i owe my dad's ex gf money, but i dont think i should pay her.?

Question

my dad invited me and my bf to go to jamaica this past march.we had to pay $1000 each.and we did.it paid for all airfare,hoteland food expenses.we had to meet at my bf's parent house because we all lived fairly far away and that was the closest place to the airport.so we did..i was there nice and early and so was my bf.but my dad and his gf were late because his gf wasnt ready to go.we ended up missing our plane by 5 mins so we had to get new plane tickets which were $280 a piece...we didnt bring any credit cards or other ways of paying so my dads gf charged them to her credit card and we said we'd pay her back.well about 2 weeks after the vacation my dad and hisgf broke up and she wont talk to him, wont return his calls.before they broke up she asked for my phonenumber so we could pay her and she got it.she hasnt called me yet but my dadmisses her and thinks she wont talk to him because we and i owe her the money for the tickets.she hasnt called me. wouldnt she call if she wanted it?

we werent late to the plane its self...we were late getting to the airport...we all car pooled and thats where the tardiness ties in. we had a hour drive to chicago

Answer 1

Her fault you missed the plane! That should be her forfeit!

Nothing to do with your dad. She obviously wanted a free holiday which has now cost her $1200! Hard luck!

Answer 2

Don't be surprised if she takes u in front of Judge Judy, U'll definitely lose. U made an oral and binding contract to repay her and so U R obligated by that oral contract. On the other hand U can also counter sue and add that she owes u the extra $280. / ticket because she made u miss ur plane, but Me thinks u'll lose that one too on the fact that u and ur BF r grown and could've gotten on ur plane and met them later at the airport in Jamaica or at another designated place since u were going to the same island and it really ain't that big. Either way sorry u lose and u need to pay up. Whatever happens between her and ur father is none of ur business and has nothing to do with ur agreement to pay. Be the bigger woman pay ur debt don't wait for her to call u. Do the right thing U'll be blessed in the long run she might even still want to have a friendship with u and ur BF for yrs to come.

Answer 3

I'm thinking that because she was the reason for you missing the plane you feel you shouldnt pay, what was stopping you from leaving for the airport yourselfs.

Also you mention she broke up with your dad two weeks after the holiday and she wont talk to him, it could well be the money you owe her that is the problem, why should she call you, you owe her the money. I would be pretty pissed off if my partners daughter did that to me, and its not up to your dad to bail you out either.

Sorry but I feel you are the one in the wrong here.

Answer 4

I feel that you should call her and ask her about paying back the money you & your bf owes her. Whatever is between your dad and her is between your dad and her.
For all you know, she may need the money more than you do and you did tell her that you were gonna pay her back. For all you know, she may be thinking - if his daughter is able to do something like this, maybe he's not such a bad person after all..
Now, go pick up the fone and call her.

Answer 5

I agree with just about everyone else here and you should pay her back.

The situation between your dad and her shouldn't come into it, that's a separate issue.

The woman loaned you the money in good faith at a time where the relationship between the two of you was very good so you should pay her for that reason alone.

Besides that, she did help you out of a really bad spot where you'd have some real hassle if you didn't have the money for the tickets.

You not only owe her financially, you owe her from a moral point of view.

Answer 6

Your father thinks his girlfriend won't talk to him because you and your boyfriend have not yet paid this girlfriend $560? If that's true, your father is better off without this shallow girlfriend. However, you told her you would pay her. She is still out $560 which she put on her own credit card...no one asked her to do this. Even though you guys missed the plane due to her tardiness, I think you still need to follow through on what you said you would do...regardless of whether she has called you or not. Waiting for her to call you sounds a bit like manipulation on your part..."I know I owe her this money, but I'm not going to pay it back to her until she calls me even though we all know my boyfriend and I owe her this money."

Answer 7

really it is the debtor who should contact the creditor, so to speak,it is the polite thing to do,,you point is a valid one though,,it was unfortunate that this trip was delayed by her especially as the trip cost so much in the first place BUT,without her contribution,you wouldnt have been there at all would you,,it would seem fair that you pay her back the money ,maybe you could contact her and offer to pay half after discussing the reason you think you should not have to foot all of the cost as it was her who increased it in the first place,,she may say no,,she wants it all but abandoned debt never just goes away,,the next thing you know your name is mud all over town as she has told everyone you dont pay your debts,,thats just how it works.call her.

Answer 8

That's a tough 1! I think you should pay her as you'd told her you would. you could have got on the plane and saw them at the other end couldn't you. And as for her not getting back with your dad i think hes clutching at straws and looking for some1 to blame. Is she desperately needed the money she would have called. why don't you be the bigger person and send her a cheque for your part. You would then not be wondering. Good luck in all you decide.

Answer 9

These people aren't looking at the big picture.

In situations like that, you wait for nobody because you are responsible for getting yourself to the airport on time so things like these don't happen, (mistakes are expensive) you were not the one who was late and your boyfriend, she was, therefore your dad was the one to wait for her not you, you should've left and met up at the hotel, you could've hung out at the restaurant, if this would've been a business trip and your boss was late, then guess who would've paid. him or her, it is their responsibility, it's just like when someone causes an accident, it's their mistake and their fault not yours, of course she had to pay, she caused all the trouble, perhaps your dad is better off without her, high maintenance women are nothing but drama,
Let me guess: She was running late because she wasn't finished doing her hair and make up, I bet you anything that was the reason, (I could be wrong) I wouldn't pay her, you should've stood up for yourself and your boyfriend, money doesn't grow on trees and especially if you are going on a budget, it sounds that way. Anyway, don't sweat it, tell your dad it was her fault, so she had to pay for her costly mistake of being late. psst
(tell him nicely)

Answer 10

That is really awkward for you. I can understand not wanting to pay her, I wouldn't want to either, especially if she instigated the break up with your Dad, but I guess if you said u'd pay her back, really you should do. I would be tempted to text her and say something like, 'I know I owe you £X for the plane tickets, can you let my Dad know how you want us to pay you. If we do not hear from you by Friday, I will assume you are happy to cover the costs.' That way, she can't say you tried not to pay her.

Hope it all works out.

Answer 11

If you have any morals or standards, you will pay her back!!
Regardless of the situation, your word is your word. If you said you would pay her back - pay her. If she says "No, it's OK, my treat" then your conscience is clear, and you know that there is no unfinished "stuff" between you and her. If you had credit cards or money with you, you would have paid for it yourself anyway. It's got nothing to do with you or the money why she and your Dad broke-up.