being out of work-If you don't own your home then I would recommend bankruptcy-Cos you will end up with bad credit anyway if you don't make the repayments-I did it and it changed my life-I got a fresh start.
Make changes and your life will feel so different-

I have 3 girls-In January I had to leave my home and alll our belongings cos my ex was violent-
I went into a refuge 200 miles away-
I got rehoused and started from scratch-
I was suffering from postnatal depression as baby was 5 months old and I'd recently seen a woman run over by 3 cars-
I cut off all contact with my ex,filed for divorce and bankruptcy-
Then I started thinking about what I wanted to do-The first thing was a holiday-so I saved up and took my girls away-Then I booked driving lessons-Bit by bit It all got clearer and I felt better.
I am now thinking about having a nice Xmas,my driving test is in 4 weeks and I'm going to start my law degree next year with the Open University.


You can do it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

ok.... first of all take a nice deep breath... relax, it sounds like your just unhappy with your life at the moment and there are lots of simple things to do make it 100 times better!
now im not going to try tell you what to do but ill give you an example of what i did,
i was in the same situation,
1stly i sold my house, it wasnt worth all the pressure i was under, we bought a smaller house a bit further out of town instead, then i quit my job, i was working as an accounts manager and had only meant to work there a few months while i figured out what i wanted to do with my life, i ended up working there 3 yrs, i figured out what i wanted to do and got a job doing that, i also joined a gym so i was healthier, happier from excercising and meeting new people, its hard when your an adult.
i had been unhappy in my relationship before, partly i was jealous because he had everything he wanted, he loved his job etc. when i got my new job and was going out more things where a lot better, i was content inmyself and more independant.

i hope this has helped you, people use the term depressed way to much, al it is is an excuse to feel sorry for yourself and not do anything about it, just decide what you want and go for it, it may look hard before you start, but i promise its not and its worth it in the end!

Answer 11

talk to someone...you need to get how you feel out in the open with someone not connected to you. if you dont feel comfortable talking to a doctor about this, you could try the samaritans, or even a counseller. bottling it all up like this will do you no good at all (trust me). speak to someone impartial and then eventually when you have got your head around these issues you will be able to discuss things with your family/partner/friends.

with the debts, try talking to the citizens advice bureau...they may be able to help...

you're not a loon...you just have a hell of a lot on your plate...

good luck

ps. in my view dont take medication for this...that will only be tackling the symptom not the problem