Hi there!
I just got asked out on a date by this guy I don't know very well, but who has always seemed super sweet. I'm excited, but nervous, as I am just coming out of an intense yearlong relationship. Its been 6 weeks and I've done a great job doing everything I need to do to move on. But as many of you know, some days are better than others.
I really feel like I want to give this new guy a chance, but I'm worried about being fake or insincere. I'm also not one to bring up the past too soon with a new guy, but maybe thats the right thing to do? What do you think?
I heard that if you're with the right person, it doesn't matter how recent your past is...do you think this is true? Or am I kidding myself and I really just need more time? In which case, should I just come out clean with this guy and ask if we can just be friends for now and check back with eachother in a bit before dating?
2006-11-06 18:15:14 · 7 answers · asked by SummerPixie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whether you're ready or not can not be answered by anyone here. You're having doubts which is normal at the beginning of any relationship, but even more common with a recent break up.
Be honest with the guy about recently getting out of something serious. If you like him, tell him you just wanna take things slow.
Don't worry about your past or rush into talking to him about it. When it feels right and the trust has built between you two, it will feel right.
Be cautious, but don't be distant! Be sincere, don't be fake! Be honest, but not revealing!
Good luck!
2006-11-06 18:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're still having bad days from missing the ex, maybe it IS too soon to move on....everyone talks about their exes eventually, quick, brief spiels, not waxing poetry but not until atleast like the 4-5 dates....so if it's just the first date, just go out, see how things go, you should see then whether you think you can move on and whether or not he's the right one
2006-11-07 02:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by evers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on individual. Some guys is able to accept it while the others are unable. So whether you should tell him your past depends on yourself and the character of the guy and not by anyone of us.
You're having some fear due to your failure in the past but don't let the fear caused your new relations to fail. A lot of us let the fear factor in us to hold us back even though we are in new relationship.
I believe you need more time to let the relation to stabilize before you get into serious relationship. As whether to be truthful to the guy depends on yourself and the character of the guy.
2006-11-07 05:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the past just what it is.....the past. guys don't want to hear u ramble on about some other dude. he will think that u still have feelings for the guy. trust me, let it go. good luck!
2006-11-07 02:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by Kimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Alyssa T
2006-11-07 02:21:22 · answer #5 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you bring up the past? it's past right? Never tell your past unless you can tell it to your mother.
2006-11-07 02:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you wanna get dumped
2006-11-07 02:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by Lyss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋